Foreplay
Foreplay is a fundamental part of the whole lovemaking experience. Most men and women experienced in sex will agree that the best sexual encounters should include long and sensual foreplay. A big part of the fun on any trip is the journey to get there – do yourself a favor and don’t miss out on it. A more attentive form of foreplay will bring increased pleasure to both partners, and make any sexual experience more satisfying.
Both partners need a little extra spice to get fully aroused and achieve maximum pleasure. The man may need to prolong foreplay to get an erection and the women will usually need the same to become properly lubricated. Unless you are both just wanting a ‘quickie’, there is no such thing as spending too much time on foreplay. The trick is to start intercourse when both partners are fully aroused and having a hard time (pun intended) controlling their desires from foreplay.
Foreplay includes a range of activities such as undressing, kissing, petting and oral sex; but you can add your own thoughts to the list. Sensitive foreplay is so important to good sex because it will help both partners enjoy sexual intercourse more, and it will especially help women reach orgasm more often. Most woman need prolonged stimulation in order to reach complete arousal, and foreplay will provide them with the required encouragement.
There is no such thing as the definitive way to foreplay; it is not about pressing the ‘right buttons’ in any pre-determined order (unless after trying everything out you find that is what you both like). It is about understanding what makes your partner tick and supplying those things that make the experience exceptionally pleasurable. There are many ways to give your partner extreme pleasure, and it all begins in the brain. Compliment their appearance or other attributes, especially if they have a low confidence level; show them that you care about them and what they enjoy.
Creating the right environment for sexual intercourse is all about paying attention to the details, which is especially important at mature stages in the relationship. For example, make sure the room is warm, the lighting subdued and that the appropriate music is playing. Once the mood is right, take the time to undress each other slowly, because the act of removing your partner's clothes can be an important part of successful foreplay. Many find that undressing increases the eroticism - stimulating and intensifying the feeling.
During foreplay, go slow; begin by kissing and caressing. A kiss is usually the first physical expression of love and desire, but it is also often forgotten during sexual intercourse. During intercourse, kiss the different parts of your partner’s body, and don’t be restricted solely to the mouth. Many women complain that their partner doesn't kiss long enough and rushes the movement directly to the genital area. Don't be shy to experiment on every part of the body (for example, many women enjoy particular kissing and nibbling attention to the neck and shoulders) - and remember to prolong the foreplay with more kissing and caressing.
Another reason foreplay is important is for the learning experience. Foreplay is the perfect time to spend time understanding what your partner likes because without that, you will never understand what they really need to be fully stimulated. Don't be shy; ask for feedback and also give your own. Both partners gain from good communication during foreplay and lovemaking. If words fail you, either SHOW or GUIDE your partner in the direction you want, and encourage them to do the same.
Remember that only by communication can we understand what is required to improve - and that practice makes perfect!
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im 16 and im a virgin, i think about forplay 24hours
7days a week. is that weird? I cant help it I've tryed to stop but no effect. it just consumes my mind all the time :) all i want is a girl to play with, and to be played with. i just want to have a little bit of fun. im tired of sleeping all by myself.. it feels lonly, i feel lonly, i dont want to be lonly enymore. i want to have someone that i can be there to love/support and be there 4.
Teenager needing help.... please... :)
Hi, i'm a teenager, and i'm a virgin. I think about sex a lot, hormones I guess, but I think of foreplay sooooooooo much more. I always think about it no matter where I am. Is that weird? Is it wrong to just want someone to play with, and to be played with?
Confused... :(
yeah :D dont worry about it.
yeah :D dont worry about it. imm a 14 year old guy, and personally i think about a girl to play with in some weird places. but its hormones i guess? i think its more you want someone you can trust like that than actually doing it.
don't worry!
don't worry, girl! thats totally normal and i enjoy the journey more than the destination most of the time (depending on the guy tho lol...) :P Theres nothing weird about ya, u'r normal!
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Ok I see many women on here complaining that there husbands or bf's are not spending enough time on foreplay or skip it compleatly. my wife to be feels the same way. she dose not get it when I say foreplay is for the guy too. she demands the foreplay but it seems one sided. then we get down to it, and after im left feeling like im missing out. im losing my sex drive for her because of this. just somthing to think about.
