How To Guide to Webcam Sex

Webcam Sex: How To

Maybe you just can't get enough of each other, feel a little bored at the office, still want a little action with your partner while you and your partner are away on separate vacations, or perhaps you are trying to make a long distance relationship work. Whatever the reason, tech sex appeals to our generation, and webcam sex takes phone sex to a whole new and exciting level.

There are several common concerns when it comes to webcam sex that leaves couples opting out and unfortunately, missing out! Among these, the biggest concerns that we hear from both men and women are feeling shy or nervous and not being sure how to get things started.

Consider yourself warned!

First we need to talk about trust. While trust and communication are the cornerstones to any good relationship, jumping into the realm of online sex, requires that much more of it. In order to bare it all over a live internet connection, you need to feel safe and certain that your private and intimate encounter will be viewed and kept as such... so make sure to establish your ground rules on taking screenshots, or recording the video feeds in advance.

If there is any doubt in your mind about this, we would urge you to reconsider going for it, since the last thing anyone wants is their body and private life shared without their consent. Assuming trust is well established, we can start to think about getting comfortable. If you're extremely nervous about where to begin, sending each other dirty texts with photos can be a great way to get your feet (and other parts) wet without the intimidation of real-time video feeds.

Before you begin

As you probably imagined, you're going to need software... and there is no shortage of options if you don't already have something in place. In light of the latest PRISM scandal, we are a little weary of making any specific recommendations, but if you do a search for: video chat software comparison, you can find the system that is right for you.

Once you have your software ready, you need to remember that of the five senses that are normally used during the process of arousal and excitement, only sight and hearing are available. Consequently, it's important that these two senses are used to their fullest potential. Let´s go over some ways in which you can do so:

Lighting - If you aren't comfortable with bright lights, make sure to not overdo the dim / candle light approach - as most video feeds are not the highest quality!

Background Music - Although it's often nice to have some music playing in the background, it has a tendency to come through muffled and distorted. Further, excessive noise may result in feedback loops, so make sure to find the right level before you begin!

Internet Connection - Choppy video, or worse yet, disconnections, will not be adding to the experience, so make sure to turn off any torrent programs, or other bandwidth hogs before you start!

Dirty Talk - Although not essential, talking dirty can make the experience a lot hotter. If you find this intimidating, check out our articles on Dirty Talk Basics and Dirty Talk Advanced to learn.

Lingerie / Clothing - There is nothing stopping you from showing up to your session buck naked and ready to go, though being dressed up can provide a strip tease style approach to get the ball rolling.

Props - Sex toys and other props can offer some diversity to your virtual date, so bring them out if you have them, or go get some if you don't ;)! Also, sex toys that can be controlled over the internet are available, so have a look at what's out there, or stay tuned for reviews in the near future!

Performance Time

There are many ways to start your internet encounter, though doing stripteases for each other can be a great way to break the ice if you don't arrive to your date naked. If you aren't already experienced in putting on a strip tease, don't fret, we have guides for both him and her! You can both go at the same time, though we recommend taking turns so you get a chance to take in all of your partner's sexy moves.

Now that you're both naked, how to proceed is entirely up to you. If you are feeling a little bashful, you can direct the camera to your privates and put on shows for each other, or you can get into some dirty talk and tell your partner what you want them to do... However you want to proceed, unlike your regular sexy time with your partner, you can't touch each other during a webcam date... so masturbating for each other is essential for having have a great time. Make sure to check out our section on masturbation for ideas on what you can do to put on the best show you can for each other.

Once you get comfortable with this type of encounter, you can always kick it up a notch with some role play, or fulfilling any fantasies (His Top Sexual Fantasies and Her Top Sexual Fantasies) either of you may have... And, before we forget, if you are feeling extra adventurous, you can always invite more people to join in a video conference chat, or be in the same room as your partner having video chat sex with another person, couple, or more!

Curtains Down...

Once you've talked it out, prepped and prepared everything from behind the scenes, its Lights, computer, aaaaand ACTION! Relax and enjoy as you watch the experience unfold. When it's all said and done, we're willing to bet at least one of you will be be begging for an encore!