Her First Time
Most women are naturally a bit afraid of their first time having sex. Will I enjoy it? Will it hurt? Will I satisfy my man? Is he the right one? These are all questions that most women think about before their first time. The truth is that your first few times having sex will not be remembered as your best sex ever. Most women agree that the first time often hurts a little, is uncomfortable, and is often very clumsy. Once you get passed the first few times, you will start enjoying all the pleasures that this type of intimacy has to offer.
Being Ready
The first thing to consider is the person you are with. You want your first time to be with someone you really care for and that really cares for you in return. Since sex will most likely be not that great the first few times, the person you are with is what you’ll want to remember. Many women often rush into sex before they are ready because their friends are doing it or because their boyfriend is expecting it. Neither of these should be a part of your reason, there is no correct amount of time to wait; you just want to make sure that you will not regret the decision later.
A few questions you can ask yourself are: Do I trust my partner with my life? Can I see myself having a long relationship with this person? Is he pressuring me? Is having sex for me, or for someone else?
Although everyone has anxieties, if you don’t feel you are completely ready, wait. If the guy you are with really cares for you enough, he will understand that this is a big decision, and you don’t want to rush it. You do not want to give it up to a guy who is worried more about his stature with his friends then your feelings.
Tips
- Choose a place where you feel safe and comfortable, your bedroom may be the best place.
- Choose a secure time when roommates / parents / friends won't come barging in.
- Gain some experience ahead of time. You want to have explored foreplay for quite awhile before you take the plunge. Having a good understanding of how your and his body works as well as having played together will take away much of the tension. Make sure that you feel 100% comfortable in the nude with the lights on, as having sex will be much more intimate then looking at each other.
- Communication is the most important thing in a sexual relationship. Make sure to talk about doing it ahead of time to make sure that you are both thinking the same thing. Getting the topic out in the open allows you to become more comfortable with the topic.
- Most women feel pain during intercourse the first few times because they aren’t used to having an object penetrating them. This can be reduced dramatically through fingering. Whether you finger yourself or your partner fingers you, stretching out your vaginal opening will definitely improve the experience.
- Feel free to say stop when ever you want, whether you haven’t started, are starting, or are well under way. It may be because you are getting cold feet, or something about the situation feels wrong, the reason can be whatever you want, just make sure the person you are with will honor your wishes.
- Excessive dryness of the vagina can be a problem, especially when nervous of the first time experience of intercourse. Although lubricant will not stop all the pain, it will definitely decrease it to some extent. K-Y Jelly is most often recommended, and it can be purchased in our online store.
- There are a few positions that are really good for starting out, depending on your concerns. If you want to be in control, then we suggest having your partner lie on his back, and you can straddle him “cow girl style”. If you would rather be on the bottom, the missionary position is probably the best way to start.
- If your partner has erection difficulties, or ejaculates prematurely - either of which often happens the first few times - be supportive. This can be one of the most embarrassing things that can happen to a young man, and if not dealt with properly, can result in ongoing problems. If erection problems do happen, try to stimulate him a little, and take some time before you try to put it in again.
- The most important thing you need to know is to practice safe sex by using protection. Whether it be to protect you from pregnancy, or to prevent contracting STDs, you want to protect yourself to the fullest extent. Until you have been with your partner to get checked for STDs, and you are on other birth control, there is no excuse for not using protection. Just because there is no excuse not to use them doesn’t mean that guys will do everything they can to get away from them, and be prepared to hear everything from it makes me go limp, to it takes away from the pleasure, to they were sold out. You can buy condoms at most pharmacies, or order them online from our online store.
Remember, this experience should be an extremely special and intimate time for both partners. Good luck, and remember, the best sex happens with people you care greatly about.
my first time...
