Vaginal Intercourse
Vaginal intercourse is more commonly known as sex or coitus in Latin. It is the act of inserting the penis into the vagina, and is one of the most pleasurable experiences that two people can share. This article only covers the basics in what you need to know, make sure to visit the rest of the site for more advanced techniques.
First Time
The first time having sexual intercourse, for many people, is never what they expect. It is never as fulfilling or beautiful as fantasized about or seen in media. Your first time can be a very intimate experience if taken slowly, but do not expect it to be the best sex you will ever have. For women, their first couple of times will be painful and the man needs to take extra special care in going slow and listening to her needs. From the other point of view, many men suffer from a performance anxiety their first time as a result of all this pressure to knock her boots off. If this happens, return back to foreplay, do not let it bother or stop you as it is natural. When the time is right, everything will happen, so be supportive of each other.
First time sexual encounters are usually fumbling, learning experiences, where both people are just starting to understand their partners body and how to make that person satisfied sexually. For more detailed information on your first time, make sure to check out the first time for her and first time for him articles.
Movement
Sex is all about trying to stimulate the sensitive areas of the vagina and penis, how you move should depend on your preferences and the position. Some people enjoy slowly rocking together, others enjoy quick shallow strokes, and yet others love nothing more then the sensation of deep penetration. There is no right or wrong way, as long as both people are enjoying the experience.
A common misconception is that thrusting faster means better sex. Although most people enjoy going really hard right before climax, this point must be reached before the approach feels good. You should always try new things, keep mixing it up by varying your speed and the depth as you build towards climax.
Finding the rhythm may take some time, as will getting your abs, legs, arms and back into shape. Though most positions don’t require a great deal of strength, they all require endurance, so strengthening your muscles is a good place to start.
Positions
Please refer to the sex positions sections for ideas and details.
If you have any comments about this article, or would like to share your personal experiences, please post below!
alrighty ladies here is your
alrighty ladies here is your problem orgasms for girls need your own input if you are having amazing sex with your boyfriend and you can't climax your problem may be this if you tighten the muscles in your vagina and i mean tighten NOT push like ur pooping but pull if you dont get that idk what to tell you but tighten ur muscles in your vagina and hold it i mean really hold it while you are having sex if that doesnt make you cum you're doing it wrong
it doesn't enter, it's too big
I've problems with my gf... we do oral perfectly but there is no way to make my penis enter in her vagina... it blocks at the glans and can't go any further, she feels pain if i try to push it then and we have to stop.
Oral sex is great but we, both of us, really want to have intercourse.
Any suggestions?
I can relate
Me and my g/f started to have sex for the first time, and it hurt her a lot. I tried to enter but it always hurt her too much and we'd stop. I figured out that Fingering her with one finger until she gets extremely aroused and moving to two fingers, helped to prepare her for intercourse. We tried fingering over two weeks to prepare her and then once again before we tried sex.
Best of Luck and remember to relax and enjoy and show lotss of love
go to a doctor number one
go to a doctor number one and he may suggest botox shots i know it sounds wierd but i saw it on the tyra banks show u need to go to the doctors and have them see whats going on down there and they will figure something out for you
when my bf and i are
when my bf and i are together, things get wild..in the end he reaches climax, but never has he gotten me to...he plays with my clitoris, and fingers me and its great but i never climax. we've even had sex and hes the only one that orgasms...i know he would love to get me off, but he never has been able...we're completely comfortable around eachother too, so i dont understand. is there anything i can do or he can do that would help?
i forgot to add, everything is fine when im by myself...in other words, i finish
im 17 i was a virgin for all
im 17 i was a virgin for all of my half yrs of my 17 im still 17 but recently im not longering a virgin because the guy i have been talkin to in the summer its already been 2 months already. so like then we had sex on the 2 month of knowing each other and that was my first time having sex to me it was a bit weird cuz it wasnt that great but i know that we have to do it couple of times so to me it would become a little bit better sex with him.
too much!
