Cunnilingus Basics
Performing cunnilingus can be one of the most wonderful things you can do for a woman. It makes her feel loved, admired, sexy, and has the potential to give her an exceptional Orgasm. Many women prefer it to intercourse, and for those who require a large amount of clitoral stimulation, it is the easiest way to orgasm. Besides, lots of women expect it these days and men who perform great cunnilingus are always appreciated and considered fabulous lovers.
There is little more exciting to a woman than to know that her partner finds her delicious; meaning that you enjoy the taste, smell and feeling of her vaginal juices. At the same time, there is little less exciting to a woman than to think that you don’t like the taste and smell of her most intimate region. The smell of a woman is normally fairly mild and pleasant, being quite arousing to the partner. The type and degree of smell can vary considerably from one woman to another and at different times it may be stronger (e.g. closer to her period).
If your partner has a smell that is more than you can handle, or she doesn’t feel comfortable with you down there (thinking you won’t like the smell), suggest taking a nice hot shower or bath together. See the Bathing and Showering section for more details on how to make that bathroom experience a whole lot of fun for the both of you.
Before reading further, you may want to get acquainted with this region of her body by reading the Her Erogenous Zones section and having a look at the Female Diagram.
Remember, there is almost nothing you can do that will feel bad (so long as you are gentle), so relax! Any licking and sucking of the labia, vaginal entrance, clitoris, or anal area should feel great to your partner. Also, once you find something that works, don’t stray too far away from it unless you are moving to something that works better, or if you are teasing.
Exercises
To be able to perform for extended periods of time, there are a number of exercises that can be used to strengthen the muscles in your mouth. Here are a few tongue exercises and positions for performing cunnilingus:
Exercise 1:
Stick your tongue as far out of your mouth as possible, and then try to touch your nose. Once you are in this position, hold the same muscle groups still and begin moving your tongue around. Practice in sets, moving the tongue clockwise, counterclockwise, and up and down.
Exercise 2:
With a loose jaw, point your tongue while simultaneously trying to keep your tongue in constant contact with the top and bottom your mouth. Once you are in this position, practice moving your tongue in and out of your mouth. For the more advanced student, try keeping your mouth closed and circling your tongue around inside of it, while of course, maintaining position. An extension to the advanced exercise is trying to dissolve a lifesaver held in your teeth from the inside out.
Exercise 3:
Stick your tongue straight out of your mouth, trying to keep your tongue flat and relaxed. Slowly, while holding the position, practice curling the wide tip of the tongue upward, downward and side-to-side. Practice in five sets of ten, holding each move for 2 seconds.
Exercise 4:
Keep your tongue relaxed and open your mouth. Move your tongue in and out of your mouth forwards and in both directions. Practice in five sets of twenty.
Advanced Cunnilingus Techniques
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Comments
what does pee tast like. my girl wants us to try eachothers pee one night. i said to do it in the shower but i want to know what it tasts like.
Even though pee is I think 80% or so water, I don't think that's a good idea... The best bet is that it tastes the way it smells though.
omg i got wet just reading this ,i get turned on easily if my bf was here i would fuck him so hard
Look. I can eat my girl everyday, before or after meals. I love the taste of her pussy. esp when she cum!! wonderful. think im a pro at that now. she grabs my head and pull me in, she sometimes cum so hard she screams. then I eat all the cum, gives her even more pleasure... Love the look on her face at that time because I know she feeling me.
My man has started to go's down on me more lately cause i told i LOVE it we use to not do it but now we do but he says after like 3 minutes that his tongue and jaw ect hurts i would LOVE for him to do it longer cause it feels SOOO blasted good what should i do ???????????????????/
I just wanted to reply to all of you who are really nervous about starting and doing a good job once you've decided to dive in (wink) - just TALK with your partner about your desire to proceed, but let her know you're shy about it and/or are afraid you won't do it right. I can only speak for myself, but I think it's really sweet for my partner to communicate with me than to have him *think* he knows what he's doing and end up hurting me or having me worry if I say something it will hurt his ego. And I'm not sure why, but it excites me when he shows vulnerability. It makes the sex even more pleasurable to me because we're proceeding together. (Talking during sex, especially with stuff like this, is a total turn-on for me.) And I agree w/ the author and previous posts - get some books on it and just ASK her as you're going along, "Does this feel good?... What about this?" As others have said, you'll know by her being totally into it that you're doing a good job. And if her bush bothers you, ask her to trim it. With my first partner, I was so niave I had no clue some guys preferred that. He was very sweet to gently ask me. I guess the big theme of my post here is to communicate, communicate, COMMUNICATE =)
I've never been eaten out..by choice..
