There is no quick solution. If you want rid of the excess pounds as you describe the case, it will take about a year - diet and exercise. There is no healthy way to solve this issue quickly.

self confidence shouldn't be faked. you either have it, or you don't.
Find someone who truely likes you, there not going to notice.

As everyone states you have what you have. The weight loss has to be done over time. There are body wraps for rare occasions...this should not be one & they are NOT healthy.

I have small love handles and I love my body. I have never been with someone who I felt might make fun of my body or see it as unattractive. Feeling confident and showing your partner you like what you see in the mirror is one of the biggest turn ons. The more you like yourself, the less you will worry about what anyone else thinks :) If it is really bothering you, you could always get a sexy negligee or lingerie that you can keep on until you feel more comfortable, while still having access to the other areas.

I'm overweight myself and got some love handles of my own, and i completely believe if you're not comfortable enough to show him all of you in your naked glory then you're not ready to have sex with him. Plus they're called love handles for a reason, if anything they'll make sex more fun, enjoy your body, he certainly will.

The type of lingerie to be worn in this case is called a babydoll nightie.
If he likes you the person, he'll like your physique - unless he's shallow.

ok what happened to the idea of men liking something to grab on to? they're called love handels for a reason, i have love handles to my boyfriends loves it and every guy i've asked says they like a fuller figured women, why worry yourself, your gorgeous the way you are!

[QUOTE=yuna;197410]Hmmm... well, i canceled it. not because of the love handles but for another reason. but i guess if the guy does not want me because of love handles, then it wasn't meant to be. :)[/QUOTE]

Now for a lady who was really wanting it...what reason can you have for ducking out?? It must have been very very important.

Stop with this "meant to be" nonsense. You cannot use divine intervention to make up for your poor choices. Men may volunteer but you pick which one you want. Stop making dates and then cancelling them! Only disease and/or your death excuses you from a dste once made and accepted. Start choosing WISELY.

[QUOTE=Brandye;197406]There is no quick solution. If you want rid of the excess pounds as you describe the case, it will take about a year - diet and exercise. There is no healthy way to solve this issue quickly.[/QUOTE]

It does not take a year to lose 20lbs or get ride of love handles. I had this problem it took me 3 months, this was 2 years ago and the weight hasn't come back. I do agree though good exercise and diet!

[SIZE="4">[COLOR="Red">Sex is not a privilege reserved for beautiful young physically fit perfect people. [/COLOR][/SIZE]

Every-body of any physique is entitled to enjoy sex. Stop reading those stupid women's magazines and watching those hideous degrading fat people's makeover shows.

You have every right to enjoy sex just exactly as you are - fat, thin, young, old, pimply, redheaded, no makeup, naked, dressed, 6' tall, or 5' short, missing body parts, bow-legged, athletic, pregnant, or . . . with "love handles."

Get past the silly superficial stuff and invest in your self-esteem as a woman of real substance with more to offer than a waistline. You will become the sexiest woman you can possibly be when you learn to accept and love your body exactly as it is, whatever you may look like.

Good luck, girl!

I am by no means skinny....I have my love handles and yes I am trying to lose weight, but the best exercise is SEX.

I have two VERY hot guys I am seeing....both lean and handsome. They seem to have no problem with getting down and dirty with me. They are practically at my beck and call.

I know I am curvy, but I am so good at what I do they don't care. They both say I am the best the have ever had and they get hard from just listening to me talk.

I have confidence and I am not ashamed of my body, because it is mine and I am using it to my advantage. That is sexy....even a lean big breasted girl can be unsexy if she isn't confident in the bedroom.

I am hot, because I know what I want and I give pleasure.

The last thing that guy is thinking about is love handles!

Pretty much for all guys, all sex is good sex...

Alot of the australian guys like curvy females from a recent study a few years ago, confidence does grow i believe when you trust and feel good about yourself when they are around. Any nice guy will be willing to help you build up your confidence.

When I was very young I used to try to hide my perceived imperfections from my man. Now I know that he loves me and is turned on by my naked body regardless. I used to insist that the lights be off and I didn't like to get fully naked even then but now I embrace my nakedity and strut my stuff. My husband loves it and always tells me how beautiful I am and how much I turn him on.

However I do prefer to have mood lighting in the bedroom. We have two small 25 watt lamps beside the bed with blue shades, they cast a very nice glow without making me feel like I'm under a spotlight. I also have a lamp in the corner with low wattage red bulbs in it that makes a great sexy light too.

basically if the guy is with you, then he's gonna like you as you are.......so go ahead and do the do.....and on the side, if you feel like you need to lose weight/tone yourself, then start working out and changing your diet if you have to....if that is going to make you feel better about yourself.....if you don't want to do it alone, then involve your partner too.....you'll be surprised about how closer you two will get from just working out together

Well, some guys like heavier women. I am very much overweight and my boyfriend loves me just the way I am. :)

like all the guys i know say they hate really skinny girls, they say they love girls with a little meat on them, and like everyone is saying if ur not comfortable with urself u are not ready to have sex