Kind of embarrassing!
Just started seeing someone and while the sex has been absolutely amazing I feel like he is doing most of the work!! Id love to take control but I have never been too confident in my own skills (i.e. being on top, I know what I am doing everywhere else! haha). I've never been told I am bad or anything, and I am not a complete dolt, but for whatever reason I can never really seem to get it going on top! Meaning I can never really get a good speed going.
He hasn't complained, but I would love to suprise him one night and just completely take control. He likes keeping it in the bedroom so chairs and couches are kind of out of the question (roomies). Any suggestions, ideas, or anything to help a girl out?
Try putting music on and close your eyes and focus on moving and the rhythm. The other thing is have him hold your hips and guide them up and down. There is no easy answer on this one!
yea i know, its always frustrated me...i know i am not bad in bed! i just always freak out wiht this, and i know he wants me too. ive been able to get around it by trying every other position in the book but i really dont want him to have to do all the work, besides, its hot to take control... i just dont want to be bad haha
and its not like i have weak legs, i am a runner, so its not an energy thing, and i play an intrument so i can keep a beat. i am completely perplexed by my issue...
Other problem is, when i finally do get something going, falls out....
You are going up too far, stay down more until you get a rhythm. Honestly, many of us have the same issue! I can get going at a good rate, then loose the rhythm then go too high and it slips out and if you come back down it hurts him! If you want to go to the tip go really slow and tease him. Also you can slide your hand under if you go all the way to the top, just in case he slides out!
hm yea be careful you can snap a penis and thats not fun
One thing my girlfriend has done for me in the past is bring a chair into the bedroom itself. From there she almost stands with her legs over me as im on the chair using her legs and me for some support she rocks her hips. Amazing... also, i have a PRETTY low footboard on my bead and it is big, almost like its OWN chair, she uses that too, with me lying back in a reclined position.