hand-job techniques

Hand-job Techniques

Penis massage, often referred to as 'hand-jobs', can be a great way to pleasure your male partner, or even bring him all the way to Orgasm. They can be used by themselves, or while performing Fellatio on your partner. Many can also be adapted to perform as Masturbation.

If you REALLY want to thrill him (and he is open to it), you can mix it up with some Anal Fingering and Prostate Gland Stimulation!

Although not necessary, it is better to perform hand-jobs using a lubricant.

The following is a listing of techniques to try:


With one hand, pull the shaft's skin toward the base and wrap the fingers of this hand around the base to act as a cock ring. Using the other hand, rhythmically pick various points along the shaft of the penis and squeeze opposite sides of the penile shaft at these points, releasing pressure either immediately or after only a brief period of time.


Rub the penis between both palms, as if rubbing two sticks together to create fire. Be sure to use plenty of oil.

Glans Head Massage

Hold the penis in one hand with the head sticking up. Using the well-oiled palm of your other hand, slowly and sensitively massage the glans head. Reverse directions every once in a while.

Healing Stroke

With the penis resting on the man's stomach, take one hand and cup the testicles. Then glide the heel of the palm of the other hand up and down the underside of the penis.

Twist and Shout

Pull the skin of the penis toward the base with one hand. With the other hand, corkscrew the penis. This can be done with the thumb and first finger or with your entire grip.

Anvil Stroke

Start with one hand lightly grasping the top of the penis. Then stroke the penis from the top, all the way to the bottom. When you hit the bottom, release the penis. Meanwhile, bring your other hand to the top of the penis and repeat.


Place both of your hands side by side against his shaft like a pair of bookends. Now push hard against his penis. Then lift your hands up and down.


Turn the head of his penis like you're trying to open an oily doorknob. Now try turning the other way. Repeat. This stroke is sometimes improved by using the other hand to stretch the skin of the penis toward the base.

Double Whammy

Bring your well lubricated hands down on his shaft. Some penises are so big they require both hands; if your partner's doesn't, then use the other hand to caress and lightly flutter his testicles, or tighten around the base of his shaft. If both hands fit along the length of the shaft then move them together, up and down, in the typical pumping motion. Pretend you're holding a baseball bat and are about to score a grand slam. You can also vary the directions of your hands: one up, one down at the same time.


Start with one hand lightly grasping the bottom of the penis. Then stroke the penis from the bottom all the way to the top. When you hit the top, release the penis. Meanwhile, bring your other hand to the bottom of the penis and repeat.

Perpetual Penetration

Start with one hand lightly grasping the top of the penis. Then stroke the penis from the top all the way to the bottom, letting his penis "penetrate" into your fist on each stroke. Before the head of his penis pops out of your hand, bring the other hand up for the next penetration. This way it seems to him like he is penetrating deeper and deeper into an infinite vagina. Make sure you keep the penetration continuous.


Make a ring with your thumb and forefinger and pump up and down with it. When you get to the top close the ring. Then make him squeeze his way in as you slide back down to the bottom.


Stroke only his shaft, ignoring his glans head. You will notice his glans head swelling and turning red. When it's bright red, use Doorknob, Glans Head Massage, or Perpetual Penetration.

Shuttle Penis

Take the penis in both hands, fingers lightly touching the sides of the shaft. Now flick the penis back and forth between your two hands by holding onto the loose skin of the shaft. Do this stroke for a while to allow tension to build.

Spot Pinch

Lightly and slowly run a finger up the underside of his penis. Ask him to tell you where the most sensitive spot is. Pinch, squeeze, nibble and tease that spot.

First female hi

My first hand job from a woman was unplanned but was totally welcomed. She had first rubbed my cock through my pants which she had done before. But this time she kept on going unzipping my pants and going for my cock. She soon had her hand wrapped around it and was stroking it nice. I had plenty of natural lube and she had spread it all over my shaft. When she concentrated on the head of my cock, that did the trick. I soon was releasing streams of cum into her hand.this surprised her since this was her first hj to completion. She was proud of what she had done and I was glad to receive such a fine completion.

