Premature Ejaculation

Premature ejaculation is one of the more common sexual dysfunctions a man can have. The good news is that it is a dilemma that can be overcome. Symptoms of the dysfunction are ejaculation before his partner is satisfied on a regular basis. It is a very subjective dysfunction, some define it to be ejaculating virtually immediately, and others define it to be under 5-10 minutes. The general rule-of-thumb definition is if you continuously ejaculate before you want, i.e. you wish you could last longer.

The most common time to experience the problem is during the first few sexual encounters. As a man conquers his anxieties, and gains more understanding of the functions of his body, the problem generally goes away. Though most men learn to control their orgasm, some develop long-term anxiety to sexual activities and show symptoms for months or years. The best way to beat the dysfunction is to have an understanding partner that you can relax with.

Conquering Premature Ejaculation

These techniques can be performed with a partner or alone. Though both will help, getting comfortable with you partner is essential to fixing the problem.

Start & Stop Technique

The primary principle of this technique is to stimulate the penis until near ejaculation, and then to stop stimulating to allow the level of excitement to drop. This exercise can be performed alone, or with a partner, and should be repeated 3 to 5 times per session. After 2-6 weeks of using this technique you should notice an improvement in your sexual stamina and will eventually not even have to use it to outlast your partner.

Squeeze Technique

Right before you feel you are about to ejaculate, approximately three or four strokes away, stop stimulating and squeeze the base of your penis by wrapping your thumb and index finger around it. Apply firm pressure, focusing on the urethra, the tube running along the underside of the penis. This lessens the tension and holds back the ejaculatory response. Be sure to apply pressure a few strokes before ejaculating, if you wait too long, it may be too late! You should be able to apply this technique anywhere along the shaft of the penis, as long as it squeezes the urethra.

Regular Masturbation

A great method for boosting sexual stamina and releasing sexual tension is regular masturbation. By masturbating more often, you can train yourself to become more used to the stimulation. As you get more and more used to it, it should start taking you progressively longer to climax.

Wearing Condoms

Many couples have claimed that wearing condoms significantly reduces the stimulation of intercourse for both partners, but especially the male. If you are not already using condoms to protect against STD's and pregnancy, try wearing them to increase your stamina.

Sex Toys

Following the same line of logic as in "Regular Masturbation" above, you can use sex toys to help you become more "immune" to the pleasure. Sex simulators are recommended over regular vibrators, but both should work. Check out the following links to learn more about sex toys and sex toy reviews.

Other Suggestions

For most couples, it takes about two to six weeks to greatly improve the situation. Once a substantial amount of gain has been made, and the above program is complete, continue to concentrate on controlling the orgasm. With time, the problem should fade away from existence.

You can develop a scale system and practice getting to particular levels, and then plateau. Create a numbering system similar to the one below, and make sure you communicate clearly.

  • Zero = a limp penis

  • Five = an erect penis with minimal sexual thoughts

  • Ten = ears being nibbled

  • Fifteen = reading sexy stories together

  • Twenty = breast stimulation

  • Forty = slow penal stimulation

  • Fifty = slow oral stimulation of your penis

  • Eighty = medium paced penal-vaginal intercourse

  • Ninety-nine = point of no return
    One Hundred = orgasm

Getting comfortable

I would say that getting comfortable with your partner is by far the best method. Anxiety and discomfort can lead to premature ejaculation and in some cases it can lead to losing an erection or being unable to orgasm.
Using sex toys is the second most effective method. Call it practicing for the big game. Sex toys can enhance sexual stamina by getting more accustomed to a high level of sensation. It also makes for a really fun personal time.

i have this problem

right i has had a few sexual partners and never really had this problem before. But with my recent girl friend i seem to come prematurly i have no idea why its just happening when im with her and it never happened before. i used to be able to last for ages now i last about 30 sec to a min. Tho i found away around it is when i come i consontrate on keeping it up i stop for about 30 sec then keep going i last alot longer the sec time. im not really sure if this is a good way of stopinging it but it works. i have tried a few other things that havent really worked like delay cream and tablets that are ment to help but they dont help at all.

Just lost my virginity a few

Just lost my virginity a few days ago. I did pretty good. I'd say first time I came was about 2 min, second time about 5, give or take. First orgasm is the quickest.

most of the time i last

most of the time i last 3-5mins idk if my anxiety makes me cum 2 fast...and when i go slowly i last 15-30mins...
but idk it doesnt work often......the best tip is to go down on her for at least 10mins ,,,

i'm 16 bout to be 17 and i

i'm 16 bout to be 17 and i only had sex with my girlfriend twice so far and most of the time i don't even last more than 2 minutes i don't know what to do about itand it has me wondering is this supposed to happen for people my age that haven't done it for the first time


So, I'm 17 years old, and I can only last about a minute, if I'm lucky. Is this normal for someone my age?


Yes It is Normal many Guys have this problem, I am 20 years old and i am still trying to figure a way to last longer. but my Girlfriend doesn't mind it because afterwards i give her seven orgasms after i get it back up.

depends on the girl i have

depends on the girl i have notice when i am with a biggger girl i can cum quick but if she smaller in body frame i usely go longer

When me and my fiance first

When me and my fiance first started having intercourse I hadn't had sex in a little over a year, and had a problem with PE big time. every time id come I would feel ashamed and "less than". A big part of this was because with every other sexual partner i had before I would last anywhere from 15 minutes to an hour without a problem.
As we had sex more and more my body just got used to the way hers felt during intercourse and that problem is a thing of the past. To any ladies out there don't give your guy a hard time (no pun intended) when he has problems in bed, work with him on them in a delicate way so as to not crush his confidence as a man. The the thing worse than coming to early, is getting ridiculed for it by the person your with.