What makes me tick w/ my bf
I'm a virgin saving myself for marriage and I've got to put it out there that, when my bf and I get married (we would be already engaged, but it's complicated), if my bf is even half as good at sex as he is with foreplay, I'll continue to be a VERY HAPPY woman! lol
He's had previous experience, which-no doubt-helps, but I'm really encouraged by the fact that he's never ONCE pressured for sex-hell, he has promised we won't have sex until we're married (which makes me happy).
He's very studious of what really turns me on so it really does just get better and better! :) (Been together since we were 18 and 22, now I'm 20 and he'll be 24 on Monday and still kickin'!)
I am sooooooo looking forward to sex with that man ;)
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I love when boys bite and nibble on my nipples.. i love when they rub my clit. I dont find anything exciting about fingering...except for when he goes soo fast i orgasmn so hard.
all the nerves that give the
all the nerves that give the feeling of pleasure are at the front of the vagina, so fingering normally doesnt feel great. But wehn you go really fast and the clit gets rubbed quickly, it feels verry verrrry good.
hey, my husband use to love
hey, my husband use to love foreplay when we were datin and engaged but since we got married it feels like the passion and heat has left the bed room and when i try to talk to him about it he just says hes tired n wants to go to bed and there is one other thing i give him head alot but when it comes to returnin the favor he want do it i dnt knw what to do any more plz help me somebody.
hmmm..
Heres something to think about. Try grabbing his attention. Set up a nice evening where you know itll be just you and him that night and now interruptions. Get something sexy to wear, whether it's a corset, tassels, a sexy nightie, or just getting some thick ribbon and cover your breast and your bottom tying them in a big bow. Spice it up, Surprise him. Hell get some handcuffs, blindfolds, and new positions. Grab him by the balls (figuratively). When you give him head use the cuffs, tease him beyond he can take. And when he starts to get really frustrated, take the cuffs off, see what he does, from my experience they tackle you ;) good luck, i hope i helped a little
Pamela, I have the SAME
Pamela, I have the SAME problem! My husband and I haven't even been married for a year yet, and already the passion and lust is gone. He barely ever wants to have sex, and when we do, he rushes it and I always end up unsatisfied and upset.
I wish I knew how to fix it, because I would gladly tell you how...But I don't know. I've talked to him about it, I've even asked him if he's having an affair...I have no idea what's wrong.
And people joke that it's the WOMEN who go cold after marriage.
Loves it
My girlfriend and i used to foreplay all the time, but now im in college and she is at home and when i come home to see her she just goes crazy all over me and it is always skipped, i mean sometimes we go back to it(making it Afterplay), but i really miss it, any ideas on how to bring it back from the dead?
I loveee foreplay, but my
I loveee foreplay, but my boyfriend just doesnt spend as much time as I would like on it. especially fingering. I have to keep coasting him to keep doing it because that will be what sets me off the end.
foreplay is best for sex
my boyfriend and I we foreplay for sometime before we have sex. it enables him to get harder and stay longer. it also helps me to cum faster...which he loves. our foreplay includes kissing each other from heand to toe and back up, sucking genitals,undressing each other and rubbing on each other while our clothes are on. everyone should attempt with clothes when you reach that point you'll just feel to rip all of his clothes right off anf roughly push his d**k into your c**t
foreplay
I enjoy the foreplay best out of any part of sex. I'll usually put on sexy jammies and let him undress me and I undress him and go from there to kissing and face to face and he will work from kissing down from my forehead all the way to my toes. then he procedes to grab a bite to eat on the way up and then come up and its my turn to work my way down.
This is a great way to start
This is a great way to start your foreplay with kissing. I like to start at the head or neck and work my way down. I spend plenty of time on her tits and especially her nipples. Then on down her stomach to her crotch and inner thighs. I don't always make it to her toes since by now she wants me on her vulva playing with her outer labia, clit, and inner labia with my lips and tongue. Where we go from there is always an adventure whether it includes fingering, some anal play, or spending series time on her clit. We have even gone back and forth between oral, intercourse, back to oral and then more intercourse. She at times enjoys kissing me after I have been down on her so she can taste herself. So much varation available with good foreplay.
fun variation.
