j180,
Every woman is physically capable but they may not be psychologically capable of having multiple orgasms. It all depends upon what she believes about sex. Women can be capable of unlimited orgasms.

Check around the site for more info - we have dealt with this before.

In addition, please do not make having multiple orgasms your goal. Remember always that we do not give orgasms away, all any of us can hope for is to help our partner achieve them.**

It may be that for any session in the hay, she may have enjoyed a really satisfying climax and one is enough. Maybe not. This is where communication between you is important.

If you learn that she enjoys multiples, or, would like to explore this aspect of her sexuality, it is up to her to let you know and when. **Do not push. Just be there when she wants more than one. This is the same approach you should use when learning how many more. She may be satisfied with one more, two more, or more yet. You can try initiating the next one and if she has had enough she will stop you. (Implied Consent.)

If you learn that she does enjoy more than one orgasm, the rule of etiquette is that she enjoys the first orgasm of the session and the last, if it is her wish. In between, the two of you can have as many as you want.

If you want more than she does, then invite her to continue love making and when you have passed through your refractory period and are good to go again, go for it. Similarly, if the two of you want more than one, you have options: hers can come one after the other, spaced in between any two of yours, timed to happen at nearly the same time.

j180 - do NOT ever think that orgasms are NOT intense. No. Each orgasm is a delight unto itself and the more she has, the more she tends to want. "One is enough" - should never enter your vocabulary.

[QUOTE=jl80;231662]By no means am I forcing her to have multiple orgasms. was just curious.[/QUOTE]

OH good. I was not being accusatory, just putting out a policy recommendation for anyone reading this thread.

There are many fellas who think that because orgasms are so important to them that they must be for women, also, and they are perplexed and frustrated not knowing when or if their partner has climaxed. Orgasms are not a requirement for females of the species--nice when they happen, great if they happen more than once, yet a love session can be quite satisfying without.

A lot of fellas new to romance and sex believe that they have to "make her orgasm". Not so; therefore, they "push" for them to happen.

Please read the several articles listed in the Index that discuss the female orgasm from different aspects.

Evilevilkitten.. "Every woman is physically capable but they may not be psychologically capable of having multiple orgasms. It all depends upon what she believes about sex. Women can be capable of unlimited orgasms."

What do you mean by that? If I THINK that I can have an orgasm then I can?? That just doesnt make ANY sense at all to me.

Many women believe they are built like men - "one is enough/all". Or they mistake the heightened sensitivity for 'pain' and stop. Or they fear losing control so they 'stop' themselves from having an orgasm by tensing up or deliberately pulling away. Or they 'tune out' and disassociate themselves mentally from the entire episode. Or they simply believe they can't or shouldn't orgasm.

Simply put, women short change themselves more often than not.

Sex begins in the brain with your wiring and with what you believe about yourself and about sex. If you believe sex is sinful and you wish to avoid sin, well, you're not going to have sex and if you must because you're married and have to have children, you'll make damn sure you do not enjoy it. Do not laugh, I know women who have lived that way for years.

Yes, you can get so aroused that a breath of wind can set you off! LOL

Remember "I think I can. I think I can!'??
As you believe, so shall you do.