a guide to kissing


Kissing is a delicate art and must be taken slowly with a new partner. It can be part of foreplay/sex - or simply an incredibly enjoyable act of romance and intimacy in its own right.

A good kisser knows how to pace themselves, has an active imagination, and understands what their partner likes or may not expect, but will enjoy. When kissing, remember the following: never slobber (though moistened lips are fine and helpful), don't stare and always pay attention with your non-visual senses (touch, hearing, etc.). Also, there is no such thing as 'too slow'.

If you are unhappy with a kiss then chances are your partner is going to feel the same way. The best thing you can do is relax, and not just in your body, but your face, lips, neck, everywhere. Be relaxed and confident with how you kiss. Let yourself go with the flow of the moment and savour every second of it.

While you are kissing, remember to use your hands, nose, and breath to entice your partner's senses. Everyone enjoys being touched anbd caressed while being kissed. Use your hands to gently caress the cheek, the jawbone, the back, arms, and collarbone. A gentle exhalation of air (remember that good mouth hygiene is important), can provide your partner with extremely light, warm feelings on their face, mouth and neck that are quite arousing.

Never "attack" someone when you kiss them, unless they like that sort of thing - and most people don't. Treat their lips like you would a dangerous creature. Move in slow and prepare for the kiss. Initial contact should be lips only, firm, yet gentle. React to how your partner is kissing. If they speed up, speed up with them. If they slow down, follow suit. Try to synchronize your actions with one another and always pay attention to their body language.

The following is a list of some simple techniques to spice up a kiss:

    French Kiss

    Usually romantic or sexual in nature (so not usual for a 'first date', in which one person's tongue touches the other's tongue and usually enters his or her mouth.


    Kiss between the eyes, on the tip of the nose, and then on the lips.

    Top and Bottom

    Kiss the top lip, then the bottom lip, then both.

    Lickable Lips

    Run the tip of your tongue along your partner's lips.


    Gently kiss, nibble, and suck on the earlobe.

    Facial Lines

    Trace the neck and jawbone with your lips and tongue.

    The Big Tease

    Kiss everywhere but the lips, until your partner pulls you to their lips.

    Caressed Lips

    Rub your finger gently across their lips and then go in for a kiss.


    Look in their eyes and whisper you want to kiss them. Press your lips gently to theirs', caress their lips with yours and then give her/him a passionate kiss.


    Gently brush cheeks with your partner.

    Eskimo Kiss

    Gently rub the tips of your noses together.


    Brush eyelashes with your partner. Make a fluttering motion of the eyelash by quickly opening and closing the eye.

    Rose Petals

    Make a small "O" with your lips. Press your lips against your partner's skin and suck softly. Lift your lips off a little, move over slightly, and repeat.

    Hostage Kiss

    Cover your lips with tape and get your partner's attention. When they come near, make noises like you're trying to tell them something and motion as if you can't get the tape off. Once they remove the tape from you to hear what you're trying to say, tell them, "I've been saving my lips all day just for you!" Then kiss them passionately.

    Strawberry Secret

    Place a strawberry in your mouth without your partner knowing. Crush the strawberry in your mouth and feed some to your partner while you kiss.

    Cold as Ice

    Put a piece of ice in your mouth without your partner knowing. Kiss them on the neck and let the ice softly touch their skin.

    Back Kisses

    Snuggle up behind your partner and proceed to cover their back with little kisses.

    Foot Kisses

    When your lover comes home from work, or wherever, wash their feet and give them a massage. While you're giving them the massage, lean over and give little kisses on their feet.

    Hershey's Kiss

    Try not to kiss your partner all day. Throughout the day leave Hershey's kisses or some sort of romantic candy in places that they will know it's for them. Later in the day start leaving notes with poetry or quotes on kissing for them. After that, leave a love letter describing how you'd like to kiss them and the satisfaction that it would bring you. Once you feel they've had enough teasing, spend sometime rewarding them with lots of kissing! This is rewarding for yourself as well, since you've been thinking about kissing them all day too.

    Red Light Kiss

    When in the car with your partner, every time you stop at a red light, lean over and kiss them until the light goes green.

