My guy and I have been having sex for a really long time now but the other night he told me he didn't want it because he didn't feel like getting together because I was shaped funny and stayed in one place the whole time. he's a lot older and more experienced than i am, but I would still like to be good at what I'm doing so he'll be upset when he doesn't get it, instead of choosing not to. I don't know how I'm supposed to move around... actually half the time he gets me off and then gets himself off because i'm not even good at hand jobs for him so i guess if there are any suggestions i'd appreciate it. i bought sexy underwear but there's only so much that can do...
Sat, 05/12/2007 - 08:01
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If he is not wiling to help you out and to show you what he likes and how...he's not worth your time.
Tell him to show you what he likes, its not fair of him to do what hes doing.
Be confident, or at least act confident. Things'll fall into place, most likely.
You say you're not good at handjobs, but have you tried giving him a blowjob?
I don't think you can really screw up one of those - unless you scrape him with your teeth. That's an no-no!
Shaped funny??? WTF???
He may be more experienced than you but he may also be a total lout.
If he wants something, he should SHOW you how to do it - not insult you because you can't.
You may really need a new boyfriend.
I really hope he isn't putting you down, and getting off on making you feel inadequate. There isn't enough information in your message to say if that is really what he is doing, but its a possibility. If he is doing that, then he is not the right guy for you.
wow - while you may be leaving a lot out, it just doesnt seem to fit. it shouldnt matter how you are "shaped" as far as i know. and even if he is more experianced, as your boyfriend, he should want to teach you. experianced or inexperianced, no one knows what each other wants in the beginning of any relationship and i've found part of the excitment is finding out what each other enjoys. my current partner and i are both experianced and yet are both learning each other and teaching each other what we like.
ask him to show you what he wants - because no one can read minds - experianced or not... if he is unwilling to show you and pushes you away because "he can just do it better" go find yourself a wonderful man who will be willing to teach you and learn what makes YOU happy and is more deserving of a woman like yourself.