Sex toy is better than sex

Q. Before I met my boyfriend, my friend had convinced me to buy a vibrator, a very wise buy I might add! I told my boyfriend about it early in our relationship and he used it on me. It was awesome. We had started having sex by then and I hate to say it, but my vibrator has been doing a better job than my boyfriend has. He got me a bigger and better one for my birthday and I would rather use that than him! I want him to be able to have longer stamina and be able to perform sex much better... How do I tell him this without hurting his ego?


A. Sex toys can be great fun within a relationship – but they should be an enhancement, not a replacement, to your sex-life. It is possible that you have become so focussed on your toy-play that you are not giving enough focus to what you can personally do to improve sex with your boyfriend. You imply that you have just started having sex with him. If this is his first experience of sex it may be a mixture of nerves, inexperience, and lack of knowledge that is causing the problems. The solution requires some effort from him to educate himself - and some patience and encouragement on your part to help him do so.

Communication is key to success here; you can express that you would both benefit from a better knowledge of how to improve your game. Encourage him to read our Sex Basics articles as well as some of our more ‘advanced’ articles on ways to improve his performance; such as Fingering, G-Spot Stimulation, Cunnilingus and Female Orgasm - as well as Lasting Longer (with regard to your concerns about his stamina). In order not to hurt his ego why not explore the site together as a joint learning experience to pick up some tips as to how you can improve the experience for him also.

Continue to involve your boyfriend in your toy-play so that it can be a joint source of fun and intimacy. Perhaps include some male toys in your collection so that you can both enjoy using them on each other. See our Sex Toy articles and reviews for ideas on toys you might both like to try.

Vibes: Addicting

Be careful sweetie... I've been masturbating with electric toothbrushes, water, and vibes for as long as I can remember and it has desensitzed to the point where it takes MUCH longer for me to even have a shadow of the kind of orgasm that I get with a toy. Well, at least it did.

Since I realized that I was having a different kind of O with my guy (extended), it has relieved alot of stress and I come much more easily now. I am still unable to fully climax, but I'm 99.9% positive that it's because it's so hard for me to get fully comfortable and relaxed with someone. I'm working on it though!

With the use of sex toys

With the use of sex toys with your partner this will spice up your sex life, and allow you to get into a relaxed state of mind. Sex toys help fill the some fantasies that some couples have without cheating.

Looking to spice up your sex

Looking to spice up your sex life with a sex toy? They can be a lot of fun, but the wide variety of sex toys out there can leave you feeling overwhelmed and even more so if you’ve never used a sex toy with your partner. Here are a few ideas that will spark your curiosity and leave you both feeling thoroughly fulfilled.
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