female orgasms

Female Orgasm

Before You Get Started

Some women seem to have an incredibly difficult time reaching orgasm during intercourse; that is if they are able to orgasm at all. The most common reason for this is that they don’t know their own bodies. Society has had this brilliant effect of instilling into our minds from childhood that masturbation is sinful, wrong and dirty. Well, everyone is entitled to his or her own opinion, but all common sense dictates that this couldn’t be farther from the truth.

Thanks to this misconception, many people, especially women, have stopped themselves from learning their bodies, thereby reducing the chances of being able to fully enjoy sex. It is hard for many women to unlearn all that they have been taught, and they often feel that “touching themselves does not bring pleasure”. There is some truth behind that - they are not lying, they do not feel pleasure. However, this is not because there is no pleasure to be felt, just that they have been indirectly taught to not enjoy it. Getting beyond this will take time and patience, so never rush your partner.

If your woman has never had an orgasm (this is often the case if they say, "I think I’ve had one"), you will want to refer to the Female Masturbation Guide to get things started. Learning to please a woman who can’t orgasm on her own is extremely difficult, so we highly suggest that you start with getting her to play with herself, and allow her to learn how her body reacts to different stimulus.

The last note has to do with your approach. Orgasms can’t be forced, and the more pressure you put on her to cum, the less likely it is to happen. Take things slow, learn techniques, experiment with them and find what works. If you start getting frustrated when you aren’t seeing results, it will show, and unfortunately make it even harder. Sex is supposed to be fun and enjoyable - as soon as you make it too serious, it takes away from the pleasure!

About Orgasms

There are two major types of orgasms a women can have - clitoral and G-spot (otherwise known as vaginal orgasms). When masturbating, women usually learn to get themselves off using their clitoris. There is nothing wrong with that, but it leaves the whole world of vaginal orgasms untapped. Many women are unable to climax during intercourse, as they aren't familiar enough with the stimulation to enjoy it to its fullest extent. While you learn to read your partner's body signs, it never hurts to ask a question, especially if you are trying new techniques.

Coitus, commonly known as vaginal sex, can be one of the clumsiest ways to stimulate a woman, if done without thought. While it does provide an atmosphere that can be highly arousing, emotionally satisfying and erotic, the degree of stimulation to the woman's clitoral area is nothing compared to masturbation or cunnilingus. One can incorporate manual stimulation to the clitoris during sex, but this is not very necessary if your woman has had vaginal orgasms in the past, and if you know how to hit the g spot correctly. To learn more about positions and the G-spot, please refer to the G-spot article and Sex Positions section. No one wants to involve geometry into sex, but it is wise to know which positions stimulate the G spot the best. In order to help her achieve a vaginal orgasm, you need to make sure you are "hitting" the G-spot with each stroke.

Many men fantasize about the myth of female ejaculation. Well, for starters, its no myth, most women should theoretically be able to have them. The key is G-spot stimulation, but all of this is also well described in the article on Female Ejaculation.

Some Ideas on Getting Her There:

First of, we would like to remind you to relax, and not to make her orgasm the purpose behind the encounter. The more of a goal you make it; the less likely it is that it will happen. Relax and enjoy yourselves, as that is the most important part.

The Grind

During Intercourse, you want to increase the pressure exerted on the woman's clitoris. This can be accomplished by rotating your hips just like when you are "grinding" on a dance floor. Try to really push against the front of her groin with the area just above the penis. Rocking back and forth or side to side is a really good way of getting started.

Rule of Thumb

With the woman sitting on top, the man should lie flat on his back, pelvic tilted upward, and stomach muscles tightened. You want to arch your hips upwards to improve the quality of “the Grind”; this can be achieved easily by putting a pillow under the man’s bum. He then should put his hand over the woman’s pubic region, and place his thumb on the woman’s clitoris. While the woman is riding her partner, he can simultaneously stimulate her clitoris.

