Anal Intercourse
There are many ways to enjoy the anus erotically. Some people enjoy the sensation of a finger inserted into their anal opening and gently rotated. Others may find the insertion of a sex toy or penis very arousing and stimulating. This section contains all the essential guidelines for enjoying anal intercourse.
Getting Started
Some people are not very open to experimentation with this body part, as they are scared that it will cause great amounts of pain, or the whole thought of it is grosses them out. In any event, make sure to communicate with your partner to avoid bad reactions. If your partner refuses, don’t try to force them, it will be a horrible experience for them (and ultimately for you) if they are not comfortable with the idea.
If you are trying to convince your partner to explore this world, using something as large as a penis is definitely not the way to get started. You should start by getting them comfortable being touched in the area, then move up to using a finger or two, and then, when ready, finally moving up to intercourse. Please refer to the anal fingering to please women, or prostate stimulation to please men sections to learn more about anal play, plus using anal sex toys and analingus. Until your partner is ready to receive, their anxieties will cause their anal sphincter to tighten, and trying to push through will be extremely painful, so be patient!
Cleanliness is essential with virtually all forms of this type of play. A bath or a shower is a great primer, and can be the start of the festivities. Once your penis or sex toy has been inside the rectum, don't put them inside anywhere else until you have washed them. Carelessness in this regard can cause a very serious infection. Make sure to use copious amounts of a good lubricant, and start as slowly as possible the first few times.
The Largest Misconceptions of Anal Intercourse
Most people believe that anal intercourse hurts and that it is always an uncomfortable experience. This is quite simply false. As with any form of intercourse, the anus, like the vagina, must become used to the activity. Any woman who remembers her first time having sex probably recalls a painful experience. In fact, the first couple of times were probably painful and not that enjoyable. Did they stop having sex? In almost all cases, they didn’t. Anal intercourse falls under the same guidelines for both genders; it takes practice to get accustomed to the activity. Pain is usually a sign that something is being performed incorrectly, not that the act is wrong. In most cases pain is due to a few reasons: the receiver is too tense and tightening, the giver is pushing too hard, there isn’t enough lubricant, or that the penis or toy is still too big to put in (based on current experience levels). Using fingers and smaller toys is the best way to get used to the feeling, and it is advised that you increase size a little at a time. Once you have become comfortable with the idea and concepts you will probably find it very pleasurable.
The 5 Major Guidelines
Always use a lubricant. Unlike the vagina, the small amount of mucus a rectum produces is completely insufficient for anal intercourse. Therefore anal penetration should always be accompanied with an ample supply of lubricant. Water-based lubricants are latex-compatible and highly recommended.
Stop immediately if your partner asks you to stop. If your partner is too tense to experiment, all forms of anal penetration will cause a great deal of pain. We are not saying to stop trying completely, just don’t push yourself onto your partner, as this will only result in a bad experience for them, and make them less willing to try again.
Take it slow. When experimenting with anal sex for the first few times, go slow. There is no rush and if you take your time you will probably both enjoy the experience. There should not be a great deal of forcing required. If lubricated properly, an object should slide in somewhat easily. We recommend using your fingers ahead of time to loosen them up first for the first few times.
Sufficient desire alone does not guarantee pleasurable anal sex. Read the other four points.
Always communicate with your partner. As with any sexual activity, communication is essential. Talk about what you want to do, discuss beforehand your desires, tell your partner what you like and don't like while engaging in anal intercourse. Basically, be open about your preferences and feelings, and, be receptive to theirs.
Understanding the Anus and the Rectum
A minority of men and women respond with orgasms to anal sex without direct genital stimulation. Women probably do so through pelvic muscle contractions - and a small minority through the sheer excitement of being penetrated anally. For men, an orgasm may be experienced because of pressure applied to the prostate gland. They are no doubt responding to indirect stimulation of the penile bulb. Orgasms from anal stimulation are most likely to occur when the participants become thoroughly absorbed in their sensations and fantasies.
The main function of the rectum is to act as a passageway for feces, but feces are not normally stored in the rectum except just prior to a bowel movement. Small amounts may remain in the rectum. This is one of the reasons that it is recommended to use condoms during anal intercourse.