    Recorded Kiss

    Record the sound of yourself blowing a kiss. Then either e-mail it to your partner or leave a note somewhere with instructions to press play.

    Video Kiss

    Record on a videotape or web cam yourself blowing kisses to your partner and tell them how much you miss them.

    E-mail Kiss

    Draw or animate a pair of lips kissing. Then send it to your sweetheart.

    The Lost Kiss

    Look around your partner, looking under things and appearing like you're searching for something. When asked what you're looking for, say "I've been looking for a kiss all day but I can't find one anywhere. Oh wait, I found it." Then give your partner a kiss.

    Wake Up Kiss

    Before your partner awakes, lean over and kiss their cheek. Then give soft kisses across their cheek until you reach their lips.

    Make Up Kisses

    At the end of the day, sit down with your partner and ask them how his/her day went. Silently keep track of all the bad things that happened during the day. When he/she is finished, give them a kiss for each one. When asked what you are doing, say you are helping make up for all those bad things.

    Post-It Kiss

    Make a post-it note trail that leads to your lips. On each note leave a lipstick kiss and an arrow or clue to find the next note. Place the last note over or near your lips.

    Full Body Meltdown

    While your partner is laying down, slip over to them and start running your tongue, very gently, up their leg, arms, reaching their lips give them a full passionate kiss.

    The Grandious Tease

    Softly run your fingers across your partner's lips, lure them in to kissing you, but before you kiss, pull away and then go in for the kiss, then pull away again, etc., etc.


So now you know how to 'kiss with a difference', all you need to do is go try it out. Remember, a badly executed kiss is a real turn-off, but a great kiss is memorable and can be totally seductive...

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i love it when

My boyfriend licks my ears and sucks on my ear lobe ! Gets me feeling all tingly and ticklish. I'm not a ticklish person at all so when he started doing this, omg i just loved it :L

I love it when my guy kisses

I love it when my guy kisses and gently sucks on the back of my neck and shoulders from behind... sends shivers down my spine.

when i get the right bf i

when i get the right bf i want to know how to kiss him properly, i also want to know how to french kiss..any tips?

I don't think there is a

I don't think there is a "right" way to french someone, but as a general tip: the whole "shoving the tongue down the throat thing" myth. More or less just play a version of gentle "footsie" with your tongues.

first kiss

Just curious, when did you all have your first kiss. Im almost 18 and still have not had mine

first kiss

i was real picky where i put my lips. i was 29 and i was not impressed

first kiss

i was real picky where i put my lips didn't have mine until i was 29...i was not impressed either.


i've been going out with my boyfriend for quite awhile and i was wondering what kind of things turn a guy on or drive him crazy while kissing? i've noticed my boyfriend responds very well to teasing but i want to see what i can do while "making out" but not going any further. Just concentrating on the kissing.. any ideas??

My guy goes crazy when we

My guy goes crazy when we are kissing and both open our mouths (not frenching, just moving them together) and I breathe into his mouth. I did this by accident when we first started kissing because my nose was squashed against his face and i had to breathe but didn't wanna break apart! No guarantees but it is something while kissing that he told me later drove him nuts.


kissing is the most important thing in healthy relationship, for me it is even more intimate then sex

joel r

I love kissing my sweetheart and getting kissed by her. She will sneak up behind me and start kissing the back of my neck. Then she will move to my ear and cheek. She likes to gently bite my lower lip.
Having my ear gently nibbled on makes my dick hard.
Honestly a lot of times we do not need to make-love for me to have a pleasurable release.

bad 80's movie

i have a feeling that my life is takin straight from a bad 80's movie im the 17 y/o virgin never been kissed. the only bf ive ever had left me for my best friend, after only dating for a week or so "that was two years ago". im the one who no one wants to date. the nerd with tons of friends. the unlikely virgin but luckily i may have a new bf. i met him on this site hehe. wish me luck and a happy 80's movie ending

Despite being fiction,

Despite being fiction, movies get it right sometimes. But not in all things. I was the same way when I was that age. Met a guy around that age who took me on a few dates and would go up my shirt as we cuddled and watched movies in his room but according to him "we were just really good friends." But now I'm with my soul mate and things couldn't be better. (I had to move several counties over to meet mine... so if no one local is interested, try other places; their loss.)

yeah life is still like a

yeah life is still like a bad movie

He Is My First...
He Is My First...Kiss.