My first time I was 18 and a half (im 20 now) and I was kinda friends with guy, and one thing lead to another, but I did regret it alittle bit, because I felt like I needed to wait til marriage. Although I dont regret it at the same time because we still talk we're still friends... Ive slept with other guys, have a boyfriend now, but we're waiting to have sex. We're pretty sure we're going to get married someday and waiting til then is better. Most of you girls who are 14, 15,16 and thinking about sex shouldnt. Its not worth it, and complicates things more than you can think of. Just wait. Its not that big of a deal.
okay im 16 and im a virgin
okay im 16 and im a virgin ive been with my boyfriend for a year and a month and hes 21 everyone says that hes to old for me but i say age is just a number and who cares as long as we love each other but im ready to have sex but im terrified..about everything and my parents and where were going to do it and first of all i have low self esteem adn im wondering that since in 16 im probably different from the other girls hes been with..help me i need advice<3
Hey hun , dnt worry about
Hey hun , dnt worry about things hes done with other girls hes been with . if you love the guy and you guys been together for this long why not BUT , if you say you have low self esteem make sure you feel comfortable around your partner . and juss remeber theres nutting wrong in waiting . ihts all about if you feel comfortable with yur self and trust yur partner enough to take that stepp .
I'm 17 & ive been with my
I'm 17 & ive been with my boyfriend for 3 years and im still a virgin . theres nothing wrong with waiting ; duh ! theres gonna be times wen you feel ihts the right moment & you wanna do iht so badly but den you get nervous and hesitate . dnt worry ladies iht all takes time . iht all depends on what typ of grl you are and if you comfortable with yur self and your partner . KEEP THAT IN MIND . :]
ladys be nice and do not
ladys be nice and do not tease
if ur man ejaculates with ease
i'm 16 and i'm still a
i'm 16 and i'm still a virgin. but i've been with the same boy for a year and a half now. i want to have sex, but i'm still nervous, you know? and he loves me alot and i love him with all my heart. but he doesnt want to have sex. and i totally respect that. and we've both decided to wait until we move in together because we both understand that having sex while your still in school is a bad idea. but i'm totally looking forward to marrying that boy!!! and we'll have the most beautiful children lol
sex
I'm 18 soon 2 be 19 n I'm still a virgin I plan to wait untill I'm married to have sex are either engaged that's the best time for ME.
to big
um yeah i wanna ask the girls my gf is still a virgin and she weants to have sex with me but iv had it abefore and all the girls say it really hurt as i have a fairly large penis and i dont want to have sex with my gf as im afraid it will really hurt her and i dont like the idea of causing her pain but im also afraid she will leave me and i really like her what should i do
help
i am 14 years old and i was tlking to this boy who i go school with on msn it was funny and then he bought up the sex subject si i was going along with it and everything and as i was going along with it i was getting orgasms so i was thinking i must want this so we decieded on the six weeks holidays at te end of year 10 and now iim looking at this website he sent to be and he is telling me a list of positions he waantsn to do but its alright for him he aint the one with a cock going in him, but now i am having second thoughts and i dont wanna do it but then i dont want him calling me a whoss i mean im not going out with him :| what shal i do :|
what you should do :)
first off honey don't ever think that you have to do something with someone bcus they want you to; especially if you feel uncomfortable with it. and second i met a guy off here who has an msn and he is def a creeper lol. i don't talk to him at all anymore. try and stray away from talking to ppl online about personal subjects like sex. mostly bcus you don't kno this young boy personally. i hope you take my advice and realize that your body is a temple and someone that you know a lot better and truly care about and possibly love should be the one to take your virginity.
hope i was of some help <33
well
Well I was 14 when I started dating my bf he was 18 he wanted to wait til I was 18 to have sex and I was glad he wanted 2 wait if he really loves u he will wait even though we ended up having sex when I was 16 he was 20 it was a pretty good experience it hurted and there was blood everywere but after a couple of times it stopped hurtin and it became pleasing I can't speak 4 all guys they're not all the same but I am now 20 he's 24 and were engaged.