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hand job

i love hand job very much my bf likes it too

Doing some foot work.

If you are able to, put your feet together and rub your penis between the arches of your feet. Very nice.

Is it bad if your not using

Is it bad if your not using lube when giving a handjob. And if you have given this person more then 14 handjobs all without lube in one day. What does it mean when their penis is burning a little after that many times?

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tips and tricks?

What is you favorite type of hand job? i get bored with the stroke stroke motion and I’m looking for something to drive him crazy

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My favorate way...

is to start by going down on him only to get things started. Once he sees the baby oil he knows he's in for a treat. I use as needed, not getting him too moist. I stroke him completly, slowly, Often stopping to play with the head. You kinda have to try this a few times to get his reaction. I can control when i want him to cum. I have played with his cock up to 45 minutes before making/letting him cum. It's also a good exercise for him learning control. When we make love, he knows how to hold back without stopping. He does the same with me soometimes when giving me oral. He likes to feel me close up on his finger and fingering me to control me. But, using baby oil and taking your time stroking him will drive him crazy...also talk to him as you stroke him. Ask how he feels, what he feels. If you love him, this is a good time to tell him, but Not as he's coming.

I find if you run over the

I find if you run over the head each time or give the head a twisting motion it's really nice.

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Can I help my gf?

Me and my gf where at the movies and we where fooling around and I started to move her hand down my pants to give me a hand job and se looked at me and whispered in my ear that she dident know what to do..... Is Thair a way to show her or is Thair a verble way to tell her what to do? Either way her hand was warm but Thair was no movement

Just a little advice to

Just a little advice to hornymook, the part of stealing ky jelly is wrong. You should never acvice someone to do that.
whoever is reading this, might take it to heart and do it.

My girl gives the most

My girl gives the most amazing handjobs her small hands stroking my cock but i just want to kno do girls like guys cuming on their faces

Generally, no, this would be

Generally, no, this would be seen as a serious sign of domination when she's already in a position where you are dominating her. But if you're really into it, ask your girl if she's ok with it.


47 Married in S Florida and very little sex from wife. I had my first massage from a guy a few months after getting a bit high and decided to try to let a guy massage me nude on his table.. after I walked in and he went to the back room I got nude and lay face down on the table after a few minutes of him massaging me I was getting hard and then he massaged my balls and cock a bit for 15 min or so and then had me turn around.
I was very hard at that time and he continued to massage my arms, legs to my throbbing cock and had him stroke and then yes he sucked me off till completion... I was sooo weak afterwards... I thasnked him and wish i can get ahold of him again with no luck....

re: handjobs

So one of the very best techniques is holding the penis where the shaft meets the head and using just your index finger and thumb pinch and roll the shaft. When the fingers rub against the ridge of the head it feels incredible. Too much rubbing of the glans can over sensitize it but going near the head will get the most sensation. Never really liked the testicles to be played with much, they are so delicate its more of a bother. But that's just me.

Girls shouldn't be afraid to go for the penis though, I wish mine got more contact. Even if just for foreplay, a little bit of love down there can ramp a guy up for a more passionate encounter.

Is it possible for a 4in

Is it possible for a 4in penis to get a hand job or a blow job??? Also I'm 17 and I think its small... any opinions and suggestions??


My wife gives amazing hand jobs, though not very often. What I really want her to give me is a foot job. She gave me a partial one (i.e., didn't finish it) in the backseat of a car once...it was pretty hot.

black moon
any way

it is not good way to have a plaser but some people liked

when i give my boyfriend a

when i give my boyfriend a handjob, he ends up cumming so much it covers my body as well as drips onto the bed.. but apparently it doesn't happen when he does it himself. i was just wondering why?

