Mestrual Sex

Menstrual Sex

Do sex and menstruation mix? Well, despite the perception of some that a menstruating woman is literally and/or figuratively ‘unclean’, many people are more than happy to explore the option of menstrual sex. This article will delve into what you’ve always wanted to know it; why it’s hot, why it’s not, and everything in between.

The Taboo Factor

The social taboos involving Menstruation (‘menses’ or ‘period’) and sex are far-reaching; there are many belief systems across the world that ascribe to a variety of perceptions and rituals related to it. Some philosophies forbid Sexual Intercourse with a woman who is on her period, while others recommend that during menses women ought not to receive communion or enter into a place of worship. During pre-Judaic times women were isolated to red tents during the course of their menses, hindering them from participating in most activities, including sex. It was also common for religions to mandate cleansing rituals to be performed after a woman had ended her period.

Some judge that these traditions come across as oppressive signs of male dominated societies, while others perceive them as a celebration of the sacredness of the event. There are many instances in history that suggest taboos related to menstrual bleeding, but the true origin of these beliefs has likely been lost to antiquity (Read more about it.).

Statistically speaking, women who choose to have sexual intercourse during their periods have been found to have the following positively correlated characteristics; they are young, highly educated, Caucasian, and possess a high economic status. Although this data is based on very preliminary research, it does indicate that women who possess certain economic and intellectual freedom feel less hindered in making the choice to have intercourse during menses.

Why Are People Turned Off By Menstrual Sex?

Sometimes, the last thing on a menstruating woman’s mind is to have sex with her partner; she feels irritable, bloated, pained and/or tired. On the other hand, there are women who become extremely sexual because of their surge in hormones, and find that sex is the best physical release. A woman's sexual partner may be positive or indifferent to this physical state, but it just as common that he/she is reluctant (or completely unwilling) to enter into sexual union. The reality is that her partner’s aversion to sex has nothing to do with her attractiveness or sexuality; his or her preferences simply vary. Let’s look at the pros and cons for sex during menses as they apply to both men and women.


When it comes to sex, a woman’s desire fluctuates over her menstrual cycle, and research has shown that it is highest at the time of ovulation (when the eggs are released from the ovaries). In recent years, another peak period has been uncovered. Preliminary studies are beginning to provide evidence that women demonstrate a higher sex drive just before, or just after, menstruating. This information presents an excellent opportunity for couples to discuss whether intercourse during menses works for them.

Women’s’ bodies are usually very sensitive to touch, and the physical sensations that they experience during menses are greatly heightened. Although not every menstruating woman will be receptive to the idea of having you kiss and fondle her all over, there are some who consider menstrual sex as the best sex ever. Moreover, the wetness of the vagina can feel delightful, and gives you the option to skip foreplay if you want to! Some people consider menstrual sex a pro because they believe that a woman can’t get pregnant. Think again! Although the chances are slim, it is still possible for a woman to spontaneously ovulate a second time during her cycle.

Sex is great way to manage menstrual cramps. Female hormones and prostaglandins are released upon orgasm, inducing a contraction in the uterus. This is similar to those that cause the uterine lining to be shed during menstruation. This physical contraction (along with climax!) can help take the edge off any discomfort a woman may be experiencing. It is commonly supposed that having sex during menses can also end the cycle early, although there haven’t been medical studies to verify this (Read more about it.). The uterine contraction induced by orgasm can make blood run faster, so be prepared for heavier menstrual flow post coitus.


Religious and social taboos regarding menstrual sex can certainly be limiting factors for both men and women, but there are other reasons why they might be disinclined to do so. Some couples don’t like to have sex because it limits the positions they use; they consciously avoid those that cause excessive blood flow, such as women on top. The odor might smell unpleasant to some people, and others don’t like that menstrual fluid has such a sticky texture; the mess it can create is also a turn-off for some.

There are a few cons related to blood phobias. Consider those who feel faint when they see or even think about blood. Some men can be very uncomfortable with the thought and/or sight of blood on their own fingers, legs, and penis; the same thing applies when they see a woman with menstrual fluid between her legs. Some men avoid menstrual sex because they get the uneasy impression that it looks as though they’ve hurt their partner during intercourse.