trust me on this...you are
trust me on this...you are way too young for sex right now. No matter how much you think you're in love with this boy, trust me...I'm 18 and there are going to be a million other guys. You want to hang on to your virginity for as long as you can. You like him that's fine...but he's pressuring you. And I know deep in your heart you know that he's not the right one for you. Sex is also a huge responsibilty. Not only emotionally, but physically. Trust me. If you lose your virginty right now you will regret it. You want to lose it to someone who you truly know you will be with for the rest of your life. Not just be another notch on someone's belt. I have had many guys pressure me before...and I didn't give in so they dumped me. Then I finally met the right one. He not only waited for me for two years, but my first time was perfect. I didn't lose it til here recently and I am 18. You want your first time to be tender and about a connection and a bond that only you and one other person will feel. You want it to be magical. Not ridiculously awkward, and fast. My cousin lost hers at 14, then her parents made her move, and the guy won't even talk to her on the phone now. She regrets it. Trust me...plz just hang on to it for as long as possible.
wow
you realize that if he calls you a wuss or anything for saying no then clearly he doesnt care about how you feel and while i am usually all for sex at any age you might just wana wait or at least not have it with someone who is in it just for sex and not for you
First time
Im 18 years old and still a virgin i ave had bfs but never had a long term bf so i havent had anyone to loose it to. Im n college now so it seems that i wont find a bf for the nxt 3 years because all guys in college just want the one thing. Whats worse is that ALL of my friends ave slept with someone nd every time we are together all we talk bout is sex which makes me feel like an idiot cos i ave no experience. Im also scared about meeting up with guys that i talk 2 in case they want one thing. At this stage i think that im ready to loose it but i dnt want it to be with a stranger nd i dont want to regret it!!! I also ave never tried givin head to a guy because i think that i wouldnt be able to make him cum nd that i wud embarras myself.
Your best bet is just to
Your best bet is just to start dating guys, and yeah the majority of them are all wanting sex. But who knows..maybe you will find the right one. And don't be so uptight when your friends are talking about sex, you can make a joke and try to switch the subject or you can take the chance and opportunity to ask them ???'s about it. And as far as giving head goes...you have to be careful, make sure the guy doesn't have anything like herpes that will show up around your mouth. And as far as head goes just make sure you relax your throat muscles, and don't bite down. Even try using your hand a lil if his penis is too big. Just look at some porn and watch how it's done. Study technique..I know it sounds gay, but trust me. It works.
dont worry
first off not all college guys expect sex or see it as the priority, most guys by then understand the importance of sex, just find one you can trust. For the whole giving head thing if your with a guy ask them for advice and what they like, and in reality you dont have to make them cuz, the stimulation alone is good enough for most just incorporate your hands mouth and tongue and avoid teeth contact
Sex first time
Well look im 18 yrz old now and have been going out with my bf for 2 yrz and i really feel he's the right one. Im still a virgin but i really feel that he is the guy that i want to lost it with but the thing is that I'm really scared because I do not want to get pregnent at all. I am so ready and comfrotable having sex with him but everytime where together makingout -etcc we alwayz get to the point of having intercourse but i back off when where about to start because i do not want to have a baby right now. My bf say's that he will use 1 or 2 ccondomz? If that good enough to prevent pregnancy? but other wise i really want to lose it with him=] i feel like i found the perfect one
make an appointment with an
make an appointment with an OBGYN to talk about birth control methods. and avoid 2 condoms at once..the rubbing of the condoms create friction, which creates holes, then you get leakage. Not what you want. talk to an OBGYN about limpinon(I think I spelt it wrong) it's a pen inserted into your arm, but your good on it for three years, and you don't gain weight, but you still want to use a condom just in case. Get a pamphlet and look into your options.
my first time
...was when I was 18 almost 19 (I'm 19 now). It was pretty spontaneous. We were making out pretty heavily and he and I like to talk dirty so I said something like, "You wanna be inside me?" and he said "Would you let me?" and I said "Ya." The moment broke for a little and he said, "Really? Are you sure about it?" and I said yeah. And then he asked me again and I said "yes I'm sure about it." By this point we weren't together for a long time, but I knew that he would be the person I would lost my virginity with. It hurt for me a lot and I bled a lot too, but really I think it's different for each girl. I know a girl where she said it hurt at first, but she didn't bleed and she got used to it. So, really you can't predict how it's going to be like. But anyways I'd like to say I'm with him still and we are both very happy =]
First time /:
Last night I lost my virginity...