My bf and I both have voracious sexual appetites and though we don't see each other often, when we do its explosive. I have no problem climaxing several times over one session. The main issue though, is that each session has a tendency to last over 2 hours. He has unearthly stamina and can't seem to shorten the time any. I'm worried he's going to kill me from sheer exhaustion or dehydration or something! Is there any way I can help him train his body to be capable of a quicky once in a while?
same
I'm in a situation similar to this...
wondering
Im 17 and I've been with my girlfriend for about 2 months and we are madly in love. Im a virgin and she has more experience. She doesnt know my size but she says size doesnt matter its how you use it. But im still worried because I have a 5.5" dick and I was wondering if I wont be able to please her with it. We are very open to each other though but this is the only thing im afraid about.
Need advice!
I was in nearly the exact
I was in nearly the exact situation with my current girlfriend. 5.5" penis, she was more experienced, etc. The absolute most important thing you can do is be confident in yourself. This is a much bigger turn on than penis size. My girlfriend told me that I've been her best sexual partner because I'm confident, I communicate well, and I pay attention to her needs in the bedroom. Do all of this, and the sex will be great. 5.5" is the average size, and it works just fine in my experiences. Don't worry too much or be self-conscious, you'll be fine.
Size
your girlfriend is right. size does not matter it is how u use it. dont let anyone tell u otherwise. I know men take pride in how big they are but they forget it doesnt matter.
There are exercises which will make you bigger!!
Hey,
when I was 17 I had a similar size that you have. My length was just below 6" and my girth(distance around/thickness) was just below 5". This size is perfectly normal but I still wished I was bigger.
I luckily found this website, that provides massive amounts of imformation on how to greatly increase penis size with specific exercises, and do it in a safe manner also. It's 100% free of course...
It's called Thundersplace. Type it into google, it may well be one of the best decisions you'll ever make ;).
Any questions, just ask!
P.s. I am now 7.5" in length and 5.5" in girth. The Serbian girl I was just with averaged at 3 orgasms everytime(largly due to my technique, but my size definitly played a part). Good luck! ;)
Dont worry
Im 17 myself, and my boyfriend is 18, hes not got the biggest in the world (6") and we have great sex, its true, its how you use it, so just learn a few tips and techniques here and youll be fine!
haha thank you for the
haha thank you for the advice!
normal?
heyy all..
i was just wondering if it's normal to ejaculate in around 10 mins because the girl im with has experience and i really dont want to disappoint her, this will be my first time.. im also not on the "big" side for a penis, so i dont know what she's gonna think when she sees me to be honest.. i mean.. do girls actually think about the bigger the better? :(
please please help me >.<
no we dont.. it all depends
no we dont.. it all depends on how u use it.. and try and go slower if you can it makes a diffrence.
sometimes bigger can be
sometimes bigger can be better but when it's TOO big then it's not really enjoyable. i mean i have only had sex with one guy but i think he is a perfect size for me. if you guys really like each other then it shouldn't matter. and ejaculating within 10 minutes isn't bad. but if you don't like it then do something about it. you need to know your body. when you get that feeling that you're going to cum just think of something else and maybe put more attention on kissing her neck or something. after you calm down a little then you can start back up again. =]]
p.s.
i hope that helped...
thanks but...
yea it helps a bit, only thing about my size is that im below average... making me worried she wont get any pleasure from me :(
p.s. i dont mind finishing in that time, i just didnt know if it was normal or not... but thanks for the tip incase i need to extend the time it takes me so i can satisfy her.
At a Loss about what to di
Okay, so im 16. I'm no longer a virgin. I lost it when i was 14 to this asshole who i thought i loved. I regret it. But now im with this sweet kid who i love to death and he loves me. We've decided after dating for almost a year we're ready. Thing is its his first time, my second. (Thankfully i only did it once with the ass[my ex] before we broke up). See, my first time i felt nothing, nada, ZIP! No pain nothing. NO pleasure. I felt something inside and that was it. It was the same when he fingered me, and played with my boobs (nips mostly). I felt him but i got no pleasant feeling from it. I'm afraid that with my current guy that i won't be able to feel anything. He's the first guy im physically, emotionally, and sexually attracted to. When he fingers, i feel slight pleasure but not as much as most do, and sometimes i dont even feel that hes sucking my nips. I dont know what it is. THere are certain moments where i can feel things and then there arent. I really want to be able to feel him, and the whole experience. I dont know whats wrong, but i wanted to know if that happens sometimes?