The rectum is not straight - see the sexual anatomy diagrams. After the short anal canal that connects the anal opening to the rectum, the rectum tilts toward the front of the body, sometimes as much as 90 degrees. Then, after a few more inches, it swoops towards the front of the body again. A person can learn about the shape of his or her rectum by gently inserting a soft object, trying different angles and body positions and concentrating on how it feels. Make sure the object has a flared base so that if you lose your grip, it won't slip into the rectum and become temporarily irretrievable.
If you insert a finger about one half-inch into your anus and press your fingertip against the side, you can clearly feel the two sphincter muscles. There is less than a quarter-inch between them. The external sphincter is controlled by the central nervous system (voluntary), which means you can tense and relax this sphincter whenever you want. The internal sphincter is quite different. This muscle is controlled by the autonomic nervous system (involuntary). The internal sphincter reflects and responds to fear and anxiety. It may cause the anus to tense up automatically even if the person is trying to relax.
There is the risk of sphincter tone (tightness) loss over time due to repeated dilation for insertive intercourse. Stool incontinence (poor control) can occur when anal sphincter tone decreases; this problem has to be surgically corrected if it becomes chronic. This is another very good reason to take things slowly and to never force anal intercourse! Everyone's body has different levels of ability to adapt; if anal intercourse remains painful (or even very uncomfortable) then it is probably best avoided - remember, there are still many other ways to stimulate and enjoy the anal area without full intercourse.
Though it is always wise to practice the safest sex possible, this is especially true with anal intercourse. The lining of the rectum is very thin, and can rip if there is too much stress put on it. By wearing condoms, you can greatly reduce your and your partner’s chances of transmitting most STDs.
Hello me and my girlfriend
Hello me and my girlfriend had just tried anal for the first time and we both liked it but suddenly she changed her mind the next day she said everything is weird. i know she liked it cause she made the face that she does only when she is in pleasure and she cant fake that face. why do you think she thinks its weird? I'm fine with no anal but i just want to understand why
AC/DC
So just wanderin, anyone got any good storie with anal, coz im gona be doin it next week, n woulda love know what its like...
WOOO
I am going to be having anal sex for the 1st time soon and just wanderd if there are any tips? Not like the normal "take it slow crap" but any other ones.
Stories
Hey
Just wanderd, what we're people's best anal experance, coz my gf is tempted to do it but wants to know how good it is before we do it, so anyone?
Thanks
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I want to do anal with my GF, when i said would you ever do it she said no, but i think she would when she is comfable, coz at first she said maybe, any tips on how to persuade her, as i dont want to force her.
I have tried anal with my
I have tried anal with my boyfriend and I don't think it will ever work. I have a hemorrhoid and was told that could prevent me from having anal ever. I want to at least be able to try it before I say that. Is that really true that I can never have it?
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My gf and I love anal sex, esp with a vibrator in her pussy. I can feel the vibrations and it is AWSOME!
The question I have, about 10 mins. after we coth cum, her many times. she get the shits. Is this normal?
Okay well me and my bf have
Okay well me and my bf have tried it about 4 times now, and (this is really embarrassing) the main reason I don't like it is because when he pulls back (like you would in normal sex) it feels like I need the loo really bad, or am actually doing it at that time. It makes me panic and means I have to ask him to stop because it begins to hurt. Any suggestions? Like, is he doing it wrong, is this normal, is there any way to stop it? Thanks
ok well I guess this is for
ok well I guess this is for all you girls that dont want to try anal...
My boyfriend told me that he wanted to try anal with me and I told him no because I was scared that it would hurt, but then I read this and it got me thinking and I told him that I wanted to try it and then I relized that I was kinda scared that it would be embaressing so I asked one of my exs to come over because he has done anal before so it wouldnt be as embaressing. When he came over we were having regular sex and then I told him that I wanted to try anal because I was really horny and he agreed but he was way to excided and went in way to fast and way to deep and let me tell you, if hurt like hell! but like this website says communication is 100% needed. I talked to him about it but I really didnt want to try again but when we were talking I told him that I think that the reason it hurt was because he went in to fast and to deep way to soon and we agreed to try again...he went slower and didnt go in to deep and then as I started getting more used to it he started going a little faster and deeper little by little and it felt amazing! so people, dont let a bad experiance stop you...just take it slow and make sure he goes at a good pace for YOU, NOT THE OTHER WAY AROUND! take your time and enjoy it. =D
HELP!!