A significant concern that many people have concerns the incidence of STDs/STIs (Sexually Transmitted Diseases/Infections) when a woman is menstruating. Preliminary medical findings do show that women do become more susceptible to infection during this time. There have been studies done that show a correlation between self reported STD/STI incidence and sexual activity during menses. However, further epidemiologic studies need to be performed in order to bolster these findings. If the woman is a carrier, an increased risk also exists of transmitting Hepatitis B, C, or HIV through the blood. If you have any doubt about the STD/STI status of your sexual partner, the best and safest advice is to use a condom.

What’s the least messy way to have Menstrual Sex?

Most couples avoid having sex when the female is menstruating because of the potential mess it makes. Here are a couple of great tips to make the clean up easy. Keep a towel or a wet cloth nearby and when both of you finish, give yourselves a quick wipe down and then go for a shower. The reason you shouldn’t linger is because menstrual blood is pigmented and dries quite quickly; if you do linger, you’ll need to pay a bit more attention to washing it completely off. At any rate, keep your mind off the mess and focus on enjoying the post-sex scrub down.

A woman’s period, not to mention her mood, is most intense during the first couple of days of menses. It helps if you aim for sex before she begins her cycle or after the first couple of days are over with. If her flow is quite heavy, you can opt to have sex in the shower. If not, she can wear a tampon up until the point you both want to make love, then remove it, and apply lubricant if needed. A dark colored towel will come in handy. Some couples also utilize a Condom for the man and/or a Diaphragm for the female.

How to Get Each Other Off if You Choose Not to Have Intercourse

If the vagina is ‘closed for maintenance’, there are oodles of ways to get yourself and a lover off. The best way to start spark something sexual is by offering to give her a Massage. Releasing tension in the lower back, neck, or shoulders may be all she needs to get into the mood; just be mindful of the pressure that you use and ask her to guide you in the right direction.

After the massage, there are a few different ways to approach the situation. Being on her period is a great opportunity to relish simpler intimate pleasures such as kissing, caressing, fondling, and cuddling. If she doesn’t feel like peeling off her clothes, you could try and get each other off while you’re fully dressed. This can be done via a combination of mutual masturbation, hand jobs, or sex toys. If you both want to get more physical, perhaps try having Anal Sex while she’s wearing a tampon. You could also try a form of ‘outercourse’ called Inter-Mammary Intercourse, which basically means that the man’s penis is rubbed between a woman’s breasts to simulate vaginal intercourse.

No matter how you go about it, remember to experiment with different types of stimulation as well as sexual moods. A woman experiencing fluctuating hormones may feel frisky, feisty, or even get the desire for hard sex.

Final Thoughts

All in all, every woman’s body varies in cycle length, hormone activity and desire. If you pay attention to the unique needs of your female partner, menstruation and sex can mix after all. Don’t be afraid to experiment, it’s all part of the great sexual experience … so give it a go and enjoy!

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all the time

we used to have sex at least once a day, usually 3 or 4 times a day when we were in our long distance relationship, and for 4 or 5 years after we moved in together.
really made no difference period or not, i earned my red wings over a long weekend get together. only difficulty was she was extremely sore, and irritated after the 2nd day.
she suggested anal sex. she had NEVER had anything in her ass, let alone my above average sized cock. she fingered her clit while i entered her ass, we got ourselves off multiple times over the next couple days.

I usually go for anal when

I usually go for anal when is on hers....that's bout the only time I can get anal sex....her ass is sooooo tight.

It was one of those months

It was one of those months were I become horny and it was a bit of a trial to convince my fiance to have sex with me. As the son of a gynacologist, anything involving blood makes him think he's hurting me. But we put a towel down on the bed and had at it. He tried not to look and admitted later that the added wetness felt amazing.

he keeps track

my fiance is the only man i ever met who could careless if im on my period 2years into our relationship he began keeping track of when i was sposed to menstrate . so the week before we would have rough wild sex, then the week of my menstration we would set up nice things for me and he would take me slowly making sure i was comfortable we'd start in the bed room and end in the shower then hed fall alseep holding me. i hit the Fn jackpot with him!!!!!=)

menstrual sex

I have done this and everytime I have I've felt unclean but I didn't have the cramps I normally have with the menstruation cycle as bad so it was always a toss up with me cramps or no cramps

so i have never done this.

so i have never done this. in fact i won't even let my bf see me when i'm on my period i don't know why i just feel the need for privacy and alone time when i am. but if i ever do let him near does it feel any different then regular sex when you don't feel any different pain wise?

idk if its just me but for

idk if its just me but for the people who have tried sex on her period does the smell not bother u or something? because i find it that when am on my period i am more horny then usual and i want to try this but a relutant because of the mess and the smell and more so of feeling dirty but tnot in the physical aspect.

i get what you mean whenever

i get what you mean whenever i'm on my period i'm really horny! but i don't like the idea of my bf touching me down there while i'm bleeding it just sounds nasty to me :S

not at all and i know what

not at all and i know what you mean! during that time of the month for me the smell really bothers me and makes me uncomfortable but my bf and i have sex while im on my period on a regular basis and i dont really notice it during!! and it doesnt seem to bother him either!!!

