His First Time
Most men are naturally a bit afraid of their first time having sexual intercourse. Will I enjoy it? Will I satisfy her? Is she the right one? Will I be able to get it up? These are all questions that many men think about before their first time. The truth is that your first few times having sex may not be remembered as your best sex ever. Most men agree that the first time is often fast and very clumsy.
Being Ready
The first thing to consider is the person you are with. You want your first time to be with someone you really care for and that really cares for you in return. Since sex will most likely be not that great the first few times, the person you are with is what you’ll want to remember. Many men often rush into sex before they are ready because their friends are doing it and they are ashamed of being virgins. This should not be your reason, there is no correct amount of time to wait; you just want to make sure that you will not regret the decision later.
A few questions you can ask yourself are: Do I trust my partner with my life? Can I see myself having a long relationship with this person? Is she or anyone else pressuring me? Is having sex for me, or for someone else?
Although everyone has anxieties, if you don’t feel you are completely ready, wait. If the gal you are with really cares for you enough, she will understand that this is a big decision, and you don’t want to rush it.
Tips
Choose a place where you feel safe and comfortable, your bedroom may be the best place.
Choose a secure time when roommates / parents / friends won't come barging in.
Gain some experience ahead of time. You want to have explored foreplay for quite awhile before you take the plunge. Having a good understanding of how both your bodies work, as well as having played together, will take away much of the tension. Make sure that you feel 100% comfortable in the nude with the lights on, as having sex will be much more intimate then looking at each other.
Communication is the most important thing in a sexual relationship. Make sure to talk about doing it ahead of time to make sure that you are both thinking the same thing. Getting the topic out in the open allows you to become more comfortable with it.
Feel free to say stop when ever you want, whether you haven’t started, are starting, or are well under way. It may be because you are getting cold feet, or something about the situation feels wrong, the reason can be whatever you want, just make sure the person you are with will respect your wishes.
If you have erection difficulties, or ejaculate prematurely - something that often happens the first few times - stay positive. Don’t stress it, since stressing it will only cause it to happen again and again. Try to relax. If your erection comes back, it does, and if it doesn’t, it doesn’t. You can try later that day, the next day, next week, or whenever you want, so don’t get yourself down. If you have chosen a good partner, she will understand this and try to help you out with some manual or oral stimulation.
Just like men sometimes have erection problems from anxiety, women may have trouble getting wet (known as Excessive Dryness). Be patient and do everything that you would expect her to do if you had the male version of the problem. The problem can be solved to some degree using a water-based lubricant like K-Y Jelly. You can find it and many other lubricants in our online store.
Be sure you are both open enough to talk about the experience afterwards, even if not right away. Whether it was as hot as a Spanish soap opera, or as embarrassing as a skit from American Pie, be sure to talk about it. If you can’t talk afterwards, then you are simply not ready to move to this level. Communication is the key!
The most important thing you need to know is to enjoy safe sex by using protection. Whether it be to protect your partner from pregnancy, or to prevent contracting STDs, you want to protect yourself to the fullest extent. Until you have been with your partner to get checked for STDs, and you are on other birth control, there is no excuse for not using protection. Although condoms may not always be that pleasant, they are much better then contracting something like genital warts. You can buy condoms at most pharmacies, or order them online from our online store.
We shouldn’t have to say this, but we will mention it anyway. Do not go bragging to others about what happened. Sex is something you share with your partner, and there will usually be privacy expectations. It can be a major event in your life, one that you’d love to share with a friend or two, but find out what your partner’s wishes are first, and respect them.