T Position

With the woman lying on her back, the man should lie perpendicularly (i.e., at a right angle to her, thus forming the ‘T’), while straddling the woman’s far leg. Depending on the woman’s flexibility, this can be a great position for deep penetration, while exposing the clitoris for manual stimulation. This double stimulation is very gratifying and can often lead to the big “O” really quickly.

The Maximizer

The woman lies on her back, legs tightly held together. The man lies on top, or stands/kneels, in front. Instead of being directly in line with her, the man should be at a slight diagonal. Both of her legs should be over one shoulder, or on one side, of his body; he should begin penetration. This position is designed to maximize female clitoral stimulation and is easiest to perform with the man standing or kneeling (i.e. the woman should have her legs hanging off a counter, couch or bed).

Using Sex Toys

Sex toys can be used in virtually any sexual position, and thanks to the creative people who design toys, if you can think of a toy, chances are its already made. If you have never used one, you can read our comprehensive section on buying and using Sex Toys. Then visit our online store to find products designed to increase stimulation during intercourse or masturbation. The following is a summary of some of the most popular types of toys:

    Vibrating Clitoral Suckers

    This class of products works as follows: put the cup part of the toy over the clitoral area, squeeze the pump a couple times to build up some suction, then turn on the vibrating egg, which is generally attached to the cup. The suction is great because it draws more blood to the clitoris, making it more sensitive, as well as it keeps the toy hands free. It can be used during intercourse to add incredible sensations, but some varieties may prove a little bulky for some positions.

    Regular Vibrators

    For those of you who are looking for something with a little more functionality, we recommend getting a regular vibrator. The can be held in place during intercourse to stimulate whatever you want, they can be inserted anally, and can be used on their own as well. They are available in a wide variety of shapes, sizes, and purposes.

    Vibrating Cock Rings

    This class of products is ingenious! The toy is basically a ring with one or more vibrating eggs attached. Simply slide it down the shaft of the penis, turn on the vibrating eggs, and voila, super pleasure for both parties.

The Big O

I can give my self organism while master bating but when it come to my boyfriend tries to play with my clit I get to where I am about to cum I push his hand away. What am I doing wrong? I really want this but what am I doing wrong.

Pleasure and pain

My wife and I had been trying to conceive for a couple of years. My wife injured her ankle one day, and since I have a foot fetish, my wife's beautiful (and recently pedicured) toes peeking out of the soft splint was more than I could stand. That night as I sucked her toes, she stopped me and removed the splint. With her legs on my shoulders, she had me squeeze and twist her injured ankle as we had sex. She had multiple orgasms and squirted (flash flooded!?) for the the first time. She said the pleasure/pain sensation was overwhelming and the orgasms were the most intense she had ever experienced. A couple of days later she received a hard cast, needless to say the toe worship (with orgasms) continued during the duration of her recovery. A missed period later, she was pregnant. We believe our daughter was conceived the night my wife injured her ankle due to the multiple intense orgasms. My wife is almost obsessed with re-injuring her ankle to relive the experience, she even says the sight of another woman with a leg cast or boot takes her back to that night and it makes her wet!

Want some answers

So, um, me and my fiance have tried multiple times to get to me have an orgasam.
Multiple times I've felt amazing, and was pretty sure I was close, but I don't think I've had an orgasam.
Is it a sign of getting close when your legs turn into jelly?
Normally this happens when I'm on top.
Is it bad that after I crawl off I usually feel like crying?


Im15 and I have masterbated for a while but i could never have an orgasm but last night I had a sleepover with a friend and we started masterbating and kissing and I had an amazing orgasm and I think I squirted a bit. Does this mean I am gay/bi?

exioum69's picture
It doesn't mean anything...