but by the comments I do! But a question do guys prefer it shaved or not?? N its kinda imbarsssin to ask..lol
I would advise professional waxing instead of shaving, just based on personal experience. Never wax yourself! And it's a great feeling for you to be hairless too. I'm definitely hooked on it and can't stand to get too hairy now.
My first time and for many years after, I was always going down on her with a full bush of hair. It didn't matter to me then since I just loved eating pussy. But we started to trim and it was much nicer. I got to taste my first shaved pussy not too long ago and I must admit, it was a very nice change of pace to feel that smooth skin with no hair. But to answer your question, I prefer the shaved or closely trimmed pussy when I give oral. I also like the looks of a well maintained pubic hair area, but it doesn't need to be shaved.
Hairy or shaved it dose'ent make any difference..
i've been trying to convince my partner that eating out is an OK thing, he wants to try it but he's too scared to try. he gets to my mounds and stops... ik i don't smell bad because every time we get intimate is right after i shower. any suggestions?
just give him head and the best orgasm he wont forget and tell him to do the same to you. or say if you do me, i'll do you HARD
well.. seduce him, and educate him how to do cunnilingus. tell him what exactly would you like from him to do, and give him instructions on how to do it! if you don`t know how to do it too, then I suggest you to find some instructions on the topic. I learned a lot from a book by Jennifer Dobrowitz, but before that, I was scared as your partner is... identically :)
flavored lube lol best of luck and btw make sure ur shaved if not its a deal breaker thats why i dont go down on my girl i need a damn machette to cut it all down
I love licking my partners pussy...and she likes it as well,but I think I could be better. What can I do to get better?
try a man you might get to enjoy him he might give you everything you desire in oral sex and love yoou and respect your every wish
Do you loose respect for her after she gives you a blow job ,to me there is no difference ,alot of women call you a pervert for eating there pussy but they then must be perverts to for b j ing you, i see it as something to love and enjoy should be no name calling just enjoy the pleasure of itthere is so much to love on a woman even her sweet tight ass
Ok I am a lesbian women but my gf says she is jus not into sex I mean she has been with more women then me but we only have sex like twice a month...and even when we do have sex she now like getting head but she dnt give it that much...I dnt knw what to do you have been together for 2 years now but our sex life is a bust...is it wrong leaving someone cause they dnt like sex sometimes I think she is scared of pussy!!!!!
i don't have the balls to eat a girl out. how do i go about it for the first time? and how do i know if i'm doing it right? also, how do i get brave in a week? i let my mouth write a check my tongue can't cash.
well the best advice i can give is don't be afraid and don't think about it. just do it. but make sure she's shaved. You DO NOT want pubes on your tongue, it feels weird. and use your hands at the same time to keep it interesting. if u finger her while you lick her it'll feel good for her. and you'll know if its good by the sounds she makes. if you lick her clit(which gets really sensitive) she'll enjoy it. and as for the brave part. like i said just don't think about it. just do it.
I mostly agree here...I guess it just comes down to preference/personal likes. I would never want my wife to shave down there (and thankfully, she has no desire to). I love how her pussy smells, and the hair just makes it stink worse. I wouldn't want that to change. Besides, I think it's kinky to eat her out and then find a pubic hair in my mouth. It's always fun to watch her smile sheepishly as I pull it out.
i realy love being eaten, my bf is reall good at it. but ive always wamted to do it with a girl, im bi. that reminds me, any girls want to send me pics, my bf and me like lookin at them, message me ;)
My GF taught me how to suck her pusyy,and i really enjoyed kissing and licking her pussy.
Her moans used to drive me mad even now.