A fun variation on this is that you may want to try spelling things out as you kiss her/him with your tongue. Things like "I want you" or "I need you" ect like that. its kinda fun to feel her shiver as you slide your tongue against her skin. hehe
I really opened up my gfs
I really opened up my gfs eyes to the world of foreplay. She was amazed at how much better sex was with it. Before that, she had a bf how didnt do anything except kiss and f*ck. Sex just wasnt that great for her. After we started dating and doing stuff she admitted to me that she had never had sex like it before. She was so amazed at all the different kinds of things that felt good to her. Besides the obvious of fingering and rubbing her breasts but she found out she loves to be bitten/ kissed on the neck and ears and also likes to have her hair messed with and back messages and all kinds of stuff. So foreplay is definitely an exploratory activity to find out what each other likes. It may even be a little self revealing too.
12/27/08 just an update....she did not want anything stuck inside of her tonight so i found out i can make her peak by just rubbing and pinching and sucking on her breasts/nipples. she orgasmed 3 times.
Foreplay
My boyfrend and I engage in foreplay but it always the same: It starts with kissing and me massaging his di*k and him fingering me. Then we proceed to have sex BUT right now since he is locked up the next we have sex we make make a baby!
foreplay vs sex
I'd probably prefere foreplay to sex. I'm scared about the latter.
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wats latter?
in every sexual act,
in every sexual act, foreplay is the best starter........ if your guy or even you could not perform well in your foreplay it will be unsatisfactory.......
foreplay
me and my boyfriend foreplay, and he rubs me in the bests way ever. it feels so good.
Foreplay and it's impact
Foreplay is the beginning of sexual excitement, and later on after experimentation guilt just disappears and enjoyment sets in. A lot of people just deep kiss, get excited and pull down their pants and panties, start having sex. There still seems to be a hangup that sucking, licking, fondling etc etc is what prostitutes do. Hence the misconceptions and sex is then limited to a penis penetrating a vagina and the male after having an ejaculation the session has ended. Some may go two or three rounds :).
My personal experience was the same when I got married and being a virgin just adhered to the norms. Having read some sex books, I realized that there is more to sex than just deep kissing and f**king. I suggested to my hubby about wanting to kiss his penis but he refused saying it's what prostitutes do!! And then after many weeks of talking and showing him graphic images of fondling in different positions he finally agreed and guess what???
So started a fulfilling career in slut sex between my hubby and myself. We have practically tried every erotic trick in the book, from gentle fondling, to heavy petting and everytime its different. My hubby now with me for 20 years still reminds me and tells me about the first time I gulped down his semen. Some of our fondling took the form of exploring every part of boths anatomy and up to today oral explorations in ANY form, tit sucking, licking and using toys forms part of our lovemaking process.
I must say that we have somewhat grown very bold in sex whereby nothing is abnormal to us anymore. Be it me deepthroating another person or my hubby f**king another woman, having threesome and foursomes, oral intercourse, and of couse the one that so far I only perform with him (Anal intercourse). I have posted a lot of my daily experiences elsewhere on this site.
Lizz
Lizz, nice write-up. Oral
Lizz, nice write-up. Oral sex was kind of the same for us when we first tried it. My wife thought that only sluts did this, but I really wanted to try it. I loved her scent on my fingers after fingering her and wanted to taste her with my mouth. Once she allowed me to go there, she was hooked. Still took awhile for her to be comfortable with oral and not thinking that only sluts do it but accepting it as part of a sexual appetite we get to experience.
I enjoy giving her back massages as foreplay. It gets her relaxed and ready for really enjoying sex. I enjoy rubbing my hands over her back and her a$$. I like to put my hard c**k on her a$$ while doing this and eventually it slides between her a$$ checks. Then I really like to massage her checks and let my c**k slide even further down bury italong her labia. We had tried doggy style once and she didn't like it. But once when doing a massage like this, she started to move her hips and she really enjoyed the feel of my c**k rubbing her that way. Before long, I had my c**k burried in her pussy and we spent some nice time with me getting her from behind and having me cum in her and she had a great orgasm from it. So she has been a lot more open to doggy style since then.
lizz, how can you have sex
lizz, how can you have sex with other men and let your husband do the same to other women? are you saying that you haven't formed a sufficient emotional relationship with him to want him all to yourself?
hey, if it works for them
hey, if it works for them let them enjoy, although in almost all cases threesomes and swinging will kill a relationship some times it can make it stronger or spice it up, my only advice is use protection when swinging (if you don't already)
This is something that so
This is something that so many people miss out on by rushing things ... 'enjoy the journey as much as the destination', I say!
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True, true.