I've been dating a guy for almost a year and recently started having sex. He likes for me to talk dirty to him about my past sexual escapades because it is a real turn on to him. When I do the sex is so great, but I'm not just that good at it and don't know what to say. This guy can last for an hour or longer as long as I continue to talk dirty, but I just can't seem to find the words to keep him horny.
Tue, 07/25/2006 - 03:18
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Woman seek suggestions on talking dirty during sex
Look around the board. It's really not that hard! :mad:
http://www.sexinfo101.com/forum/pleasing_him/17841-dirty_talk_101.html?h...
http://www.sexinfo101.com/forum/pleasing_her/10843-turn-ons_101.html?hig...
http://www.sexinfo101.com/forum/other_sex_topics/17843-help_dirty_talk.h...
My wife described a fantasy that had to do with her and the sales girl at the mall we had shopped at earlier that day. While she narrated in detail how this girl seduced her in the changing room, she stroked my penis. It was a monumental orgasm for me. Guys dont need slutty dirty talk, just describe how you feel. tell him how you like to squeeze him inside you, flattery is great as well, talk about how wet you are, how hard he feels. how tight he makes you feel. dont be afraid to suggest things during sex. It has the same effect. ask him to touch your thighs, squeeze you bottom, lick here, touch there. Men just want you to be involved in whats happening. To me, the words my wife uses for her body parts are key. I love the way it sounds when she says "pussy" or "butt hole",I know it sounds funny, but these words dont come out of her mouth that often. when she directs me to touch her in different places, i go nutts !!!
I was in the same boat as you years ago.
I found alot of help by learning about bedroom talk by reading alot of exotic stories online. There are many available free to read.
After exploring some of these stories, and getting a feel for bedroom talk, I began to print out some of my favorites and read them to my partner at bedtime or sent them with him in his lunchbox, with a note regarding that I'd like to try this when he gets home or something along those lines.
You might even try roleplaying out some of the stories just for kicks.
I found at first when my ex asked me to "talk dirty" and wanted me to be more vocal, it was a major distraction for me. I found it harder to orgasm since I was in a state of mind to "perform" for him. Getting familiar with 'bedroom talk' before I went to bed with him gradually helped me come up with what to say during the moment without actually having to think about it or feeling like I was 'performing for him'.
Keep note the content and some key words he seems to respond to, and dont forget to relax. Enjoy, relax, explore, and definately feel you have the right to give it time to come to you! I know it took me a while, and it was worth it!