So Yesterday I Got My First Kiss From This Guy I Have Been Crushing On For Over A Year. We Were Sitting In My Car Waiting For The Movie To Start. He Was Playing With My Phone So Much I Got Bored So I Made That Im Bored Sigh. Well He Heard It Cause When I Was Looking Out The Window I Feel Him Grab My Chin To Turn To Look At Him. When I Did He Gave Me These Intense Look That I Could Not Look Away. He Looked at My Lips Then Back At Me. He Pulled Me Closer And We Had Our First Kiss. Through Out The Night We Continued To Kiss and Every Time It Was Like We Were Kissing For The Very First Time. Im Very Happy I Have Not Stopped Smiling :) What A Great Way To Start The New Year.


you sound excited and quite like a valley 15 y/o might i add lol

Yeah it really sounds like

Yeah it really sounds like this was a good way to start the year. :) Sadly tho, i did not get to spend New Years with my girlfriend, so I didn't get to kiss in the New Year. It something I've always wanted to do, kiss at midnight on New Years, and I've never gotten the chance.

yea, I know how that feels.

yea, I know how that feels. I have never been able to do that until this past year. Only, my honey was completely plastered and I got a mouth full of beer, not to mention the hair full of it when he dumped it on me just before he kissed me...

i love when me and my

i love when me and my boyfriend kiss. to tell you the truth, we just had our first kiss last week. it was so sexy. we french kissed as he was rubbing my "you know" and my butt.. i loved it but i didnt see it coming at first ... everytime we kiss i get butterflies and just wanna do "more" O:

doesnt like kissing

My bf said he doesn't like kissing. He used to kiss me a lot but he really never liked for me to kiss on him anywhere besides his mouth. It makes me think I'm doin somethin wrong but none of my exs ever had a problem with it they all enjoyed it. I wonder if I've just lost it

lil lexi 1991
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really?? kissing is a huge part of a relationship, to me it says something, in mornings when i get kisses of my partner makes me feel like he happy im there to be the first thing he see's or maybe a goodnight kiss last thing he kisses :D its really important to me so i suggest you talk to him, it sounds weird that he doesnt wanna kiss you no more...but then again men are confusing

My gf do some of these when

My gf do some of these when we're together. Very sweet

never had any

l have never had any of the kisses mentioned above wish l had a boy friend....lol

Taking things slow

Me and my boyfriend like some of these kisses :3
He loves to bite me when we cuddle though xD Just a nibble but it tickles. I think they should add it to the list, nibble kiss
Anyways my boyfriend and I are still on 1st base and we've been together since Feb 14th. Though he's two years older then me I'm happy I'm with him(I'm 16 he's 18). Some of these kisses I wanna try with him. My personal favorite is the make up kisses. He's always happier when I do that ^^=

How To Kiss In Sexy Way?

When you’re sitting close to your love, start out by softly stroking their face, slowly move your hand to their mouth then very lightly brush the lower lip with one of your fingers. If they seem to love this, then place the tip of that finger in their mouth. My boyfriend loves this, and sometimes he’ll start sucking my finger a bit. This leads to a great french kiss!

Think of why you like certain body parts of your love, or why you love to kiss those body parts. For each area, give them a quick kiss there, then whisper why you love that part. Move up and down their body sprinkling them with kisses and sweet words.


my bf always goes to kiss me then pulls away and will do it until i grab his head and steal my kiss. i think its cute and it makes me want it more.

i love it when my bf leans

i love it when my bf leans over like if he wants to kiss me, then he asks me what i want him to do...then i always tease him by saying idk, then he says its 2 words, then i still say idk, then he says yes u do, then i say fine u win, kiss me

lil lexi 1991
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thats really cute! :)

my first kiss was with this

my first kiss was with this boy i'm still with, i am 25 and he's 19. I didn't know how to kiss and so was he,, and i think it's an advantage for both of us since we do it our own way without comparing kisses to other persons because we didn't have previous experiences... he admitted kissing someone before but it was only a smack kiss, but as for me i never had one before and to feel this new kind of sensation, good or not to any other person, is very special to me...

how do you teach a guy to kiss?

