Vaginal Intercourse
Vaginal intercourse is more commonly known as sex or coitus in Latin. It is the act of inserting the penis into the vagina, and is one of the most pleasurable experiences that two people can share. This article only covers the basics in what you need to know, make sure to visit the rest of the site for more advanced techniques.
First Time
The first time having sexual intercourse, for many people, is never what they expect. It is never as fulfilling or beautiful as fantasized about or seen in media. Your first time can be a very intimate experience if taken slowly, but do not expect it to be the best sex you will ever have. For women, their first couple of times will be painful and the man needs to take extra special care in going slow and listening to her needs. From the other point of view, many men suffer from a performance anxiety their first time as a result of all this pressure to knock her boots off. If this happens, return back to foreplay, do not let it bother or stop you as it is natural. When the time is right, everything will happen, so be supportive of each other.
First time sexual encounters are usually fumbling, learning experiences, where both people are just starting to understand their partners body and how to make that person satisfied sexually. For more detailed information on your first time, make sure to check out the first time for her and first time for him articles.
Movement
Sex is all about trying to stimulate the sensitive areas of the vagina and penis, how you move should depend on your preferences and the position. Some people enjoy slowly rocking together, others enjoy quick shallow strokes, and yet others love nothing more then the sensation of deep penetration. There is no right or wrong way, as long as both people are enjoying the experience.
A common misconception is that thrusting faster means better sex. Although most people enjoy going really hard right before climax, this point must be reached before the approach feels good. You should always try new things, keep mixing it up by varying your speed and the depth as you build towards climax.
Finding the rhythm may take some time, as will getting your abs, legs, arms and back into shape. Though most positions don’t require a great deal of strength, they all require endurance, so strengthening your muscles is a good place to start.
Positions
Please refer to the sex positions sections for ideas and details.
If you have any comments about this article, or would like to share your personal experiences, please post below!
I get the same thing, and it's just because of a little dryness at first. I usually go down on my girlfriend first so she is nice and wet, then just gently ease into her. Lube is also a good idea. Try putting just the tip of your penis into her at first, then pull out, then go in a bit further, and repeat until it's all in.
I never find anything that helps me!! I'm a lesbian and my girl has an issue with sextoys.... SO any help with a nice position that i could have oral with her or finger her.(cofortably) Untill we get past the sex toys thing. (we're working on it!)
Check the section of Cunnilingus down the eft hand side here..awesome pos for oral (Y) Fingering is easy comfortable pos, lay next to her, it's too easy. Good luck with the sex toy issue =)
ugh sooo yeah im a virgin (proud*] but i need help in that area
idk wat to expect wen idk i lose my virginity i mean idk wat kind of feeling that i want or like positions that i'll like...... so yeah if u guys have any advice please share it
and also................. is vaginal sex with a shower rod dangerous?
i am 14 and lost my virginity 6 months ago, my hymen was still intact, so it did hurt like hell for a minute, but because we were in missionairy possition, my boyfriend (also 14) could kiss me, which made it better. definatly find the right man though, one that cares about you and dose not just want to fuck you. but please spare me the mental image and DO NOT have "sex" with a shower rod, its just a bad idea.
Hi I lost my virginity when I was 14, with my boyfriend who I'm still with at the age of 15, I'm now pregnant and preparing to be a mother, James is amazing and i got lucky with him, but don't feel pressured to have sex, it can cause a lot of trouble especially if you get pregnant and the father doesn't support you, i got lucky but that's not always the case.
easiest position would be the missionary because of its simplicity and its good practise for deep penatration, or if you dont want it deep the first time then do missionary but swap where your legs are, i have a few friends (all girls really i dont get along with boys so much) but they are 14-15 years old and some of them have lost their virginity and cuz im kinda a sensitive boy (not into much sports or athletic stuff really, more artistic lol) they always come to me and talk so if you have msn of yahoo i could ask them for you if you want and tell u what they say if you want? dw lol i'll be discreet :) i'll just ask how it is from their point of veiw, if you want to get in touch then PM me i'd be happy to help x
well keep up the virginity, it's an /awesome/ present to give to your future husband :3
when you do lose your virginity, it will most likely hurt, the level depends on your vaginal flexibility, his size, and various other factors, plus if your hymen is still intact that'll hurt like a bitch for a little bit. Once the initial pain is overcome, though, it feels /wonderful/, especially if you do it on a basis of love and care. My first time was with my husband, and it was so /incredible/ after the six-month marriage wait, so passionate and loving, it's practically ingrained in my memory as the best experience of my life ^^
Communicate with him and talk him through it on your first time, communication is key to satisfaction between the two of you.
