So i am a younger teen who has been dating the same guy for almost a year now. valentines day was the first time i gave him a blow job. and now we do oral stuff alot. He wantes to have sex. I do 2, but im scared of getting pregnet at such a young age. Im 14. Hes got a condom and i know were more are in my house. There is no way i can go to the docter and get the pill without my parents knowing. Should i have sex?
help please
Wed, 08/08/2007 - 16:21
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Young and worried about getting pregnant HELP!
If you cannot go to planned parenthood, then be certain to use a vaginal spermicide and he uses a condom. Use both!
Beyond that, it's your call.
You don't have to go to your doctor to get the pill. Go to your Family Planning Clinic and there should be a nurse that can start you on the Pill, thats how I had to do it.
Other than that, then yes do as Sera says and use whatever protection is available to you, and be careful. If you truly want to have sex then go for it, just know what the outcome can be if you don't take the right precautions.
[QUOTE=sera300;189581]If you cannot go to planned parenthood, then be certain to use a [COLOR="Red">vaginal spermicide[/COLOR] [COLOR="Black">and he uses a condom. Use both![/COLOR]
Whats vaginal spermicide?
i told u i was new
And at 14, keep practicing with hands and mouths. There is much more to learn that way as you gain education about protecting yourself. At 14, the pill can do harm to your normal development. At a minimum use vaginal spermicide in you and a condom on him.
You can buy it at the local drug store, near the condom isle. It kills any sperm which may have escaped the condom or if the condom broke...it does not allow you to skip the condom.
Honey,
You and your Mum need to talk. Real soon.
we did. a few times. and she found out from my boyfriends mom that i gave him a blow job.:eek: she said she found a note. BS! any way. if i talk to my mom about it she'll know im going to have sex with him. And then she won't let me see him if we have any chance of being alone.
so i guess my big question is.... am i to young?
i can learn and i will, but am i young? mine and his sexual needs are going insane. Bj Hj eatin out and finguring is a daily thing for us. We r getting board. physicaly i want to. mentaly i dont. how can i spice things up and change them up with out having actully sex?:confused:
Here is a good thread to read it explains a lot:
http://www.sexinfo101.com/forum/sexual_health_women/11675-am_i_ready_sex...
Parents do have an idea what their kids are doing. I am sure she would rather you be safe and ask rather then guess.
how do i start the convo wit her???
" hey mom, how was ur day? hey i want to have sex"
[quote=pinklady9;189720]how do i start the convo wit her???
" hey mom, how was ur day? hey i want to have sex"[/quote]
Read your other thread...
Honestly hun I think your too young for sex. Think about it, do you really want to have sex with this boy?Chances are you wont stay together for years to come. You are both young and soon your desires will change and you will no long have feelings for eachother. Hey if you do end up sticking together kudos to you guys. But honestly, I have a 14 year old sister and I know that if I ever found out she was sexually active id be floored. 14 is too young to have sex in my opinion. And think about it carefully....are you ready for the consequence? are you ready to be parents? Didnt think so.
If you still want to have sex and you need to talk to your mom about it be straight forward. She was admire your courage and maturity to ask her. Anyways good luck and be safe
If you are 14 and wondering if you are ready, then I can tell you you are not. I was 14, did not ask anyone, nor did I tell anyone, and I never doubted my choice. We were careful, he had more information about birth control then I did, I bought some spermicide and he bought the condoms, and life was fine. Yes, I wondered every month if I was magically pregnant, bought more preg tests then you can imagine, but swore somehow we might have failed. Bad choice, no for me it was not but I was certain of what I was doing and with whom. Looking back, obviously in many ways we both were "clueless" but it was a start.
If you have to ask is it a time to begin, the answer is no...don't let your hormones run away with you. Tell him how you feel, ask him to not push the issue when you are both worked up...and no "just putting it in to see how it feels, promise I will not come" with out all this birth control.
[QUOTE]Im 14.[/QUOTE]
Im 13 and I havnt had sex. You should really consider it before going "all the way". your virginity is a "one-time" gift. use it wisely. and im pretty mature for my age , dont have sex unless you are willing to become a mom because you never know what could happen "down there" :)
I'm 14 And Of Sex With My BF All The Time. You Can Get Over The Counter Birth Control But Condoms Work Good. The Only Problem I Find With Codoms Is A Discusting Taste During Blowjobs. Make Sure You Both Where Condoms. When You Both Have Condoms. It's Nearly Immposible To Get Pregnent.
Using condoms does not ensure pregnancy prevention. Condoms & the pill or condoms & spermicide.