Just starting seeing a very sweet guy that I really like, but he can't kiss! I don't know how to bring it up or how I would even tell him how to do it better. Any advice?

lil lexi 1991
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why dont you take charge? maybe he could learn from that...just sit on his lap and go in for a full on snog, grab his head and move his lips to your and just do what feels right, he should soon get the hang of it...but if not give him a mirror to practise :D

I had little childhood

I had little childhood kisses on the cheeks from boys that I claimed were my boyfriend but my first kiss, like many other peoples was stolen to a man I now hate. he was 21 and I was 16 and the whole relationship wasnt a nice experience. losing my virginity to him was the worst part. looking back on it, I cant believe how stupid I was and I wish my first time with my current boyfriend. I am in a very happy relationship with someone I can see spending the rest of my life with. if only he was my first kiss...

Ok so my first kiss was at

Ok so my first kiss was at homecoming with my xgf (miss her) it was her first kiss too. and we waited for the perfect moment and everything. for half the night we danced and had fun with friends. then it came to the part of the night when slow dancing songs came on and we went out and slow danced and got really really close held her. then just kinda kissed. god i miss that night :(


My First kiss was horrible it was only bouttt 3 months ago and we were aat a club/disco thingy and we started dancing at the end i kissed him on the cheek thenhe pulled my face towards him and made me kiss i didn't really like him much ok he was alright looking but he had acne (CRINGE) and now all my friends laugh about it HELP!


dont think theres much you can do.. i mean if we could re-do out first kisses im sure we all could. and if your friends are laughing at you about it im sure they're not your real friends


i wish i could go back to my first kiss my first kis was stolen

isn't everyone's? i don't

isn't everyone's? i don't know a single person whose first kiss was anything but awful

:o not mine!!! My first kiss

:o not mine!!! My first kiss was amazing!!! It was the girl of my dreams!! We had only know each other for 6 days, but now were going on our 4th month being together...I don't know why I'm telling you this! Hahaha XD


i hated my first kiss my first kiss was stolen by an asshole

Hehehe the master of kisses starts with a tease

This was my first kiss EVER... will never forget it... hope it gives you ideas XP

Just imagine being with your partner... They come over and whispers words of.. i love you.. i need you... your very existance is the onlything keeping my heart beating.... then softly pressing their forehead on yours brushing their lips against your and softly moaning... whispering the words... you want them... huh do you... the pressing their lips finally on yours and pulling away before you kiss... They slowly back away winking at you then as you go to go off and do somthing else they pull you in and kiss you softly then you both lose yourselves in the kiss and just letting nature take its course

XP Hope all your kisses where like my first XP

Enjoy (-.-)\


wow. i definitely didnt ever think of your ears to be a sensual spot. i surprised my guy with it. and let me tell you... he loved it!


OK there is this girl that i used to date in my neighborhood but she broke up with me saying she didnt have time. We still hang out alot, but i want to kiss her again. Should i just do it or ask,im so confused please help.

yeah, girls love to be

yeah, girls love to be suprised, or at least the girls i know. so try suprizing her ;]

go For it

Just get close then hug her then lean in girls like me normally like it when guys do that its reallllyy romantic

welll as a girll i would

welll as a girll i would like a guy to suprisse me im sure she would get caugh p in the momment and follow on with it:)

i luv my bf start off kissin

i luv my bf start off kissin my neck and go all the way up to my face and then toward my lips. That is one way he make its kissin sooo sexy and also we start kissin we just start to pull each other bottoms lips and thats makes it super sexy.

since im a virgin.. i love

since im a virgin.. i love kissing! and everytime i kiss my bf i get butterflies in my stomache<3


I LOVE butterfly kisses

I just wish

I have had many boyfriends and my ex bf never kissed me romanticly. He never would just kiss me cause he loved me. He only kissed me so he could make out or feel my chest. Most boys only like me for my chest cuz im a 32 DD and im only 13.
Anyways i want a bf that will kiss me softly and make me smile

lol the red light kisses

lol the red light kisses seem dangerous!!!!!!!