well basically, i'm 17 and will be losing my virginity soon with an experienced guy. but i am verrry scared! i'm worried that it will really hurt, that it will feel uncomfortable (as not even a tampon or a finger has been up in to my vagina before) and that i will bleed alot. i'm not sure if my hymen is broken or not, (as i have had some incidents hitting the saddle hard while horesriding!) and also, the thing that concerns me the most is that he won't be able to get his penis up there. I've looked at myself in the mirror and i feel that my vaginal opening looks waay too small! i am also scared of fingering myself incase its very uncomfortable. can someone please help? would really appreciate some feedback on this. thankyou.
Sat, 05/05/2007 - 16:46
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worried about sex
Well first off try here Am I ready for sex?
First time pain and bleeding
There are tons of other threads about first times.
I would suggest that before you go full force sex... you might start out slow and work your way up... as in him fingering you etc. that would help loosen you up.
As far as your hymen... it could be worn some b/c of horseback riding... I know my friend broke hers when she was young...had a bicycle wreck..straddling the bar lol ouch!!!
Vagina opening...yes it "appears" small...but as Brandye says, 95% of vaginas accomdate 95% of penises.
The vagina is very elastic.... I mean a baby comes out of there!!!!!
Just read most of the stickies under the New to Sex forum.
ok thankyou for that and yeah ouch about the bike thing! i feel better knowing that mine isn't the only vagina that looks small! one other thing though, i want to be able to finger myself to help get used to my vagina being touched, but whenever i try i feel like i can't find anywhere deep enough for my finger to get into, i don't know whether psychologically im holding back because i get nervous but this is worrying me :s
do you think that if im really having problems fingering myself that it would be ok to just leave it to my first time? i mean, if the guy is experienced he should know pretty much what he's doing. so is it ok to have sex without having previously fingered myself or put a tampon or anything up there?
I mean I guess it's ok... but if you can't even trust YOURSELF to put a finger in there...how can you feel comfortable letting someone else do it...w/ something that's even bigger?!?
And what exactly do you mean when you say can't find a place deep enough? like actually finding the entrance to the vagina?
Plus, if you are as nervous as you say...you'll be more tense...and make it worse.
I mean if you read around here..there are couples who have to attempt several times just to get his penis inside.
I mean why hasn't your b/f tried fingering you??
For me... it was just better to work my way up...but for some it might be better to just go for it and get it over w/.
Most on the board will often recommend that before you can expect your b/f or g/f to help you w/ your orgasms during sex/oral....that you should be able to give yourself an orgasm thru masturbation. You can't tell someone what you like...if you don't even know yourself. But I didn't orgasm my first time so don't assume that either, lol.
yeah like i can get about half of my middle finger in somewhere but i sort of get stuck at that point and wonder if i'm even in the right place? i get alot of fluid so that kinda helps to guide me to the opening but i'm still not really sure. i guess maybe when it comes to a penis the hole wouldn't be so hard to find because the opening will stretch (<--??) aahhh how confusing
The hole will stretch w/ a finger...then work your way up to 2 fingers.
If it's too tight... your b/f might not be able to enter anyways...as some people have to attempt this several tries
Basically it's up to you... you can work up slowly or just have him force it in.
Vaginal opening 101
too tight
so it would be ok to have first time sex without previously having worn a tampon or fingered myself?
Yes, what do you think women did MANY years ago?.
*feels better already* thankyou