As for positions, don't worry about that. Easiest and safest for you to do on your first time are probably Missionary and Inverted Missionary; I prefer Inverted because it gives the girl the control she might need if she encounters pain. Once you've started or if you've had sex a couple times this way, you can start exploring other positions. I said don't worry about positions because really, it's all trial and error as to what you might like, you can't really tell just by watching or reading what it's about. I love the Lotus position because it's very cuddly and intimate and gives deep penetration, but my friend doesn't like it because her boy's penis goes so deep it hurts her. After your first time, when you're comfortable enough to explore, just try different positions to see what you like and don't like. It's one thing to watch or read about it, but it's a whole other realm to actually /do/ it.
and...a shower rod? oO
that sounds like it would hurt, and I've heard that spraying water too deep inside the vaginal canal can lead to serious injuries and even infections ><
a shower rod? sounds potentially dangerous
to tell u the truth i cant say its not all that bad your first time but everyone is diffrent my first time was wonderful it didnt hurt it felt weird when he first stuck it in me it was real tight in stiff kinda but then the second time we had sex he poped my cherry it didnt hurt me cuz i was relaxed in just was turned on enough plus when i looked in to his eyes i knew he liked it so it turned me on more
yes, like do uhave ur tetnis shot?
and thats soo gross just wait till ur married or for the right guy to come along. trust me. ull regret it if u dont.
oh of corse ive gotten those shots in september
lol i havent done it lol jus thinkin
random objects
but thanx
well they do make toys for that....safer.....
true but idk how to get them
and how old do u hav to be to get them?
alrighty ladies here is your problem orgasms for girls need your own input if you are having amazing sex with your boyfriend and you can't climax your problem may be this if you tighten the muscles in your vagina and i mean tighten NOT push like ur pooping but pull if you dont get that idk what to tell you but tighten ur muscles in your vagina and hold it i mean really hold it while you are having sex if that doesnt make you cum you're doing it wrong
I've problems with my gf... we do oral perfectly but there is no way to make my penis enter in her vagina... it blocks at the glans and can't go any further, she feels pain if i try to push it then and we have to stop.
Oral sex is great but we, both of us, really want to have intercourse.
Any suggestions?
Me and my g/f started to have sex for the first time, and it hurt her a lot. I tried to enter but it always hurt her too much and we'd stop. I figured out that Fingering her with one finger until she gets extremely aroused and moving to two fingers, helped to prepare her for intercourse. We tried fingering over two weeks to prepare her and then once again before we tried sex.
Best of Luck and remember to relax and enjoy and show lotss of love
go to a doctor number one and he may suggest botox shots i know it sounds wierd but i saw it on the tyra banks show u need to go to the doctors and have them see whats going on down there and they will figure something out for you
when my bf and i are together, things get wild..in the end he reaches climax, but never has he gotten me to...he plays with my clitoris, and fingers me and its great but i never climax. we've even had sex and hes the only one that orgasms...i know he would love to get me off, but he never has been able...we're completely comfortable around eachother too, so i dont understand. is there anything i can do or he can do that would help?
i forgot to add, everything is fine when im by myself...in other words, i finish
Well I know that changing things up can really help, use whipped cream or honey, or even just try different positions.
OMG i have the same situation...my boyfriend has no problem reachin climax but i have not yet experienced such thing. Dont get me wrong...i love having him inside of me and its awesome dat he gets orgasms being with me but him being my first i am really anxy in getting that feeling.
Get on top, like that Inverted missionary position.
im 17 i was a virgin for all of my half yrs of my 17 im still 17 but recently im not longering a virgin because the guy i have been talkin to in the summer its already been 2 months already. so like then we had sex on the 2 month of knowing each other and that was my first time having sex to me it was a bit weird cuz it wasnt that great but i know that we have to do it couple of times so to me it would become a little bit better sex with him.
My bf and I both have voracious sexual appetites and though we don't see each other often, when we do its explosive. I have no problem climaxing several times over one session. The main issue though, is that each session has a tendency to last over 2 hours. He has unearthly stamina and can't seem to shorten the time any. I'm worried he's going to kill me from sheer exhaustion or dehydration or something! Is there any way I can help him train his body to be capable of a quicky once in a while?
Well there is nothing inherently wrong with long duration sex I do know first hand how this can be a problem. It would be very unlikely that you would actually suffer bodily harm from trauma or dehydration. That being said I certainly agree that water and lubrication are incredibly important. A glass of water near at hand and a good water based lubricant (or lubricated condoms) are a must for long duration sex.