P.S i have discussed this with him, and i even told him that maybe then i was too loose, or it may be that damage from an incident from my past might contribute to it, and hes more than willing to do everything he can to help but we're at a loss.
when he is doing this, clear
when he is doing this, clear your mind of everything... only think about what he's doing... then find out something you like and bring attention to it... such as tell him "i love it wen you bite my neck"... bc that shows you're paying attn, it makes him feel better bc he knows he's doing something rite, and it gives u more pleasure bc ur brain is focused on that one thing... trust me, i told my guy that the other nite and it made me feel so much better... like i seriously lost my breath and forgot where i was... it makes it so much better wen u tell them bc it makes him feel better and you get a better experience...
are you completely focused
are you completely focused and 'into' what you are doing when he is fingering and doing other things to you? When I don't feel pleasure, it's usually cause there are other things on my mind or because I am upset.
is it normal to be scared
is it normal to be scared before your first time? for the last 5 months i have been planning a trip to new york to see my boyfriend, and while i'm up there i thought me and him could share our first time together... i'm worried that i wont be able to satisfy him... what position would be best for our first time and also i'm worried that i'm going to get pregnant... we would use a condom but i know that people can still get pregnant even when using some type of birth control. any advice you could give me would be greatly apreciated
It's normal
All of my friends who have done it were scared before they did it. I haven't but I'm very nervous about it. It's very normal I think. I think most people do the normal missionary their first time but I'm going to be on top so I can control it since it's going to hurt so much supposedly. Oh and I read that the chances of getting pregnant with condoms and birth control are almost zero. I have a friend who just uses condoms with her boyfriend and they've never had a problem. I have a guy friend who doesn't even use condoms and hasn't got a girl pregnant lol.
im scared
hey. im 2 young 2 get the pill or anything and were both virgins so i cant get an std. we dont want 2 use a condomthe first time cuz we want 2 feel eachother. and im really curious abouyt what it would feel like if he cummed inside me. but i dont want 2 get pregnant. is there a certain time u can hav sex without getting pregnant? like during or right after ur period? plez help
i suggest not not going all
i suggest not not going all the way without a condom. I'd say start out without, and when he feels close to ejaculating, have him pull out and put one on. It doesn't take long to do, so he will easily work back up. Don't risk pregnancy. It's not fun...
There is a time when
There is a time when pregnancy is LESS likely, its either before or after the period, I don't know which. However, that being said, its never a good idea to have unprotected sex unless you're planning on having a baby because there is always a chance. And seeing as you're too young for the pill, I don't think thats in the cards.
i right after your period is
i right after your period is when your less likely
help!
My boyfriend and I have been having sex for over a year. There are times where he has trouble climaxing during sex. For the last month or so, he can not climax inside of me, and a few minutes into sex he gets soft. He starts out seeming like he is having fun, but ends up getting somewhat frustrated when he cannot get off. Whenever this happens I have trouble enjoying sex. I find the whole situation very discouraging. The problem does not have to do with condoms keeping him from being sensetive. We are both STD free and I am on the pill so we don't need them. Also, we both participate in foreplay. I usually give him oral and play with his twins until he is very turned on. I don't know what the problem is. Can someone please help?
i need help =[
my bf and i were kinda having fun the other day, and it wasnt the first time... he has fingered me alot and we have had sex, but this time when he fingered me i bled alottt.. and i am really worried that it is a bad thing, or that it could be a bad sign because i have never bled before.....
WEll...
1. did you just finish your period a few days before? sometimes for a lot of girls, your period tricks you into thinking its finished and when you start to get aroused and fluid are released and then tissue and blood that never flowed like it was supposed to will start to flow again. This has happened to me before, and it reallllllly sucks.
or
2. did you bleed your first time? if not its simply explained. In basic health they told us girls that each hymen is different it can be so large/thick that it nearly covers the hole entrance or so small/thin that it might not break the first time. The second may apply to you, and your bf might have finally broke your hymen by fingering involving little to no pain. Its rare but it does happen.
or
3. He could have just torn somthing, simple as that. Make sure his nails are trimmed so he doesnt scratch and wound. That can sometimes do it. Or at the time you may have been too tight.