Tips for overcoming size anxiety

3 Tips for Size Anxiety

Written by Daniel Rose, author of the

Have you ever been watching porn, and thought, “Wow - that guy’s cock is HUGE!” Then you saw how the woman seemed to be moaning in orgasmic ecstasy, and you thought, “Wow - I wish I had a twelve inch long penis too, so I could give women orgasms like that!” I think we’ve all been there, myself included. I’m a below average sized guy myself, and I used to have a lot of insecurities about how big I was. I thought that the only way to give women orgasms was to have a huge penis – that this was the only thing women really wanted.

Later I would find out just how completely wrong this thinking was. In fact, I would find out that there are actually a lot of advantages to having a smaller penis. And you can give women multiple orgasms even if you’re below average sized – you just have to know how to do it.

So here are three ways that you can make her cum harder and more often, even if you’re not hung like an elephant:

#1 – Learn How To Turn Her On With Dominance

As guys, we typically think that a bigger penis just feels better physically for a woman. We think that a bigger penis 'hits the right spots', and this is why women prefer them.

In reality, this is not entirely true. For many women a larger penis is actually physically LESS pleasurable. It is just psychologically attractive and exciting to her to be with a guy with a big penis. You can see this from women's preferences in sex toys. The vast majority of all dildos sold to women are the size of an average male penis or smaller (between 3-5”). That’s because this is the size that is physically ideal to make most women cum. And that’s also why the 12” monster dongs are relegated to the joke aisle – very few women could actually find something that size physically pleasurable.

That said, there is an appeal to a guy with a bigger penis; he seems more dominant, and women find that sexually exciting. And while it might not be ideal physically, psychologically this turns her on.

The good news – the size of your penis is only a SMALL part of how sexually dominant you are. If you can learn sexual skills to dominate her, these will turn her on MANY TIMES more than even the largest penis could.

This is why I say for men who are smaller than average, it’s CRITICAL to learn how to turn a woman on with masculine dominance. This includes doing things like:

  • Talking dirty to her in bed. You can refer to the basic dirty talk and advanced dirty talk articles to get you started.
  • Doing a few things to playfully 'manhandle' her during foreplay, such as spanking her or lightly biting her neck.
  • Taking the lead in bed without hesitating, or asking for her permission

#2 – Use “G-Spot” Sex Positions

Learning how to turn her on with sexual dominance will take you FAR beyond any unskilled guy with a big penis. But to make it even better, there are actually sex positions you can use which are BETTER if you have a smaller penis.

I call these positions 'G-spot sex' because you’ll be thrusting into her at an upward angle to hit her G-spot. These produce some VERY intense orgasms if you know how to do them right.

Guys with larger penises have trouble with these positions because they’ll often thrust too deep and hit her cervix, which may be uncomfortable or even painful to a woman. If you’re smaller than average, you’re perfectly shaped to hit her G-spot (which is about two inches deep into her vagina).

Here are 3 positions which are GREAT for g-spot sex:

Spooning:


Click here for more info: Spoons.

Bodyguard:


Click here for more info: Bodyguard.

Butterfly:


Click here for more info: Butterfly.

#3 – Develop Bulletproof Sexual Confidence

This is actually the MOST important thing for you to do if you have a small penis. Although learning dominance skills and G-spot sex positions are definitely important, it is many times more important that you love your body and truly believe that you’re sexually attractive.

If you don’t think that you have what it takes to please her - it’ll show, and your lack of confidence will be a HUGE turn-off. In fact, this is the most common thing that turns women off about men with small penises.

It’s a vicious cycle; you don’t think your penis is big enough to give her orgasms, so you have low sexual confidence. Due to your lack of confidence, you don’t give her orgasms, reconfirming the belief in your mind that you’re not big enough for her ... making it all the less likely!

If you are suffering from low sexual esteem, you need to realize that what’s turning her off is not your penis size, and start taking meaningful action today to develop the confidence you’ve been missing!

A great place to start is leaning sexual techniques, so make sure to soak in as much information as you can ... as knowing is half the battle!

If you’re anything like me, being on the smaller side of the ruler is something you’ve been worrying about for quite a while, so it may take a little bit of time and effort to de-activate all of the negative associations you’ve accumulated over the years. However, once you get the ball rolling, its only going to pick up speed from there ... so just start with these three first steps and you should start noticing improvement in your partner’s pleasure, as well as your own, in no time!

