Hi. Ok, I'm an 18 year-old female and I'm still a virgin. well I'm with someone and I want to have sex with him but I have never done anything sexual. I have only kissed guys and I'm worried that he'll think I have an ugly body or I'll do something wrong or I won't get him off. When we are about to have sex what do I do? do I take my clothes off or let him do it? Am I supposed to do anything before actual intercourse? Please don't laugh at me I'm just inexperienced. I don't know what to do. Please help me. Thank you. 
Mon, 01/12/2004 - 08:20
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Worried about first time
thanx guys. you've really been a big help.
if anyone still wants to add comments please do. I will look forward to recieving even more advice. thanx. 
I'll chime in. I'm with the rest on relax and enjoy. But I'll also add a couple of other things.
I'll get the nagging out of the way first.(lol) Make sure you have protected sex. Since you are female you might expect the guy to bring condoms. Don't count on it. Have some ready yourself. It's your health you are protecting. Even if you think your boyfriend is still a virgin- use a condom. I know I harp on this alot, but when you have seen as many people(and not just gay people) die from something that could have been prevent as I have, well, you tend to get on a soapbox. Okay, sermon over.
This is sort of under the relax headline: Even if this guy has had sex, he hasn't had sex with you. He will probably be just as nervous as you are. Take things slowly, and remember, you aren't building a bomb here. If something goes wrong, try again. Communicate with each other. If something feels good, tell him; if it doesn't, tell him that too-nicely, of course. Pay attention to what he likes, and expand on that. Ask him what he likes.
Above all, enjoy yourself.
im w/ wiseman... theres no rush.. enjoy all the exploration along the way.
i was a virgin till i was 23.
my b/f wasn't and he knew i was nervous so he took extra care of me and didn't really expect me to do a lot. he just catered to me and let me enjoy it all.
i just kind of laid back and enjoyed what was going on.
thank you very much for replying. ok i will try to relax and do some foreplay before i actually have sex. thanx again. anyone else have any more advice? I'd appreciate it.
The first thing you should do is relax, almost everyone has the same worries you have now before their first time. Since you have never done anything sexual before I would suggest that before you jump right in and have sex that you try other things first (fingering,oral,etc.) Doing this should help you relax and not worry so much. And if the guy cares about you he won't think you have an ugly body(he'll be grateful to be getting anything anyway trust me.) Before you have sex you should definitely do a decent amount of foreplay(fingering, oral, etc.) to get you wet. As for taking clothes off it's up to you, if he wants to take your clothes off and your comfortable with that go for it, if you would prefer to take them off yourself that's fine too. Above all try to RELAX. Sex is a wonderful thing so enjoy it. And don't worry, everyone worries before their first time. Good luck and have fun, don't worry you'll do just fine.
virginwhoneedshelp, it's quite a leap to go from "only kissing" to having sexual intercourse. You don't say if your boyfriend is experienced, but I'd suggest that you slow down a little and enjoy your path to discovery. There are a lot of wonderfully sexual experiences that you two can share prior to intercourse. Many of these will likely enhance the pleasure of your first time. Think about it. You're an adult and I'm by no means suggesting that you not have sex with your boyfriend, just that you needn't rush it to the point that you're more concerned with the how than the why.
Hey, there is too much to tell to just put it into a comment. IF you want, seek me out on my AOL, DevilSprky, and we can talk.