Nothings working

I've tried alot of things to get over p e and nothing seams to work Ive been with my gf for 6 months and she says it's ok but I know it's not is there anything I can do cuz I've tried diffrent condoms the start & stop, thinkin about other things, OTC pills and everything eles plz help me

Screaming Shadow
i remember i had this real bad...

the first time me and my fiancee ever even got naked i came before she touched me. as the months went on though i came too soon but she reassured me it was ok and all that but we didnt stop doig it and while she was being reassuring she was like biting on my ears and scratching my bak hard, things i find really sexy... now 3 years alter i last as long as i need to but the solution isn't always instant. so if you dudes feel kinda awkward about this dont even worry, it gets better as you get older and as you learn more about yourself and the more your partner(s) learn about you.

don't worry.. some more tips

hey people, the more u will keep ur mind less stress, the more u will perform better.. first thing i would recommend is, have a positive attitude, control ur senses.. be optimistic.. ejaculation occurs through senses of ur mind.. some tips i would recommend which have always worked with me are: (i) keep like a candy or something in ur mouth while having sex and keep sucking it (i am not sure if that's correct word for it) or keep it on ur tongue and keep tasting it.. this would keep ur attention diverted from premature ejaculation.. (ii) another thing u can do is, start thinking about something else after penetration (when u insert ur penis).. maybe something about ur work or something.. (iii) have a positive attitude that yes, u will last long.. (iv) before u think its gonna come, (or 3-4 strokes away).. take a deep breath and hold on it as long as u can.. and (iv) all the other ways mentioned above.. also, be easy with ur partner.. talk out every problem with him/her and she would understand and help u getting there.. trust me.. take it easy :)

Start & Stop Technique

i did the Start & Stop Technique. But after i ejaculated, i was able to retain a partial erection, which i wouldn't have been able to do before, and my Gland wasn't as sensitive as it would have been before.
is this a good sign or not? o.O

me and my bf recently

me and my bf recently started having sex and it takes me a long time 2 cum like half hour or more and it takes him about 10 minutes he cant control it and wen he tries and pushes him self he goes all soft on me... how can i change dat? and is it me?

No, its not you. You could

No, its not you. You could try letting him go down on you before so you are almost there, then have sex. Just bring yourself close to orgasem before sex, so when you do have it, the timing is right.


So I'm 20. Me and my girlfriend have been having sex for like the past three months and I've consistently last at least 20 minutes each time. Then we stopped having sex for like a week because we went on a trip with our friends and now when we have sex, I don't even last 5 minutes. Can anybody help? Thanks.

Anonymous (not verified)

My boyfriend and I have been at this for 3 months, and it's not getting any better. Our max time is maybe 4 minutes. I think these exercises could be really helpful, but I don't know how to bring them up. I don't want to hurt my boyfriend's feelings. We've been together nearly 2 years, and I'm starting to become a little frustrated. Any advice from the guys reading this?

andrew johnston

trust me he probably feels the same way. just doesnt know how to bring it up either


the Best Thing He Can Probably do is Relax more, my buddy used 2 have this problem till he just went along with it. you know the motion in the ocean, May Help alot.


I have the same trouble, with not lasting long before ejaculating & have found on a few occassions to distract myself from the sexual stimulation to delay ejaculation. Though its only worked a few times (as not having had many sexual partners) this may work!!!

Anonymous (not verified)
premature ejaculation

im 18 yrs old and ave had two sexual partners ive had sex more times than i can count butt STILL cant seem to last long like once its in i can go for few seconds and thats it

Anonymous (not verified)
Erection problem

I have a little problem of erection whenever i try to last long, it does not remain fully erect and sometimes it limps to the point where i cannot even penetrate the vagina, and if i ejaculate quickly my partner does not get satisfied.

So please help me out in this situation.

Anonymous (not verified)
im having a problem in

im having a problem in having more than one session with my girlfriend ... i mean, after i come for the 1st time, i cant make it anymore ... this is causing me so much troubles with her ... is there any help!!

Anonymous (not verified)
Chances are it is pre-cum.

Chances are it is pre-cum. It's pivotal that you know that a girl can still get pregnant from pre-cum, so always put a condom on BEFORE penetration.

idk if this is normal??

ok guys heres the deal, im 15 years old i just kinda started dating this one really beautiful girl. but for some reason every time im with her i start ejaculating a little in my pants without any type of sexual activity just like holding her hand or her laying on my lap and i dont know if its just because thats normal when u start having a girlfriend or if im over-thinking sexual activity while im with her which causes me to ejaculate so could someone help me to figure out the problem?

Anonymous (not verified)
Don't worry...maybe

There is a part of sexual stimulation called "pre-cum", in which you release a minor ejaculatory experience. It should be clearer in appearance, is less in quantity and in sperm count. If you feel an ejaculation that feels different than a full ejaculation, this may be it. (In actual penatration this can cause more lubrication)