-Daniel Rose

This editorial has been submitted to SexInfo101.com by Daniel Rose, author of the Sex God Method ()! For more advanced sexual tips and techniques for men, including video demonstrations of techniques, make sure to check out his !

my guy never seams to make

my guy never seams to make me cum but he always gets me horny, and he does the things u have sed to dominate me but nothing is working what is wrong and what can we do?

is it normal for a 17 yr old

is it normal for a 17 yr old tu be in tha 8.5-9.5 range..........kuz wen i tld my gf how big i was she paused nd i got concerned...?? i need sum help.....

small

i thought i had a small penis but its 6 1/2 in and im only 16 so sweet thx

Have Sexual confidence - Its very important

if you're smaller than average in penis size, this is a very important aspect. Usually, penis size is not the thing that turns women off, it's the lack of confidence the man has that does have a smaller penis size. If you think you don't have what it takes to please her, it will show. If you do have a lack of confidence you simply need to take steps and actions to improve your sexual techniques. That will give you a huge boost of self-confidence in the sack.

Is it normal?

is it normal for a 15 yr old to have a less than average penis? like my girlfriend wants to have sex but i am not really sure if i can, due to the self-confidence issues about size, i know its not everything but i'm still a virgin, but she isn't so i am nervous as hell! she says it's fine, but she has had sex 6 times, and i dont know what sizes they were so i dont really know what to do. help please!!!

Penis size does not matter

Most men are consumed with the assumption that they must have a large penis in order to fully satisfy a woman. While certainly it is an advantage to be well endowed, there are many other factors that determine whether or not you are able to satisfy your woman sexually.
1. You have to dominate the session
2. Use positions aimed for the G spot
3. Sexual confidence

Bring the three above into yourself then you will be a different person who can satisfy any girl.

i am 15 and i always thought

i am 15 and i always thought that my penis was small but after seeing the average size was 5-6 inches i realized im actually above average. also it will still be growing so thats how porn can deceve people. 6 and a half is not bad in my opinion now

Because of Porn...

Because of porn I thought I was small and I had a period where I had self esteem issues. BUT... after researching just what small is, I now realize that I am actually ABOVE average in size and girth and that I have nothing to be worried about and I DID do the research to be a better lover to compensate for what I thought were my size failings, so now I have the best of both worlds to give to my lover. Porn is the devil... lol

mines

im about 7 inches thought i was small but damn not anymore thx

I have always seen myself as

I have always seen myself as small cause I do read up and watch a lot of porn. So i think I'm putting myself down by watching guys with larger than average penises and these hot women moaning from the penetration.

I do have a slightly below average penis and I have prepared myself by greatly learning and practicing foreplay skills. I can't believe how much they help out.

This article was the last straw of thinking I was too small to pleasure but no more.

thanks.

yup

shyt im seven almost eight hell my head way big my shaft thick but not to much hell im still gud dey dnt call me thundacat for nutin

Porn makes you doubt.

I do admit to watching too much porn and therefore I became doubtful about my penis size.

I wanted to do a test, so I sent 3 different women pics of my erect penis. I expected to be ridiculed and told that I was small. Instead they all loved the pics and 2 of the 3 said they made them very horny and they wanted more, they said they loved the shape and thickness of it. The third girl was a real size queen and said that she only goes for 9 inchers as a minimum, but she did say that my dick looked good and that it did make her a bit horny, she also said that it was actually a pretty average size and that she had seen many smaller ones.

I obviously do sometimes wish I was 9 inches long, but I am feeling way better now and I have some confidence back!

Dont follow Porn

Porn only inflates the issue.So dont imitate it but you can watch it for fun.

There is nothing wrong with being average

After looking at a lot of polls and statistics, the average erect penis is 5 and 1/2 inches.

Unless you're having sex with a hooker (or someone who's seen a lot of dicks), chances are average will look good to most women.

I'm in trouble

If it's true that 5 and 1/2 inches is average, then I'm in trouble. I just measured mine and it's about 3 and 1/2 inches. GOD IS CRUEL!

Nothing to be worried about

I may only be 15, but I thought I had a small dick, I had sex ONCE with a girl who has seen 6 dicks. It's all about the angle my friend, if you hit the g-spot, she will scream louder than any huge cock could ever make her. I am about 6 inches erect, but the smaller your cock is, the easier you can hit the g-spot and really rock her world ;)

im sure they mean hard, not

im sure they mean hard, not soft. And what people have to remember who watch porn is that the guys with big dicks, it looks like the girls like it bigger. BUT THESE PEOPLE ARE PROFESIONALS AT SEX. they know just what to do, and the women get used to that and the only thing that would make it better, is making it bigger. even if you are small, you can probably pleasure a woman better than a larger than average guy.

Its true, big dicks can be

Its true, big dicks can be painful for a lot of women. Its all about foreplay and getting the right angle. The G-spot is only about 3 inches in. So if you slide into a girl with her hips elevated and you sliding in at an upward angle you should push right against it and that should make her scream ;)

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