My wife loves quickies, and my girlfriend is the opposite. Each is very glad the other has a different style. So from personal experience I can tell you that a person can alternate between quickies and long duration sex. Although for me quickies are very challenging and can put stress on me (sometimes it feels like stress creeping up the back of my spine).
One trick for 'quickly training' make sure he's not masturbating. Nothing puts me in the mood for a quicky like not getting any release for a day or so. Perhaps if he can try completely holding off that may help.
Keep an open mind and if you both enjoy it, then there is nothing wrong with it.
Hope that helps!
Good luck.
I'm in a situation similar to this...
Im 17 and I've been with my girlfriend for about 2 months and we are madly in love. Im a virgin and she has more experience. She doesnt know my size but she says size doesnt matter its how you use it. But im still worried because I have a 5.5" dick and I was wondering if I wont be able to please her with it. We are very open to each other though but this is the only thing im afraid about.
Need advice!
The best advice I can give is don't put the pressure on yourself to perform. That is the easiest way to ruin things for yourself and your partner. Try and come at things from the point of view of comfort and enjoyment.
Take small steps if you need to. Get comfortable at each step and let things happen as they feel natural and good.
If you are really super worried about this and no words of mine can help then I recommend a book titled "She Comes First" by Ian Kerner. I first read this book working at a Borders Bookstore when I was thinking deep thoughts about how to pleasure a women. Kerner is trying to aid folks who have trouble with premature ejaculation, but I think his advice can help in this situation too.
Keep an open mind!
I was in nearly the exact situation with my current girlfriend. 5.5" penis, she was more experienced, etc. The absolute most important thing you can do is be confident in yourself. This is a much bigger turn on than penis size. My girlfriend told me that I've been her best sexual partner because I'm confident, I communicate well, and I pay attention to her needs in the bedroom. Do all of this, and the sex will be great. 5.5" is the average size, and it works just fine in my experiences. Don't worry too much or be self-conscious, you'll be fine.
your girlfriend is right. size does not matter it is how u use it. dont let anyone tell u otherwise. I know men take pride in how big they are but they forget it doesnt matter.
Hey,
when I was 17 I had a similar size that you have. My length was just below 6" and my girth(distance around/thickness) was just below 5". This size is perfectly normal but I still wished I was bigger.
I luckily found this website, that provides massive amounts of imformation on how to greatly increase penis size with specific exercises, and do it in a safe manner also. It's 100% free of course...
It's called Thundersplace. Type it into google, it may well be one of the best decisions you'll ever make ;).
Any questions, just ask!
P.s. I am now 7.5" in length and 5.5" in girth. The Serbian girl I was just with averaged at 3 orgasms everytime(largly due to my technique, but my size definitly played a part). Good luck! ;)
Hey Ben10, my size is 5.5" when erected..last 2008 I had a TURP (transurethral resection of the Prostrate) after the surgery,where they insert a surgical instrument inside your penis to reach the prostrate gland, my erection is not as hard as before. I can have and erection but not hard enough to penetrate my girl. This has caused me a lot of anxiety and losing self confidence n bed. Can you give me some advice.
Im 17 myself, and my boyfriend is 18, hes not got the biggest in the world (6") and we have great sex, its true, its how you use it, so just learn a few tips and techniques here and youll be fine!
haha thank you for the advice!
heyy all..
i was just wondering if it's normal to ejaculate in around 10 mins because the girl im with has experience and i really dont want to disappoint her, this will be my first time.. im also not on the "big" side for a penis, so i dont know what she's gonna think when she sees me to be honest.. i mean.. do girls actually think about the bigger the better? :(
please please help me >.<
no we dont.. it all depends on how u use it.. and try and go slower if you can it makes a diffrence.
sometimes bigger can be better but when it's TOO big then it's not really enjoyable. i mean i have only had sex with one guy but i think he is a perfect size for me. if you guys really like each other then it shouldn't matter. and ejaculating within 10 minutes isn't bad. but if you don't like it then do something about it. you need to know your body. when you get that feeling that you're going to cum just think of something else and maybe put more attention on kissing her neck or something. after you calm down a little then you can start back up again. =]]
p.s.
i hope that helped...
yea it helps a bit, only thing about my size is that im below average... making me worried she wont get any pleasure from me :(
p.s. i dont mind finishing in that time, i just didnt know if it was normal or not... but thanks for the tip incase i need to extend the time it takes me so i can satisfy her.