Im probably just weird but i kind of like going down on my girlfriend when she hasn't showered. I dont think id ever turn it down because it "smells bad" or is too hairy. I mean, she shaves but if it was hairy it wouldn't make a difference to me, id eat her just the same. I go down on her every single day, and i personally love the smell and taste regardless of how clean she is. I love going down on her after she has soccer or goes for a run and is all sweaty and flushed...thats just my thing
I heartily agree! I'll go down on my wife any time, day or night, regardless of how "clean" she is. In fact, I PREFER going down on her when she's "not clean," especially after a hot summer day! I love that sweaty, musty smell and taste. My wife is very hairy down there, she never shaves there, and the hair just traps the smell in. The smellier, the better! I know I'm in for a treat when I can smell her before I even pull off her panties!!
I agree. There's nothing better than going down on my wife's pussy at the end of the day, when it's all sweaty and stinks. I love having to part her long, thick, tangled and matted hair to get to her smelly pussy lips...
Why the fuck don't I ever meet men like you :(
My gf loves it when I go down on her and I love doing it, I like to tease her first all around her hot pussy but avoid the clit. Just all around and kiss her around her Arse hole. Then slowly slide my tongue onto her clit and build up the speed. She totally loves it. I always slide a finger in wiv one hand while I'm doing it and play wiv her Arse hole wiv the other. When she's closer to orgasm I slide a finger slowly into her bum. It's quite a balancing act but basically I'm down on her clit with a finger in her hot pussy and another in her sexy bum. She totally loves it and has massive orgasms when I play with her bum when I do it.
ok can someone answer a quick question for me plz? is it ok if you put your tongue in the girls pussy?
There's no rules, try it. My gf loves it but some girls don't. Just try it
Absolutely. Anything goes as long as she likes it. That's the idea. I gently lick her pussy lips and slowly let my tongue in then up and down her whole pussy flicking her clit. My wife usually spreads her legs wider when she's into it and things go on from there. Remember, the idea is to please her and enjoy the view and the taste!
i ve never eatn a girl out but i only wanna do it to sum 1 i rly like and i want to be atleast ok @ sex for my frist time ive been reading bout sex and ways to make a woman hot but i cant really get it down i have to actually try it any adivice. lol im 17
PLZ HELP i need advice
well No one is ever really good for their first time, the reason why i say that is because when you are having sex for the first time, you don't know what you really like. You have haven't tested your boundaries. when eating a woman out i like to start teasing her to get her really wet so i can enjoy her sweet juices,what i mean by teasing is to bite her neck followed by gentle kisses, our running my tongue down her body occasionally stopping for a nibble or a kiss and then when i got to her pussy i wouldn't dive right in a start eating no i would take my tongue a circle the out side of her pussy or there is bitting the inner thigh, Altoids like the mint kind you know how they make your mouth cold well it can give a women a cold sensation when you are eating her out, she will enjoy every moment of it. well hope this helps.
I really want to do this but my gf won't let me, any help please
I'm thinking about my first few times when my partner wanted to do it with me. I was shy about telling him I thought I was going to be stinky, and (this is how naive I was) I thought it was "dirty" - like guys really didn't like to do it.
I know this is a dumb Q, but have you asked her why? If she seems shy about it or just says, "I just don't want to", you can help her by saying, "I think you are beautiful... Are you worried about how you smell? Because I love the way you smell." Reassure her you will be gentle, reminding her that she likes your kisses and that's what it'll be like "down there". She may have had a really crummy experience or two before if you're not her first lover, and you have to reassure her that you'll go slow and stop if she's not enjoying it. Tell her every step of the way, reassuring her the whole time that you want to taste her and show her how pleasurable it can be. I am confident that, if you show her patience and proceed slowly, she'll come around. It's all about trust.
(And, just for me, I was never into flavored lubricants. I just like it naturally. But I'm sure there are girls out there who say they can't have it without the flavored stuff. So just ask her, but the first time I'd just to au natural to show her you just want HER.)
You can try using a wide variety of flavored gels, oils, and lubricants. Some of these products heat up when rubbed to add extra stimulation. You can also use these to add to your own fantasies. A mint, as long as it is not too weak or strong, can create a very intense tingling sensation to enhance your performance.
I'm not sure I'd like to get eaten out... Yeah, yeah, I bet it feels amazing (so I've read) but... It's embarresing. I know a lot of childish boys who complain about such things. 'She's hairy' - 'She's smelly' or so on...Though I shave and clean myself nicely, I still don't want anyone near me like that. Once I was with an extremely attractive guy who wanted to go on a date with me and do things, but I came right out and told him not to touch me... Not cute at all, I know. Maybe it's just my insecurity, but getting eaten out is just a no for me.