I need help my gf and i recently tried anal sex and we enjoyed it ALOT! she came so much. but she doesnt like the clean up process can any one give me some tips. maybe a type of lube thats easier to clean up. i want anal sex again so please any suggestions are greatly excepted!
what do you mean "clean up
what do you mean "clean up process"?
she doesnt like cleaning the
she doesnt like cleaning the lube out. so im wondering if there is a different kind where i dont need to use as much
funnn
i did this with my bf the nite before halloween. we were just in the mood. we tried several different positions, one position he had me on the edge of the bed and fucked me in the ass. another time i layed on my stomach slightly raised by my knees while he fucked me but layed slightly on my back and sensualy bit my ear from behind. it felt soo good. he even fingered me a lil. i have a question tho. he said i was super wet and he said that i came, but i dont remember cuming. is it possible for a girl to come and not relize it?
I need help
my gf has once let me do anal, but wont ever let me do it again because she hates the feeling of the lube at the end. is there any one that can give advice???
outdoor anal
My wife and I went on a camping trip last month with some friends. We had all decided to head to our tents for the night, since we had a long day ahead of us the next day. My wife and I had been whispering in eachothers ears while sitting around the campfire earlier. By the time we got in our tent, I knew it was on. She stripped down completely and laid on the air matress. I stripped off my clothes and went over to lay next to her, but before I got to lay down she sat up and started fondling my balls with her nails and licking the tip of my cock. As she did that I could hear moans and bodies slapping together coming from the other tents. This was a huge turn-on. I knew my wifes back had been hurting her, so I told her to lay on her stomach, and I would rub her back. I straddled her legs and started rubbing her back. As I was rubbing her back, my cock was rubbing her ass. I leaned forward after a few minutes and began kissing her neck and soon kissed a trail down her back to her ass. She raised her ass up in the air, spread her knees a bit and kept her head on her pillow. I took this as an invitation. I love to lick her sweet pussy and went to town on her soaked, bare pussy. She was rubbing her clit as I tounged her pussy. After licking her pussy a few minutes I took one last lick of her pussy and continued up to her ass. She let out the hottest moan I've ever heard when my tongue hit her ass. I continued to lick her anus and finger her pussy deep. She was so wet. I slid 2 fingers in her pussy, and as I pulled them out I left a pool of saliva on her puckered ass and rubbed her pussy juices on my cock, then took a swipe of her pussy again and rubbed her juices on her ass. By this time she was sliding her finger in her ass. She took it out and told me to fuck her pussy then her ass. I was so hard by this point, I fucked her pussy a while, then pulled out and slowly slid my cock in her ass. She moaned and spread her cheeks. I could feel her ass ajusting to my cock, and before long I was balls deep in her ass. I stopped a second for her to catch her breath, then started to withdraw my cock. Before I knew it she was thrusting her ass back towards me and we were in fucking extacy. We could still hear the others fucking in their tents so she decided to add into the symphony of sex moans. I could feel my cock tighten in her ass and told her I was going to cum. She said she was going to also. At that point I blew my load deep in her ass and she soaked us both as she came and squirted all over. The next morning as we were all eating breakfast, you could tell everyone was trying to figure out who's moans were who's.
Hot
Anymore stories, thts kinda hot. I love to read about what other people have done, kinda ets me turned on and want to do things.
Great story. Makes me want
Great story. Makes me want to go camping. Fun that you could hear others moaning while they were fucking. I enjoy giving her back rubs and letting my cock slip between her legs and ass crack. She will get hot and wet from this and to have the head of my cock slip along her labia folds and get all that wetness is fun. I would like to try fucking her ass from this position sometime.
condom?
soome say its ok without one some say its not? any one have input would really help thanks!
Anal is fantastic! I love it
Anal is fantastic!
I love it so much that i prefer it over vaginal s*x.
It gives me the most intense, incredible, multiple, orgasams
Only issue being that my boyfriend dosen't particularly like it, he still cums when we do it, and he enjoys it but it still takes me hours to convince him, i have to pretty much beg him for it!