It could be that he gets

It could be that he gets extremely aroused (mentally) from the handjob. Sometimes the different sensation than when we do it to ourselves is the big turn-on.


i honestly hate handjobs. i wont even attempt to cum for my girlfriend when she gives me one. i wait til both of her arms get tired and when she says shes too tired to keep going, i tell her its alright and she can stop. getting (and giving) head is soo much better. obviously intercourse is best.


Bullshit mate

Bullshit mate

Female, Teenage,& Virgin-Question

Hey I'm a virgin & I'm curious...For like a hand/blowjob mix(I guess?), would a guy like it if the girl puts her mouth on the tip of his penis, sucks a lil, and like moves her mouth like sideways on his dick, and using just her tongue to lick his penis all over, and then keep repeating, changing where on his penis she sucks & licks until he's came, maybe stopping for a second or two to tease him just a little bit? Cuz I'm not really sure, but I think thats what a guy would like...Help?

Try sucking the head while

Try sucking the head while doing some of the hand job techniques. I usually do the fire(?) one while sucking my bf's cock, it makes him cum really quick

Man's heaven

Darling it will be heaven for a male to put his penis in girl's mouth, that would be the best blowjob. Atleast i would love it the most. If you havent tasted penis you should go for it, im sure you will be hooked it. I will prefer a blowjob anyday over a handjob.

im a girl but that sounds

im a girl but that sounds good. with my boyfriend i gave him a handjob and finished off with licking the under side of his dick, from the base to the tip. i would definitely recommend sucking the tip after each lick.

Bahahahaha! Yeah suuuuure

Bahahahaha! Yeah suuuuure you're 7 1/2 inches.

Here's a great way to

Here's a great way to exercise your penis: with an erection, grab a roll of toilet tissue and slide your penis inside the hole (some might have to squeeze). Flex your penis (just as if you were lifting weights with it) and in between each repition, count "one-mississippi". Repeat 30 times in one session. This is a great way to help with penile strength and can possibly help with cumming early.

Just do it as your BF likes it

Moving the hand to and fro will help him to get the dick getting bigger.You can apply some lubricant to it to give a more pleasure advantage.Sucking it once or twice will increase the pleasure for him.

Men cumin

Is it normal for men to want to eat their own cum?


It does depend. I dont mind esp. if I've eaten plenty of friut (pineapples/apple/strawberries), then it actually tastes kinda sweet ;)

I dont know

I suppose whatever floats ur boat! wer all different right?

ejaculating everywhere

I had a woman who just loved giving me a handjob, just as much as I loved getting it. She absolutely wanted to make me cum. She was in control and lovin' it. When I finally did cum, she cried out "oh yeah honey go ahead and squirt it everywhere" which I did. Much of it went all over her breasts. I don't want to cum in a woman's face, unless she wants me to. Jacking off onto her tits and belly is what I like to do.

Put it into her mouth

Try to put it into her mouth and see how pleasure she will feel.


id like to give my bf a handjob, but dont exactly know how...im a virgin, and want some advice from guys! how do you masturbate? and how should i do it for my guy ? im 14 btw

that other dude
my gf gives me handjobs

im 14 and my gf gives me handjobs shes nevered got to see me cum,oh well this week she will, anyway all u got to do it go up and down while holding hes balls ^_^ also try mixing it up and maybe suck on the tip or evil spit on it to get it wet? maybe even masterbate and let ur cum drip on hes penis? ^_^

Just do it like this!

Just put the dick in your mouth suck it a few times and when it has become rock hard then use your hand to and fro untill the white cream comes out.You can suck the cream to give your BF more pleasure.

Being 14 and a virgin, try

Being 14 and a virgin, try and understand that it's OK not to get everything perfect the first time. Half of the fun is learning about each other and getting to know what the other likes. Everyone is different but there are some universal truths. The advise others have given is good. Handjobs should always involve lube and water-based is the best. Handjobs are great because your hand can do some things which your other body parts can't do. The best advice I can give is to start slowly, don't rush things, and gently rub his balls a bit with your other hand. Other than that, don't be afraid to try different things with your hands and watch his response. It won't take you long to figure out exactly what he likes.

get some water based lubes

get some water based lubes and put some on his penis then just rube up and down slowly then start to increase the speed a bit.