Remember, this experience should be an extremely special and intimate time for both partners. Good luck, and remember that the best sex happens with people you care greatly about.
i have a hairy ass and hairy body what should i do about that? Shouldyou shave or leave the hair
There are products out there that do not require you to shave, like Veet or Nair. I wouldn't recommend using them on your genital area, but on the cheeks of your ass and chest and stuff should be fine.
you should probably shave. i just started shaving and my sex life has gotten so much better. but hir is always a matter of opinion. find out what the girls around you like and act accordingly
i'm a 19 year old college student and still a virgin i know its old to have not lost it yet can someone give me tips
there is nothing wrong with still being a virgin at 19. believe it or not....guys being a virgin is actually an attractive thing. =]] you should have sex when you're ready. it shouldn't matter what anyone else thinks but yourself. email me if you still wanna talk. =]]
girls find it attractive for guys to be virgins? if so then why? i dont understand that for one reason... how is no experience and probably one of the worst lays of your life a turn-on? CONFUSED AS HELL! help pls!
ftc, the reason a girl would find it attractive is that not everyone is obsessed with having sex. if the girl is still a virgin, she wouldn't want to go out with a guy who's had sex like 20 times. just depends on the person you're dealing with
yeah it might be one of your worst but sometimes like 2 in 5 virgins study sex loads rly so they know alot just not how to do it
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Oh, well I guess that is kind of true. Because I am a virgin and only 15, but it seems like everyone around me is having sex. But I fel pride in being called a virgin, but at the same time, horomones racing, I can't stop thinking about sex and how much I want to have it, but I want it to be with the right person. So, because of that, I want her to be extremely pleased, so I have studied sex more than anyone else I know.
i'm a 15 year old guy, and i can never really talk to a girl. i'm not scarred of them or anything, but when i'm talking to a girl solo or in a group (but mostly solo), i get nervous and i can't think of things to say. and if i do say something, it's usually the wrong thing. and thats why i've never asked a girl out, because i fear awkward silences beyond almost anything else. and this one girl i have known for 4 years sees me as just a classmate but i have feelings for her. any advice is welcomed
I'm in the same position. EXACTLY the same. i'm in 9th grade and i haven't a clue what to do. Does anyone have any advice???
Hey man, I'm 17 and still a virgin I'm about a few days to losing it to my best friend who I've known for more than 6 years. It's good to find a person who you've spent a lot of time with and you both have had minor crushes on each other. You just need to be comfortable with that person. If you feel that classmate of yours is the right one, make a move. Be more talkative towards her. A lot of a relationship with a female is based on listening. Trust me a lot of girls call me a player for that. -.- Well get back at me for any info mate because I used to feel the exact same way you did.
So like... Im 14 and I think sex sounds pretty good.. Does it have the same feeling as masterbating?... Better?.. Is it only better because you are with someone else? I feel like im the only 14 year old at my school wanting to have sex so bad... Im not worried about size. Erect im ALMOST 8 inches...I feel good about that =P. I just want to know how it feels and how to start talking to my girlfriend about it. I don´t just wanna blurt out. ¨Wanna do it?¨ Help!
:| same age as me and in my opinion, totally immature about wanting it.
Masturbation is a solo act.
Intercourse is when two people become one.
and it feels sooo much better.
and i'll tell you this right now, son, you won't be the only guy in school wanting to do it. TRUST ME.
at 14 hormones are racing and you know that right?
but talk to your girlfriend
if you want to do it, make sure the feeling is mutual. make sure we wants to do it, and if she doesnt and you love her, wait. cos that's what a real man does.
and waiting is a good thing, hold onto your virginity for as long as you can.
And, sometimes, the girl wants it more than the guy.
i talked to my boyfriend about it and i was telling him that i am ready and sure i want to loose it to him. and he was totally calm about it and everything and made sure i was comfortable and ready. we haven't done it yet, but my best friend has. she said it's amazing for both of you.
so talk to her, say something like, "I'm just wondering here. how do you feel about sex?" and if she goes sick, comfort her and say you were only asking. and do it face to face when you're alone, not on msn or in a group. talk to her in an adult way.
Sex is an adult thing, and if you can't act like an Adult, you aren't ready for sex.
thing about that, kiddo, k? :)
so im 16 and i think i might have a erectile disfunction iv tryed to have sex twice and i don't know what it is but i cant get hard when ever we just fool around i get hard but when i know were going to fuck i just cant get hard any one know what do do or can help
I had this same problem recently and just got over it about a week ago. the problem is nervousness, no matter what you tell yourself. relaxation is key, i was extrememly stressed out the first time she and i tried and that was easily the worst sex ive ever had. so what she and i did was go back to foreplay, give her a good orgasm first, get one yourself first, then go from there, works for me.
i am 15 years old and a virgin have never even seen a girl naked and i don't want to watch porn..... however i really want to please my gf and she won't tell me wat she likes........... can anyone tell me how to please a girl??? cuz she said to look around on the net si i thought i'd ask u guys
Relax first of all. Don't push yourself. A girl likes a guy who is in control of himself. Watching porn isn't necessarily a bad thing, but I would advise reading articles on sites like this to help you out. Take your time. Be generous and thoughtful in the bedroom. Be silly even!!! Just relax and let it happen. Don't hyperventilate.
