[QUOTE=Roberts_radio;254046][COLOR="blue">Hello, let me first just say that i've lurked on this website for a long time... Very big fan of everything that if provides and the posts in this forum have been nothing short of fantastic.[/COLOR]

Thank you very much for the kudos and kind words, they are appreciated.
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I'm an 18 years young male and I've always considered myself a bit of a sex pest that loves giving and recieving when it comes to pleasure.[/COLOR]

That is a cute reference, and I do understand the meaning. What is important for fellas to understand that what drives us toward conquest and orgasms is not what drives women. I recommend that every guy read up on these gender differences so they will not be perceived as pests and obnoxious when they very well not mean to be. (The information is in the Index.)

[COLOR="blue">However I would like some more advice for helping my lady friend orgasm or at least be slightly more satisfied after we've had intercourse.[/COLOR]

How do you define satisfaction? Is it only the enjoyment of an orgasm--or the "BIG O"? If so, you have much to learn.

Female Sexual Response

Can We Over Come?
Please read Brandye's response.

[COLOR="blue">We've been dating for almost two years and having sex since month 8 of the relationship. I've always enjoyed foreplay with her, very much so in fact, I love giving females oral. She does manage to orgasm when i'm eating her out or massaging her, but I would very much like to try and help her orgasm while we have intercourse.[/COLOR]

There are very few sexual positions that place a woman's pieces-parts in close constant contact with a man's pubic mound, sufficient to bring about the required stimulation and friction. That said, what a knowledgeable, skilled, caring, lover will do is to reach around and finger the clitoris while stroking/thrusting.

[COLOR="Blue">We've talked about it many times and she says she dosn't mind. I'm her first sexual partner when it comes to intercourse and although she says she dosn't mind and she just likes spending the time so close to me, I really would like to do this for her.
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Have a look at the many animated sexual position illustrations on the Home page. Try those that do place your body parts in constant contact. Begin with the Woman Superior/Cowgirl position.

Brandye has written that orgasms are not the biological imperative for women that they are for men. Said another way, women can often be satisfied from all the fooling around and making out that they do with a guy yet not need or require a climax. Not every woman as a matter of course will or ever has climaxed.

What this is telling us is that as a male of the species, it is far more important to satisfy a woman's psyche and her emotions. Kiss, cuddle, first, and address her innermost needs before the external physical ones.

Please read the articles listed in the Index that EvilEvilKitten has penned for more on all this.[/QUOTE]

During the time you've lurked, have you read the articles listed in the Index? I recommend reading all of them more than once and if you can interest your girlfriend, so much the better. Read them together or separately then discuss what you have learned. Knowledge is empowering and the articles contain a lot of useful information as well as how-to tips.

There are ways to please her physically; however, is this what she wants or what you think she needs to more fully enjoy your time together? I suggest learning how to romance her, first and foremost. This often begins hours to a day ahead of when you plan to get together and works to whet her excitement and anticipation--her emotions if you will.

Concentrate on making love to her mind because this is often more important than enjoying an orgasm or two or ten. This is a difficult concept for guys to understand, yet when you do "get it", you will be well on your way to becoming a world class lover. As part of the process, pay attention to her needs and wants and work to show that you validate her as an individual and unique in her own way to the partnership.

If you are not making out for at least half an hour, more if desired and time permitting, then you are moving much too quickly. Learn how to progress from Necking to Petting, to Heavy Petting, and beyond. While stimulating her physically, work on the mind as well by addressing her emotional needs within the relationship. Do these things first, then read about how to better your techniques at pleasuring her physically.

After reading all of the articles, please do not hesitate to ask additional questions. We are here to help.

-doc

If you have been doing your homework whilst lurking, you will have noted that only about a quarter of all women reach orgasm through penetration and thrusting. Men think that orgasm is automatic. Not so. We women need to learn how. The best learning is through masturbation and once we learn what we are looking for, the rest begins to fall into place.

This question has been answered many, many, many times before.