Okay, so im 16. I'm no longer a virgin. I lost it when i was 14 to this asshole who i thought i loved. I regret it. But now im with this sweet kid who i love to death and he loves me. We've decided after dating for almost a year we're ready. Thing is its his first time, my second. (Thankfully i only did it once with the ass[my ex] before we broke up). See, my first time i felt nothing, nada, ZIP! No pain nothing. NO pleasure. I felt something inside and that was it. It was the same when he fingered me, and played with my boobs (nips mostly). I felt him but i got no pleasant feeling from it. I'm afraid that with my current guy that i won't be able to feel anything. He's the first guy im physically, emotionally, and sexually attracted to. When he fingers, i feel slight pleasure but not as much as most do, and sometimes i dont even feel that hes sucking my nips. I dont know what it is. THere are certain moments where i can feel things and then there arent. I really want to be able to feel him, and the whole experience. I dont know whats wrong, but i wanted to know if that happens sometimes?
P.S i have discussed this with him, and i even told him that maybe then i was too loose, or it may be that damage from an incident from my past might contribute to it, and hes more than willing to do everything he can to help but we're at a loss.
when he is doing this, clear your mind of everything... only think about what he's doing... then find out something you like and bring attention to it... such as tell him "i love it wen you bite my neck"... bc that shows you're paying attn, it makes him feel better bc he knows he's doing something rite, and it gives u more pleasure bc ur brain is focused on that one thing... trust me, i told my guy that the other nite and it made me feel so much better... like i seriously lost my breath and forgot where i was... it makes it so much better wen u tell them bc it makes him feel better and you get a better experience...
are you completely focused and 'into' what you are doing when he is fingering and doing other things to you? When I don't feel pleasure, it's usually cause there are other things on my mind or because I am upset.
is it normal to be scared before your first time? for the last 5 months i have been planning a trip to new york to see my boyfriend, and while i'm up there i thought me and him could share our first time together... i'm worried that i wont be able to satisfy him... what position would be best for our first time and also i'm worried that i'm going to get pregnant... we would use a condom but i know that people can still get pregnant even when using some type of birth control. any advice you could give me would be greatly apreciated
Yeahhh It is Normall just dont worry about at the end of the every one goes through it.
Everyone has that worry that your gonna get pregnant just make sure you use protection and that. People say it dont hurt and that but everyones body is diffrent.
errmm you said somethingg about a position? i say the guy goes on top as its more easier. Just dont tense :)x
Changing the context of how you think about the whole encounter can be a real stress reducer. Yes I was very nervous the first time, so my first girl friend and I took things in little steps.
Lots of dry humping with clothes on. Then with less clothes, etc. Thinking about things in terms of suddenly being naked and banging right off the bat can be a bit nerve wracking.
Talk about expectations ahead of time. Let him know that you're nervous. I bet he is to. Introduce the concept of 'play time' to him ahead of time too. It will take the stress of him and you.
Keep an open mind!
I hope things go well.
All of my friends who have done it were scared before they did it. I haven't but I'm very nervous about it. It's very normal I think. I think most people do the normal missionary their first time but I'm going to be on top so I can control it since it's going to hurt so much supposedly. Oh and I read that the chances of getting pregnant with condoms and birth control are almost zero. I have a friend who just uses condoms with her boyfriend and they've never had a problem. I have a guy friend who doesn't even use condoms and hasn't got a girl pregnant lol.
hey. im 2 young 2 get the pill or anything and were both virgins so i cant get an std. we dont want 2 use a condomthe first time cuz we want 2 feel eachother. and im really curious abouyt what it would feel like if he cummed inside me. but i dont want 2 get pregnant. is there a certain time u can hav sex without getting pregnant? like during or right after ur period? plez help
i suggest not not going all the way without a condom. I'd say start out without, and when he feels close to ejaculating, have him pull out and put one on. It doesn't take long to do, so he will easily work back up. Don't risk pregnancy. It's not fun...
There is a time when pregnancy is LESS likely, its either before or after the period, I don't know which. However, that being said, its never a good idea to have unprotected sex unless you're planning on having a baby because there is always a chance. And seeing as you're too young for the pill, I don't think thats in the cards.
i right after your period is when your less likely
My boyfriend and I have been having sex for over a year. There are times where he has trouble climaxing during sex. For the last month or so, he can not climax inside of me, and a few minutes into sex he gets soft. He starts out seeming like he is having fun, but ends up getting somewhat frustrated when he cannot get off. Whenever this happens I have trouble enjoying sex. I find the whole situation very discouraging. The problem does not have to do with condoms keeping him from being sensetive. We are both STD free and I am on the pill so we don't need them. Also, we both participate in foreplay. I usually give him oral and play with his twins until he is very turned on. I don't know what the problem is. Can someone please help?
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