I don't think it means anything even if you did it together. If you like her and have feelings to be with her, then maybe something is happening. I have done it with my room mate and we have gotten each other off a few times, but i'm not into her, and she's not into me like that. We just enjoy being together at times. Unblike a guy, we know were everything is lol We know how it feels, and yes i have orgasmed with her and i know how to get her off, but i'm not Bi or gay, because i don't want to be with any female like that. I would advise you to be cool because your only 15. I'm 22 and when i was 16 i would masterbate often, but always alone. So forget what happen and enjoy yourself. Learn how to get off on your own. Learn your body...

ikess's picture
Pee instead squirting.

I tried to help my gf squirt and the first time just when she was about to squirt, she said it felt like she's is going to pee, I encouraged her to let it go and again she felt the same way she said she can't hold it. I thought we were successful there comes the urine instead. How do I help her when she feels that way???, I used my fingers to stimulate the g-spot.

Orgasm by oral stimulation

I cant seem to have orgasm during penetration.. nothing comes out of my vagina after orgasm.. lucky to have a boyfriend who loves to please me by eating my pussy.. it usually takes about 30-40 minutes of oral stimulation for me to reach orgasm.. after me, he'll penetrate then that just it.. i woul feel less from penetration.. I can't seem to figure out where my Gspot's at inside.. its really frustrating.. could it be that my Gspots located around the lid of my vagina? lol hehehe oh by the way, my boyfriend gets off fast.. he cant hold it longer.. I'm so dying to experience vaginal orgasm through penetraton.. urggh

No masturbation=no Orgasam?

Um, what that says about orgasams is wrong- at least for me.
I've never really played with myself, I simply don't enjoy it, it feels weird. So I'd never learned my body or made myself orgasam.
But multiple times I've climaxed when my fiance's played with me or when we were having sex.

The Big O

I can have a orgasm when stimulating my clitoris, its like this uncontrollable jerking motion. The top half of my body will just jerk quickly upwards and it will happen repeatedly. I get a bit embarrassed after it happens and I become really really sensitive that it begins to hurt so I've to stop myself or the guy I'm with. Normal?
Secondly, I've found my G-spot but its a lot closer to the front than maybe it should be...makes me think that it could only be stimulated by fingering. Also when I get going I can feel the orgasm beginning to happen but I then get these pains in my abdomen area...? This also happened in certain positions during sex with my last boyfriend. I had put it down to his penis going too deep and not being used to it.. Any ideas?!?!

kittywonder's picture
maybe a DR would help?

just an idea i am no DR. or anything but i say get checked out just to make sure its nothing serious or get checked out just to put your mind at ease if anything the Dr. could suggest positions or ways to get used to the positions you really want to try.

i'm really having a hard time

i'm really having a hard time having an orgasm & it frustrates me.. help.. :(( what to do

Hard time...

First, are you having trouble having an orgasm during sex or on your own? If you learn what you like through masturbating (with toys or whatever) it is so much easier to orgasm during sex.

Second, I've read (and can attest to) that most of our arousal beings in our brain.. so if the TV's on or you're thinking about what you need to do tomorrow, you will never reach orgasm. You need to completely clear your mind of everything else and just focus on the pleasure.

Third... you also need to be able to put all your inhibitions aside..at least while you're trying to give and receive pleasure. RELAX! and it will happen. Enjoying the journey aint so bad... :-)

I masturbate but, I've never

I masturbate but, I've never reached orgasm any tips or household items that can help? I'm only 11.


Hey im 14 and i was wondering if u were interested in having some cam sex with me thru skype or something reply if u want to

100% illegal

100% illegal

Orgasm at 11?

Yes, I agree... you have your whole life ahead of you for all this. You should be out with friends and not on a website like this! Sorry!

After she has a orgasm

Ok me and my wife have great sex. We use toys alot mostly a little clit vibrator. What we need help with is after she has a orgasm she says sex doesnt feel good anymore and she would rather stop our moment,than keep going and getting into it more. She a trooper though and lets me keep going until I am done. We need help people. What can We do to keep her into it,or aroused again. Or better yet what can she do to get back into and maybe have another orgasm. Some one PLEASE give us some advice or ideals.

big pun

My wife is the same way after she has an orgasm her vagina and nipples are really sensitive and she says it does,nt feel good or is almost painful if i stimulate her....try letting your wife give you oral sex to get her back in the mood and give her vagina and clit a chance to rest so to speak....


