playing with restraints

Playing with Restraints

Using restraints is a method of bondage. Sexual beings have a natural curiosity and fascination towards bondage and the sensations that it arouses. It is a wonderful way for people to explore their sensuality as well as their physical responses to stimulation. The openness of our society towards sexual exploration makes it all the easier to experiment with what's out there.

There's something entirely sultry and exciting about handing over control to your partner. It's a sense of playfulness, teasing really; what's more, the combination of pleasure and pain can be so enthralling and exciting. The submissive submits, and for that vulnerability and trust that they offer, the 'dom' gets to be truly in charge of the sensations that the 'sub' gets to experience. There's a sense of anticipation and eagerness that is arousing for all participants. Restraints can absolutely heighten sexual response; even just seeing someone restrained can be erotic.

What actually qualifies as a restraint? It could be as simple as your sexual partner holding your arms down - or something more, perhaps being tied up, handcuffed or hogtied. Getting tied up with rope seems to be the popular medium in porn movies, but holding down your partner with your own body weight is the easiest and most often re-occurring restraint activity.

Some other items that can be used as restraints include scarves, ankle cuffs, Velcro straps and masks with ball gags - as well as full body harness systems that can deepen penetration.

How about some beginner's tips? Getting into bondage requires that you be a bit choosier with your partner. Not only should you be worried about being the one tied up, consider the implications of tying someone else up and having them freak-out during the session. Make sure you trust them because you don't want to be restrained to the point that they can snap all the compromising pictures and videos they want of you: is that the way you want to make your debut on the internet? Therefore, be careful about using restraints with people you don’t know very well. Also, make an agreement with your partner about how far you want to go before you start - and consider the use of safe signals and stop words if one of you has had enough. Start experimenting with things like blindfolding or restraining your bodies with different items.

Especially high on the priority list should be getting some varieties that allow you to easily break out of them. Once you get comfortable with these items, you can allow yourself to focus on the fantasizing - then you can really branch out.

For a more intermediate user, try out some props like your bed posts or bed frame - or even better, take it out of the bedroom altogether. Harnesses and swings are also great ideas. There are inexpensive harness systems that can really add some flavor, while swings are a really fun way to spice up your sex life and add some variety. Why not get dressed up? Bring out your leather, lingerie and boots; it all adds to the sexiness of the occasion.

For the advanced sexual pioneer, we suggest getting creative with ropes, masks or gags. Pick up a climbing or sailing book to get some tips on rope techniques. See if you can do a Full Body Tie Job, a Hogtie, or tie your partner to a chair. Try to do this as safely as you can and make sure you have something to cut it off with if you mess up on your knots.

Using restraints involves creativity, role playing and a variety of props: most of all, it can make the sex - oh - so much more fun. Everyone likes a different degree of bondage and fantasy, so make sure you don't go beyond your partner's boundaries. That can create awkward and uncomfortable feelings and could even eliminate your sexual potential altogether, so be patient!

To shop for restraints, if you are in North America please , or if you are in the U.K./Europe .

bed restraint

I recently ask my boyfriend uf he would like to try something new. He in reply said he like to tie me up and sex torture me until i couldn't take it anymore. My heart started to pound and i said hell no. We have had several conversation about it. I came across bed restraint they look temptin. Any advice on using them. I am a beginner keep that in mind.

seeing this really makes me

seeing this really makes me wish i had a boyfriend or girlfriend. im so wet just thinking about it

gfs account

my gf loves it when i tie her up above her waist so she cant buck or move . i love having the power over her and she loves me being in control . when we use restraints her pussy gets even more tight round my dick . guys do what you can to get her tied down or u tied up when my girl ties me up its so sexually frustrating seeing her dd's bouncing infront of my face or her pussy sitting on the tip of my penis and not being able to pull her down on it ..

It gets me totally turned on

It gets me totally turned on when I am tied up and the guy is in complete control. There is nothing better than the feeling of submission and being completely helpless and at the mercy of my man. Makes for some awesome f**king!

So this weekend my wife tied

So this weekend my wife tied me up to the bed. She used duct tape....not the best thing to use but it was fun all the same

Um

I have had fantasies of bieng roped and rode by the likes of Miley Cyrus or Victoria Justice but yeah I always wind up with my partner holding me down with her body weight.

inmate/officer

sooooo my man is locked up and we decided the other day that we would do role reversal cuz just the thought of the lose of control that being tied or cuffed up brings gets me going....

Sensual bondage

As weird as the subject title is, I found out this is true; there is such a thing as 'sensual bondage'. Ok, so I'm a virgin (and very proud of it) at 18 years old, will be 19 in six months, and my unofficial fiance and I REALLY love the idea of bondage, but I told him I wanted to remain a virgin until marriage, and he said he was perfectly fine with that and wanted to respect my wishes (he never pushes for sex, never bugs me to go father then I'm comfortable with {once in a while he ASKS if he can try something and if I say no he says 'ok'} and never does that 'oh common baby, I love you' crap), but we still wanted to try and see about this bondage stuff, because we really trust each-other since before we started dating two years ago, we were good friends. So when he came over one time, we decided that when my little siblings (youngest is 8) went to bed for school the next day, we were going to try it. So we grabbed the sash from my robe and he LOOSELY tied my arms around the leg of my bedside table. After that he did some awesome making out and kissing and stroking of my stomach and neck and stuff (my limit is that he can't go fully to second base {IE no mouth to breast} and no stimulation above the knee and below the waist), and omgosh it was like the best time I have had. Soooo, the next day (he was at my house for a week) I tied him to the same place and found his 'sensual spots' (like a woman's neck is sensitive or the underside of the arm, those are what we call 'sensual spots') that he didn't even know about. He said it was one of the best nights he had before (and he's had sex with is last girlfriend (it was a very serious relationship and they were thinking of getting married).

So defiantly try new things and see how you can tease and please your partner, even without full foreplay or sex. It is very sexy to feel 'helpless' with someone you love and trust, so says me, and so says him.^^

sorry

reading this was so pathetic, I'm sorry. Just do it already. Don't get married unless you know the whole package is good. Don't BE stupid.

chastity belts

i am looking for a chastity belt i saw on here a while ago. it has an insertion pipe for anal or vaginal pleasure. the tube has outside hook up to connect to a belt with clip/hooks. it can be worn under clothes all day. it is shaped like a J or U. can anyone help me????

I like it when im restrained

I like it when im restrained and he has total control..I like being oredered around

Under the bed restraint system

lookingforafit... I got the under the bed restraint system for my boyfriend and I because I don't have bed posts... I spend like 65 bucks on a really good set, but they are fantastic and we use them ALL the time. I highly suggest them! There are so many opprotunities if you get the ones with the detachable hand cuffs (like i got). HAve fun!

under the bed restraints

i'm planning on trying out the under the bed type of restraint system on our next vacation as a surprise. anyone have any advice? thanks

Cheap Bondage

Cheap bondage is your boyfriend or girlfriend using their hands to hold your wrists or even choke you. If you like being dominated, this is probably a good fetish for you. Ropes found around the home are good (unless you're in a hotel, ask for more towels, heh), but it's all about the sensation of being restrained. You don't need to purchase something that has a pretty colour and is some regular rope for like forty bucks (like at Hustler...). Household supplies around the house work just as well. Hell, if the girl has nylon tights, those work wonders.

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