Premature ejaculation is one of the more common sexual dysfunctions a man can have. The good news is that it is a dilemma that can be overcome. Symptoms of the dysfunction are ejaculation before his partner is satisfied on a regular basis. It is a very subjective dysfunction, some define it to be ejaculating virtually immediately, and others define it to be under 5-10 minutes. The general rule-of-thumb definition is if you continuously ejaculate before you want, i.e. you wish you could last longer.
The most common time to experience the problem is during the first few sexual encounters. As a man conquers his anxieties, and gains more understanding of the functions of his body, the problem generally goes away. Though most men learn to control their orgasm, some develop long-term anxiety to sexual activities and show symptoms for months or years. The best way to beat the dysfunction is to have an understanding partner that you can relax with.
Conquering Premature Ejaculation
These techniques can be performed with a partner or alone. Though both will help, getting comfortable with you partner is essential to fixing the problem.
Start & Stop Technique
The primary principle of this technique is to stimulate the penis until near ejaculation, and then to stop stimulating to allow the level of excitement to drop. This exercise can be performed alone, or with a partner, and should be repeated 3 to 5 times per session. After 2-6 weeks of using this technique you should notice an improvement in your sexual stamina and will eventually not even have to use it to outlast your partner.
Right before you feel you are about to ejaculate, approximately three or four strokes away, stop stimulating and squeeze the base of your penis by wrapping your thumb and index finger around it. Apply firm pressure, focusing on the urethra, the tube running along the underside of the penis. This lessens the tension and holds back the ejaculatory response. Be sure to apply pressure a few strokes before ejaculating, if you wait too long, it may be too late! You should be able to apply this technique anywhere along the shaft of the penis, as long as it squeezes the urethra.
A great method for boosting sexual stamina and releasing sexual tension is regular masturbation. By masturbating more often, you can train yourself to become more used to the stimulation. As you get more and more used to it, it should start taking you progressively longer to climax.
Many couples have claimed that wearing condoms significantly reduces the stimulation of intercourse for both partners, but especially the male. If you are not already using condoms to protect against STD's and pregnancy, try wearing them to increase your stamina.
Following the same line of logic as in "Regular Masturbation" above, you can use sex toys to help you become more "immune" to the pleasure. Sex simulators are recommended over regular vibrators, but both should work. Check out the following links to learn more about sex toys and sex toy reviews.
For most couples, it takes about two to six weeks to greatly improve the situation. Once a substantial amount of gain has been made, and the above program is complete, continue to concentrate on controlling the orgasm. With time, the problem should fade away from existence.
You can develop a scale system and practice getting to particular levels, and then plateau. Create a numbering system similar to the one below, and make sure you communicate clearly.
Zero = a limp penis
Five = an erect penis with minimal sexual thoughts
Ten = ears being nibbled
Fifteen = reading sexy stories together
Twenty = breast stimulation
Forty = slow penal stimulation
Fifty = slow oral stimulation of your penis
Eighty = medium paced penal-vaginal intercourse
Ninety-nine = point of no return
One Hundred = orgasm