I'm 28, and the same thing happens to me. I have to have a small break of about 4/5 minutes. It frustrates him but 9 times out of 10, he cums first.

help me

Seriously i never had a orgasm well i think not i feel like im missing out
Me and my bf He hasn't made me cum
It just blows really bad while he cums
In side my pussy I personally love when he cums inside me But what about me:(

Im not very experience but its my goal to actually have a orgasm im determine
To let loose and tell my baby to fuck me good And make me cum then cream pie inside me wish Me luck


I was with this guy the other day and he was doing some deep finger penetration, it felt good until I started to get bad pains in the lower part of my stomach just above my hip bones. It became so painful I had to make him stop...any idea why? Is it to do with being a virgin and my muscles tightening???

When my husband or I play

When my husband or I play with my clitoris it feels good and all, but just when we get into it, it starts to hurt. I want him to keep going, but I always end up stopping him. I don't do it on purpose, but I always find a way to stop him. What would happen if we found a way to make sure I don't stop him?


im 15 and never onced tryed to have an orgasam. should i have tryed it already? And wat things in the house would i use to help me along cuse im to young to buy toys?

i started with my fingers

i started with my fingers and then after 6 months my older sister found out and got me a toy. i was 12 when i started with my fingers and 2 days after my 13th birthday i got a toy. you can get much pleasure from your fingers.

you don't need to use toys

you don't need to use toys necessarily. just use your own fingers to start with, then progress to toys. :)


I am not going to say my age, but I have a hard time having an orgasm.
I masturbate and I get to the point where it feels like I am going to go pee.
I am also not sure what an orgasm feels like or if I have ever had one.

Hey There

Do you feel like you are still going to pee if you have an empty bladder? you might be a squirter! Squirting is slang, meaning female ejaculation. Just like a male, some females are able to ejaculate as well. Next time you are masturbating put a towel down, and keep going, if you feel like you are about to pee just let it happen. If you are a squirter, and you feel that way you are very close to orgasming.

When you feel like that,

When you feel like that, you're going to orgasm. It may seem like that, but it's just an orgasm. If you have any fingers in yourself, you'll also feel yourself tightening and relaxing over and over as you do so.

I feel a bit stupid to ask

I feel a bit stupid to ask this,but is it possible for a girl to have an orgasm from vaginal penetration without squirting?
I try to find out if my GF is faking it,HELP PLEASE


i find it more difficalt to climax vis fingering or being licked.yet i climax really quick be being fucked really hard and sometimes by sitting on my giy and fuckin him really fast and forcefully i dont squirt or anything just get really juicy then dry after. trust me penatration is great sometimes to good and i find it hard to last a long time!

I am just curious if guys

I am just curious if guys really do like it when women squirt. My partner absolutely loves it, but I get really embarrassed. I don't know why, but as soon as I do he gets hot and bothered and gets off just like that. I have never been with a guy that actually makes me feel that good. Its great don't get me wrong, but I feel bad when I look up and he is just soaked...


its a huge turn on for me too it took a while for me ex to feel comfortable doing it but once she saw how much i liked it she relaxed and just let it happen :) if it feels great for you and your partner loves it i see no problems :))

sex toys

ok, me and my gf have really good sex! most times i give her orgasms by oral or by playing with her clit, but thats probably 60% of the time and the other 40% is from intercourse. should i feel jealous or be comfortable about using sex toys during intercourse with her??

I had some to night

my bf and i have sex but sometimes i cant get off so i use a vibrator thats high powered well i get off but got offso much harder like WOW when i LET him do it to me and let me tell u HE wonted more when i came and i came harder than i EVER had before WHY can't i get off like that with him and using his cock

so the guys always ask me if

so the guys always ask me if i can feel it when they come inside....without a condom, and i can not feel it, is this normal, can you other ladies feel it?

sometimes if he relaxes, and

sometimes if he relaxes, and stops thrusting i can feel what almost feels like him twitching inside me when he orgasms

I can feel it sometimes.