Period sex is great

My wife, when my GF, started letting me have her during her period. It was the only time I came inside of her, as we used the withdrawal method and rhythm method. She found it reduced her cramps, and reduced her blood flow, but extended her period 1 day. Overall she thought it was a good trade. When we got married, we used dark sheets or dark red sheets, and showered together in the morning.

Sensation is worth it

My gf and I have a long distance relationship and we don't get to see each other often. On top of that she is on a birth control that makes her cycle a bit erratic. So often when I see her she's at that time but it is sooo amazing! Everything is so wet! My gf also get really sensitive in her period so one night when she stayed over we woke up and she jumped into cowgirl and orgasmed all over me! Just be sure to use a towel!

Put a towel underneath it

Put a towel underneath it saves a massive clean up. We didn't do that the first time we tried this. We were messes lol. A towel saves. Honestly my period isn't bad (no cramps, pains or anything of the like)or heavy so I didn't really experience much of a change.

menstrual sex

I think it's the best! It feels so good! And my husband loves it b/c he says that is when I'm the kinkiest. Afterwards, we jump in the shower together or I keep femine wipes on my night stand.

My ex partner and I used to

My ex partner and I used to have sex while I was on all the time, regardless of wether we used a condom or not. It always felt really really good, and now I am with some one else I bought him to the idea of it, we've only done it a few times and a condom has always been used but I think eventually he'll get used to the idea. It's only a bit of blood at the end of the day and ladies I highly recommend menstrual sex because it really does feel better and the orgasms DEFINITELY take the period pains away!!

I was once with an older guy

I was once with an older guy who had a very voracious sexual appetite. It didn't matter what time of month it was he would just go for it anyways. It was the most painful when i was on my period, i told him i didn't like the amount of pain i went through when we did this. He didn't take any notice of what i said and carried on anyway. I'm kind of glad that he's in jail now.

Nasty bastard! That sounds

Nasty bastard! That sounds horrible!! :(

menstrual sex

I am so turned on when i am on. And do get so frustrated, as my partner tends to just ignore me and have 'time off'
We usually just wait until it's less heavy, but until then sometimes we just use hands. He makes me feel like i have the plague!!!

It was a golden Experience

I got inside her once during the cycle when her knees and stomach was paining and believe me she forgot everything and enjoyed it the most.It was the most hottest experience i have ever had.I was not needed to foreplay to wet her sex organ so it was all set for me.I have decided that i will again do the same the next month.It was a good experience for both of us.

It's not a big deal between

It's not a big deal between my lover and myself. The mess is our only issue, but that is what the shower is for. ;-)

tried it

I tried it once really big mistake when I pulled my dick out it had blood all over it and it scared the hell out of me I don't mind blood but seeing it on my penis scared me a bit.

myself and my boyfriend have

myself and my boyfriend have had sex during my period a few times, due to the fact hes on board some months and not others. but fact is im ready to go and once we go im just not into it. he gets off each time but i dont. not sure but i kinda think it may be due to the fact that i dont have the most pleasant first few days of my period and am just blahish after that. but who knows.

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ive "played" while im on my

ive "played" while im on my period and too me it feels even better then when im not on it, im really sensitive and it feels amazing. i hope i can find someone that is willing to please me when i am bleeding ;)

My ex and I used to do it

My ex and I used to do it whenever she was on her period. I even ate her. I called it cunt dracula. Good times... ^_^

interesting never knew

interesting never knew anyone who had been eatin out on that time of the month but my old guys used to joke calling it getting ur red wings.....

menstrual sex

I have tried it with a condom on.
it was good,but,I could not get off neither could my partner.
It was a very different experince though.
It all depends on how your partner feels about it to.
Good luck everyone who tries it.
Do wear a condom though.
Less messy on you & partner.