Penis Too Big or Vagina Too Small?
Q. The problem is that my penis circumference seems too great for me to actually enter my girlfriend. It’s a struggle to get it into her vagina and it tends to be spat out again fairly quickly, after immense discomfort. We've tried using lubrication and I haven’t had this problem with my one previous sexual partner, Please help, this is very frustrating.
A. Given that you haven’t had this issue before, let’s ignore the size of your penis and focus on what’s going on in her vagina. There are a number of vaginal disorders that can lead to pain before, during and after intercourse; they range in intensity and can cause symptoms that feel similar to tightness, cramps and spasms. Keep in mind that pain can also indicate allergies, infections or muscular degeneration.
The appropriate term for the condition of painful sexual intercourse is dyspareunia and there are many physical as well as psychological causes. The correct form of action is to consult a doctor for a complete exam and medical history.
In the meantime, it’s important to continue fulfilling each others’ erotic needs. While your girlfriend waits for a diagnosis, here are a few things to try. Together you can engage in Sensual Massage, mutual Masturbation and Oral Sex. If you both want to continue having sex, use Sexual Positions that limit the depth of penetration. It may also be of use to engage in physically relaxing activities beforehand such as intimate massage or taking baths. Also, see the related question Tilted Womb.