Like, last night as in a few hours ago.
I'm 17 years old and I love my boyfriend.
It wasn't terrible and it didn't hurt as much as I expected.
However, to the girls who are considering losing it...
Make SURE that you're ready emotionally. It's a pretty vulnerable feeling after you lose it... Well, for me at least /:
Just be careful, girls<3
hi
im vayliaah im 20 i plain to have sex on my birthday
but im really scare u know ,i just dont want to sex with a man in the man doesnt married me
Ohkay, so, i am 15, and 16
Ohkay, so, i am 15, and 16 soon. And im with this boy, that i really truly love, and we have been talking about having sex and stuff, and i jsut want to know if its too soon.
no
don't mean to be harsh but if you have to ask complete strangers then it's obvious that you're not ready.
in my honest opinion you are
in my honest opinion you are way too young. You think you love him, but if he really loves you he will wait til your ready. My boyfriend waited on me for two years and now he's my fiance. But then again I can't tell you what you can or cannot do. The truth is if you are going to do what you want despite what I say. But atleast go to the health department and get birth control first. You can go with a friend, so none of your parents have to know, and it's free for minors. But be aware..they may want an appointment for a papsmeare. After you have had sex. They give you a lil brown bag with condoms and tons of info that you really can use. You want to weigh all options, and pros and cons first. just a few tips: make an appointment early, and go in earlier than your scheduled time so you're not sitting there all day long. But you should wait atleast a year of dating before having sex. It's a big step.
Is it the NEED or the WANT
Is it the NEED or the WANT thats making you talk about having sex? Do you NEED to have sex now at this tender age? NO. Do you WANT to? Yes and No! There's always a first time to everything and that al depend on you!
idk
only you know when it is too soon but if you have to ask then it means you might be a little uncomfortable about it still. I'm not gonna say you are too young but just don't do it unless you absolutely know you are ready
how long
16 is young. but its not that bad. as long as you are safe safe safe. how long have you guys been dating?
how was my first time
i actually i was 19 and i really wanted to wait until marriage but i really feel we will get married but anyway. i was the one who began the whole thing my bf went to the bathroom and when he came out we kissed and fromthere i took out the condom and he asked me was i sure and i told him yes i was. we did missionary obviously it was my first time and i knew that my bf had done it before. lol he told he before he entered me that he felt like it was his first time again because the last time he had engued in any sexual activity was about 4 years ago. and i could tell that he felt like a yound boy again because i could see it in his eyes. But girl before he even got the head of his shaft all the way in i felt the pain he slowly entered me and when he finally got his penis all inside i just felt pain in my vjay but i told him to keep going he was really gentle and caressed me and kissed me and made me feel really good. After about five minutes into it the pain went in and out. but if your ready you kno it.also another thig ladies you may or may not bleed on your first or fifth time because i bleed my 4th time its really light blood spikles.
Scene
I'm 17 and still a virgin. I haven't been with my boyfriend long enough to lose it yet (I want to wait around 6 months into the relationship) but I really love him and have been thinking about it...
But I really want it to be like the perfect scene. Like, I don't want it to be in the backseat of his car, I don't want it to be like sneaking in while my parents are out of town or anything... I just want it to be romantic and... RIGHT.
Does anyone have any suggestions as to what would be a good place OTHER than one of our houses or his car to lose it?
first time looking like that
the picture at the top is what i wish my first time looked like! my first time was in the dark of the night with the man i loved very much and still do but it was dark and on his bed and i wasn't wearing that sexy little bra and painties that she is wearing which i own something simular now but still not as sexy!!