I think it's odd... isint it supposed to be the other way around???
grr!! it really annoys me actually!! he gets off no mater what, so why dosen't he just do what gets me off too?!!
My advice to first timers would be to control your breathing,breathe out as he goes in if you focous on your breathing you have something to focous on other than pain! also try being flat on your back him coming at you from a 90 degree angle.
It's great for a few reasons:
You can control his depth and push him away with your legs if you need to
You can be totally lazy!!
It is a wicked angle for playing with your clit while he fuc*s you without him bumping your hand!
You have to try it!!
Oh yes and dont for get the lube!! him and you!!
hi
hi my name is mike and i am 16. i have seen anal sex on porn and everything but i asked my gf and she said she tried it and she hated it. idk what to do from all the posts i have seen it sounds like alot of fun. what should i do, just drop it show her thede posts or what can someone help me i really wanrtt to try it
For the 1st timers........
Well.. I have wanted to do this for a long time. The idea of anal really excites me, I love pornos with anal etc. My husband and I finally did it the other night and WOW was it great. Here are some of my tips for trying/ preparing for anal.
I do like to give myself a little enema, if when I shower and clean my anus I feel "anything". Then I have a trick that some gay friends told me about. I insert some Preparation H ointment inside my anus. It has some lubricating properties as well as it can "numb" the canal a bit. It comes with a applicator which goes inside you. In addition, it is VERY important that a good amount of lube is used.
Now ladies, this is important, when your man is inserting the head of his penis, push out your sphincter muscle, like you would if you were going to the bathroom. If you do this at the same time he is inserting the head, it helps it to pass through the tight sphincter muscle. Now the man should just stop once the head is in. He should reach around and stimulate the clitoris and let the woman determine the amount of movement. Basically just stay put and let her move back and forth to control penetration. The man should be stimulating the clitoris the entire time if possible. Ladies, do not forget how important it is that you really let your mind relax and think sexy thoughts. Maybe you are imagining that you are with 2 men etc. Done correctly, with a "hot" movie playing, this experience can be AMAZING. Good luck !
DO NOT NUMB THE CANAL! You
DO NOT NUMB THE CANAL! You need to be able to feel pain and discomfort to know if something is wrong. If you don't feel pain, there is a much, much higher risk of damage.
immm probably gonna try it
immm probably gonna try it on a girl but the best thing is a girl can't get get pregnent from it
until you cum leaks out and
until you cum leaks out and then into her vagina
Respect and communication
I am always so disturbed by the amount of women who want to learn how to 'cope with' the pain and discomfort of anal for their husband. Really fulfilling sex should be enjoyed by both people and should be practiced with the UTMOST RESPECT. If your boyfriend want to 'ram' you in the ass and it hurts, then he is jerk. Even the roughest sex needs to be practiced with respect. I absolutely LOVE anal and am lucky to be with a partner who respects me. If I didn't want to do it, he would never try to 'convince' me. If it hurts, grosses you out, or just feels wrong: don't do it and don't let anyone tell you that you should. Respect your own body and in turn you will find partners who respect it too. The thought of men out there reaming their girlfriends while they quietly endure it is totally disgusting.
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sum one give me advice ok me and my wife has had anal sex before but she wont want to do it again cuz it hurts to bad wat can i do to make it not hurt as bad
this is what works for me
but it in her while you are soft not while your hard if you go in her while your hard it will hurt her more go in her soft and get hard while your in her and trust it will feel much better and yes use lube it helps as well
one word
one word dude. LUBE!!! and do not be shy wiv it. pile it on put some in her ass aswell not just around the outside because if you manage to get in there u wont be able to go any further.
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I was never a big fan of sex;; and the thought of freaking anally scared me to death;; but i tried it for my 1st time and i felt a little bit of pain when the head was going in but afterwards the hard pushing nd the deeper it went in the better it felt;;
HELP!!!
so the other night my b/f and i tried anal he only stuck it in once n it hurt so bad and we had to stop... i want to try him fingering it first to get me ready but he is completly grossed out about the fingering part... what should i do? i want to do anal again but i don't want to be in so much pain