Ignore my spelling and grammar mistakes~ :]
You are afraid about what your Partner is going to think about you after he goes down on you, afraid of rejection, most men enjoy it, I am a man and i enjoy giving My GF lots of pleasure, she enjoys it. I think You might to if you are with the right person who will not encourager you to do it, but who will embrace who you are and your guard won't be up so much.
Other points to keep in mind to make cunnilingus exciting and fun are:
1. Share a shower or bath together before you start to make sure that you are both clean and add gels, lubricants and food to enhance the experience for both of you.
2. Ask your partner what she likes. She can give you directions such as harder, slower, faster, more circles etc - This is something you must do or just listen to her reaction to get direction!
3. Fill your own mouth with as much saliva as you can before you begin and never touch or lick the clitoris when performing Cunnilingus with a dry finger or tongue; it's a total turn off for your partner.
4. Don't go for the clitoris straight away make sure she is warmed up relaxed and aroused.
Try gentle kissing and licking around the upper thighs and vulva area and work your way up to the clitoris don't hot it straight away with cunnilingus - you need to warm her up and relax her.
5. Use a variety of ways to arouse her. We cant stress this enough.
If you repeat the same method your partner will become insensitive to it, keep in mind variety with Cunnilingus and don't allow her to turn off and expect the obvious.
6. As she becomes more aroused, insert a finger or two into her vagina as well if you wish and open up your options to please her.
7. Continue to touch and hold her as she orgasms from cunnilingus and most importantly after she does. Make sure she knows you love her and have enjoyed it to
8. The clitoris has more nerve endings than the entire head of the penis.
Always be very careful not to be to hard, as many women are very sensitive in this area - Ask your partner all the time what turns her on.
Cunnilingus can enhance any relationship and most women love it and getting it right, is all about responding to what your partner wants.
She will tell you or simply listen to her moans for direction!
i lov when my man gos down on me its so ucking amazing. what akes it moe sexy is at h cant wait to do it to me he gets right into it. now that he works awa we dont get enough of anyting i see im maybe six days out ofa month. when we do se each other its mind blowing he loves the tas and we have also experimented wit ood too just gotta love it. makes m so wet just thinking bt it.
This guy I know talk about eating me out all the time! Gosh it drives me nuts. ;) we're not going out technically but it's still fun to talk about. It makes me soaking wet down there ;)
i AM iN THAT SAME BOAT RiT NOW! i GET SOOO WET WEN WE JUST TLK ABOUT SEX PERIOD!!!
i'm the same way!! lol i get wet easy. :) he loves it. ;)
My husband is the master at eating me out! He's been in Iraq so I haven't been getting any, but he's always telling me how bad he can't wait to taste me. I can't wait either! He just gets sooo into it, and it turns me on that he's so excited to give all this pleasure to me. I love it!
The first time I was going to go down on the girl with never ending legs and thighs, she started pushing me away, saying no, that's dirty, you will hate me, I persisted and when she finally let me down there I started slowly and worked up to giving her a wild ride! She had several orgasms in what seemed like waves, grabbed my head and mashed it into her crotch so hard that I had to pull back, preventing my teeth from hurting her!
What a feeling that is !
ok, i was the first guy my gf got eaten out by and she was really shy about it but i waited till she felt conferrable then i did it but when i tried doing it again a different day she still feel really shy..... is there a way that i could make her feel conferrable?
I love when I'm with my girlfriend to eat her out.. She wants more and more. I love gettign that pussy mad wet and watching her legs shake and her in pleasure.. I never get tired of eating a woman. She just has to keep it nice and trimmed or shaved.
whenever i go down on my GF she never lets me kis her mouth or go near her mouth, because of the taste and smell. which obviously ruins the moment so for her i havn't gon down on her as much as i would like to. So what can i do to change this???
I won't kiss a woman directly after I've gone down on her. Even if she wants me to. I just say "that's for me only!", and it's actually pretty sexy. If I'm at her place I will take my toothbrush along, and quickly go into the bathroom to brush my teeth so I can kiss her before I eat her out again. Women love the thought that you are thinking of them, so it's really a plus, rather than a negative.
It just means she doesn't wanna taste her own cum. Its not really something you change unless you kinda surprise her.
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