The site seems a good source of info and i have been looking around on it and found these boards. i have to admit, feel a little embarrised writing these things but Im kinda new to all this stuff and figured id give it a shot.
Im 20 but untill recently have never been in a relationship or anything. I have a gf now though and we have seeing each other for a little bit. We have started to get more into things recently, making out and feeling each other up and stuff. the other night we hung out at my place watching a movie and we were making out and stuff for like an hour or so befor she ended up giving me oral sex. It was my first time getting it but i was worried because I didnt really last that long, only like a few min. Mainly im concerned that if we do eventually move onto something like sex, that i dunno i wont last long enough for her to enjoy it. Would there anything i could do about this or is this all caused to inexperiance or what? My gf knows im new to things and tells me i shouldnt be embarrsed by things but i was just concerned.
thanks for anyhelp to come
Welcome to the SI101 Board. There is absolutely no reason to feel embarrassed, nobody knows who you are or where you live unless you place this information in your stats.
> It was my first time getting it but i was worried because I didnt really last that long, only like a few min.
There is a condition known as "Premature Ejaculation" that plagues teen boys and young men up through their mid twenties. PE is defined as having an orgasm within the first minute or so of intercourse, oral and/or a hand job. If you climax after that then it is not really PE; however, the fix for both timelines is the same.
The control the exercise gives you plus that of the Squeeze technique work just as well for making out, so practice now and put what you learn into practice when you receive a hand job and/or oral.
Please read this Sticky post:
Squeeze & Training Exercise for Controling Premature Ejaculation
> Mainly im concerned that if we do eventually move onto something like sex, that i dunno i wont last long enough for her to enjoy it.
You won't know until you're there in the moment, because guys do not have a problem with PE when doing things solo. The reason is because of our internal feedback and the control it affords us. This is missing when we turn the reins over to our partner. The information in the Sticky will explain it all.
Most women do not enjoy intercourse when it goes on and on much beyond about ten minutes. They report becoming sore, tired, and, bored. If you want intercourse to last longer, take a break and reengage after a few minutes of fondling and foreplay.
If you are concerned about your "staying power" then perhaps the two of you can do the exercise I outline beforehand. When you gain mastery over your senses, you will not have to worry much about PE or simply climaxing before you really want to--within reason.
As a beginner woman with beginner male partners, I found most did not last very long. BUT, they could usually perform an encore (or two) in relatively short time.
hey you shouldn't have problems because by the sounds of it your girlfriend is being positive and supportive and also willing to adjust.:)
Thanks for the feedback
your new to it its fine, look you'll get more experienced and it will get longer and better (the time i mean)