She's telling you to watch porn. It's really good to watch it. It's like watching a how to video and you can jack off as you learn. Take notes if you need to.. ;)
hey,im 15,bout to turn 16,non-virgin.if u guys r like,freaking out about your first time,dont. its...wen your comfortable with having sex and not worried about your first time,then go ahead. use protection obviously,lol. but dont worry too much about your first time,it wont be perfect tha first tima anyways cause you'll be new at it. my bf is still a virgin and hes 16. hes worried about me getting pregnant but thats about it. were ready to have sex and im gonna try and make his first time worth it. for all of u that are goin out wit a gf or bf thats experienced,i think(maybe they do too) they should try and get u relaxed first so that u'll enjoy it enough to stop freakin out about your first time. idk if i helped or not but i hope i helped atleast sum wat
I am 18 what are some good ways to jack off any good tips and any good sites to watch to jack off to.
dude instead of wasting ur time trying to find a good site to jack of to. u should just go out and find a girl to jack u off
okay im 16 and im a virgin ive been with my boyfriend fo a year and a month and hes 21 everyone says that hes to old for me but i say age is just a number and who cares ass long as we love each other but im ready to have sez but im terrified..about everything and first of all i have low self esteem adn im wondering that since in 16 im probably different from the other girls hes been with..help me i need advice<3
I hope this doesnt come off as misogynistic, but as the girl, theres not really much you have to do, the guy is usually expected to do all the work, especially if its your first time, all you should worry about is relaxing, and maybe if he wants your help getting hard, other than that, again, all you need to do is relax.
i can understand your worries i am a 19 year old female and before i had sex for the first time a few weeks ago i was scared but because my wonderful boyfriend whos 25 never forced me into anything so i relaxed and became more comfortable with him. it made it so much easier and it didn;t hurt when he entered me for the first time but we had expirienced foreplay before hand. also if your boyfriend cares about you he will wait until your 100% ready to have sex for the first time don;t rush into it if your not 100% ready wait until your absolutely sure about you want to do it
hay im 16 too my girlfriend is terrified too trust me she 15 and im a grade ahead of her and her friends say da same thing about me .... but just wait till ur ready dont rush in and make mistakes !!!
Hey, well im thinking of having sex for my first time yeah, im 15 and the girl im with i really do care for. We've done most other things and i know what she likes etc. for example i gave her multiple orgasms going down on her. she hasn't made me cum yet. And when ever she has tossed me off i didn't feel near to cumming either. so im worried during intercourse i wont cum, is that a bad thing?
never mind, i had sex, we both loved it. it was amazing. it wasnt her first time, but it was mine, and she said i was amazing. so im rather confident at the moment. :) thanks anyway lmao.
right, i am a boy who has a girlfriend who has sexual experience and loves her dearly, and i do feel that i am ready to move that step further into intercourse, however she seems alittle immature about it and doesnt realise how big of a step it is for me to take. Also, she seems to put me under alot of pressure about it and can make me nervous
please reply
hairy or shaved shouldnt matter if u love the girl... personally i like shaved too but hey i guess most do..
no offense to the hair lovers lol
im 19 year old vergin (go ahead and laugh) however looking at a hariy vagina is the worst thing ever do other guys feel the same or am i being a pussy? i dont mind sticking my thing in it but but giving a girl head will be my last resort what shall i do?