I can feel it sometimes. Like We did it camping so i was really cold and it was really warm. Usually i just tell when it get really slippery really fast. lol

I need a clitoral sucker

My hubby hates vibrating cock rings :'( and I was told my clit is located higher than the average woman's so grinding doesn't work really. I've achieved an orgasm several times...but never during sex only masturbating. He can't even do it with his fingers...it's very hard for him to get THE SPOT. So sad.

Orgasm or not?!

i think i had an orgasm, but im not sure... it felt really good as in totally f*cking awesome.. My pussy was contractin and my clit felt soo good.. did i have an orgasm?! help me please

yes you did.

yes you did.

Orgasm or not?

Yes you did and probably had multiple orgasms before the one you described, but they were weaker orgasms building up to the one where you were having strong contractions and a major sensation in your clit. I've had these same for years (I'm a female too)

Having Orgasms Just From Him Ejaculating Inside You

Ladies,The woman I am seeing also has orgasms from me ejaculating inside of her.What I mean by that is,as soon as I start ejaculating inside of her it will tricker her to cum.

I would like to know how many of you here have cum or if you have ever cum from feeling your guy ejaculating inside of you?

female orgasm chemistry? can anybody help me?

Whenever my partner and I have sex its great and everything until he has an orgasm and ejaculates. Then its like OH MY GOD! I go absolutely crazy! Its beyond belief the incredible pleasure sensations I experience. Its almost physically overwhelming to me. My body shudders,eyes roll back,sweat profusely, and I feel like I will not be able to stop orgasming. It feels like I orgasm from both my clit as well as my gspot at the same time.My orgasm at this times lasts well over 10 minutes.This sensation only happens when he has an orgasm WITH ejaculation at the same time. When he just orgasms it feels nice and I orgasm as well but by comparison the orgasm I experience is, while pleasurable, minimal. I am wondering if his cum is causing a sort of chemical reaction in my body which is causing me to experience such extremely intense orgasms when he orgasms AND ejaculates inside of me.
We are both 46 years old. Has anybody ever experienced anything like this or can anybody help me to find an explanation for this kind of thing?
I have never experienced this kind of intense simultaneous orgasm AND ejaculation with any other partner.

i have to an extent i love

i have to an extent i love it when i know that he's cuming to kow that he wonts that cum in me and for me to feel it pulse holy crap its hot if only he could time it to me cuming F****k lol

dammmm just reading tht last

dammmm just reading tht last comment got me in the mood

im 19 and ive had sex with

im 19 and ive had sex with only two guys but never had an orgasm, me and my bf have sex all the time but nothing, it also sometimes hurts is this normal? any ideas or different positions i can try so that it wont hurt and maybe i can finally have an orgasm.

Crazy Camilla
You should try to use some

You should try to use some lubricator, and then just relaxe, take it easy and enjoy each other.

My opinion

I have had both kinds of orgasms. Mostly the clitoral and the G-spot one is harder to acheive, but awesome when you do (my experience only with someone i had a committed relationship and trusted and loved)
I wanted to share for the girls who have a hard time with masterbation. I too was afraid of touching myself and I never even thought once about trying to or experimenting. I was in the bath once and shaving my legs and also shaving my pubes completely to soft and smooth. I have an attached shower head that can me used with multiple spray options. i happen to be washing myself and felt how good it was spraying around my vagina. That is when I experimented a bit and the next thing I know I orgasmed. Since then I play with myself from time to time. I think knowing your sexuality is important and you know what you like without having to experiment with guys. No harm whatsoever and nobody really needs to know - that is your privacy.

Ok i do need help i am


How do u know if you have

How do u know if you have reached an orgasm? Is there a way to tell and does it hurt? Please help me!!!!!!!!