I just usually settle for giving my man a BJ. I mean, come on! 1 it's less messier and 2 idk . . .

But yeah, *Remembers the first time she gave a BJ.* I swear I was never more sick in my life!!

But yeah, I'm 15 and give BJ's to my 17 year old BF, got a probablem???

Hey! I also have a question, if anyone can answere it for me.

Um, ok, I noticed that whilst I am giving a hand job/ blow job to my BF, there is like this clear fluid that leaks from the tip. Is that normal??

ya it's normal it's his

ya it's normal it's his pre-cum just means he's injoting it :)


It's normal it's like hiz cock is getting ready to cum LOL .so ur gay rite

im gonna hang out with my bf

im gonna hang out with my bf tomorrow, and i want to give him a hand job, but we are not gonna be in a place where we can really do it (like bed), and i dont want him to cum, cause we will be in public (sorta), so can i do it without making him cum?

that can be fun but only for

that can be fun but only for a lil while. honestly to jerk off a guy an not finish is borderline torture, unless the guy is into that. However if it were me, if a girl gave me a handjob an didnt make me cum...id be pretty dissapointed. Just think of it in the reverse, how would you like it if he fingered you an then all of a sudden just stopped without lettin you cum.

Rly? O.o

Does that apply to all guys? O.o Cuz I'm always forced to do this to my bf wether it be stroking him or sucking him off, we never have the time or privacy to finish and I feel rly rly bad about it. But he says he really ejoys me pleasuring him anyway and that it doesn't bother or hurt him if he's too close to cumming and can't. Is it possible for that to be true?

this advice might now be useless

The ebest you can do is take him at his word. besides the build up can make future times more enjoyable.

this advice might now be useless

The ebest you can do is take him at his word. besides the build up can make future times more enjoyable.

The worst thing a girl could

The worst thing a girl could EVER do to a guy....is to stop mid-way through a hand job!! It is horrible. It really really is like torture!! (which can be "exciting" in some cases) best thing to do, to make him cum, is to just talk dirty to him while your giving him the hand job. Say things about how wet your pussy is, and how badly you want his penis inside of you...if you do that, he should be cumming in NO time. (also, you have to know what to do, if your not sure...ask him..there's no harm in asking, and it can also be a turn on). XD

All guys enjoy pleasure but

All guys enjoy pleasure but with blowjobs and handjobs the pleasure needs to end with him cumming. And the closer that you get him, the harder it will be on him when you stop. I'm sure that he's being sincere when he tell you that he loves you pleasuring him. But stopping a handjob early is like taking a starving person and letting them smell, see, and touch the food but never eat any of it.

boob sex

my boyfriendd says it feels really good when i lay on my back and he puts his penis between my breasts while i squeez them together and he humps. he loved it.


Did you like it? Would you let him do it again? Have him push all the way up till his penis tip touches you lips for more erotic fun, then watch as he shots all over your face.

Degrading much?

How degrading. Do you want a woman squirting all over your face? I doubt it. Porn gives men a twisted view of sex. All those little moans and "mmmmm"s those women make are all for the men.

Look up advice for women on pleasuring their men and you'll almost always find the phrase "even if you hate every moment, moan and act like you enjoy it, he likes that." I certainly don't want my boyfriend cumming all over my face like I'm some sort of object or pornstar.

Have a little consideration for your lady. Cumming on her face IS degrading. If she HONESTLY enjoys it (not just says she does in fear of losing you, and I guarantee that's the truth behind a lot of women saying they "enjoy" it) then good for you. If she doesn't want it then remember that porn isn't real life and no one deserves to be degraded like that just because a lot of men have superiority complexes.

She's your lover, not your property.