Dont worry about it. I am 19 years old and although I am not a virgin I dont like alot of hair on girls. But you do get use to it, especially if you love the girl. Also dont do anything your not comfortable with. If you dont want to go down on a girl you dont have to. No one can force you to do something.
ok, i think u r being a pussy...it's just human nature an maybe if ur lucky enough u can find a girl who does shave, a lot of us do. i do an i kno my b/f doesn't care if i do or don't, he'd actually rather have me NOT he says...and if u meet a girl who doesn't maybe u could talk 2 her about it, i got my b/f 2 start shaving his chest an goodies!! so yea...suck it up bud! its not that bad!!!
that might be your opinion, and also his, but others such as me and him dont like hair on a girl, its a major turn-off to us, i may be 15 but that means shit all. we have our own opinions and also dont be such a bitch! if you dont think its that bad, try rubbing your crotch up against his chest hair for 5 - 20 mins straight... if you dont feel like it then thats how we feel. if you dont like it, then take your own advice and just suck it up!
why don't you watch porn forever and not bother expending your energy and brain power meeting real girls, and when you do finally get a girlfriend treat her like a series of wholes to stick penises into?
im 20 years old and a vergine i've been seeing this girl i really like however she doesnt want to have sex she says that she wants to wait till shes married, what should i do i really want to do it and she's the first girl i have thought about doing it with. However i have some fears i dont know how it will feel will i be able to get it up? and will she cry cuz thats going to F@@k up the mood? i've wasted all my money on flowers now i want some action what shall i do?
you make her sound like a gumball machine. Put some money into it and you'll get a treat in return. No, understand her! Think about if you were in a situation where you've made up your mind about something. Then, someone you really care about comes along and pressures you to do the total oposite. Trust me, If she doesn't want to - but does anyway, just because you want her to - WILL NOT make it enjoyable! I know getting married is too big of a trade to have sex, but thats just it! Sex shouldn't be something you trade. It should be where you and someone love each other so much that you want to share and give imense pleasure with and to each other. If you really want sex but its not going to happen, try the next best thing - Foreplay. You both should be able to orgasm with fingering/oral/jerking/etc. And if she changes her mind by then, well you should be able to tell if you can get it up with all the foreplay you'd have done. Sometimes sex can be painfull for a girl, yes. You never know what might happen, so take it slow and read her body language closely. Hope this helps :)
my first time I was 16 and the girl I was with was more experienced. She got on top and was riding me for like 5-6 minutes before I came. She was really sweet and didn't seem to mind so I guess my question is, would that be considered premature ejaculation?
Every one lasts different lengths of time. But generally speaking under 2 minutes is premature ejaculation.
What is the best postion to start off with having sex? Is it better to be drunk when u first go at it?
do not be drunk! u both want 2 remember it and if its her first time 2 then u mite hurt her and not even kno it.
i'd say girl on bottom and NO! do not be under the influence! you want to remember this and she would be really turned off if u were smashed and u might not be able to get it up!
Can someone tell me what position we should do first we are both Virgins and we are gonna have some fun time together,but we don't know what position try first can someone post some good and un-painfull the 1st time ?
my boyfriend an i both lost our virginities 2 weeks ago together. i was on bottom an i would recommend that to anyone :-) and it depends really on the girl how painful it'll be (how intact her hymen is, etc.) so the position doesn't really have too much to do with it. Just listen to her and start off slow :-)
well actually positions with her ontop shouldn't hurt her at all. Maybe start with giving eachother head. If she's all revved up before you do it she will hurt even less, or at all
missionary if u have no experience at all and neither does she. it very simple and still good. Just make sure you incorporate a lot of foreplay first so it won't hut her that much. I suggest fingering and a lot of touchy feely stuff. The more turned on she gets the wetter the vagina gets and the more the vaginal walls expand preparing for penetration. It's still going to hurt her a lil but not nearly as much as it would if you didn't do anything before hand.
Hey what are some good sex tips for the first time to have sex and is better off to drink before and be drunk the first time. Do girls like body hair or not? Where is the best place to have it?
Never be drunk! and body hair varies. Honestly, I love a hairy man, but don't be afraid to talk to your girlfriend about it.
firstly, Dont be Drunk! Depending on the girl, for her first time it wont be that great.. and for body hair, all girls are different, but i hate body hair on the chest..euughh..
it's ok everywhere but your crotch they prefer that to be shaved
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