My boyfriend likes to be the more dominant one, so when we have sex, I basically follow his lead. There's very little or no foreplay. He jumps on top of me and sticks his tongue in my mouth and kisses me the entire time.
Normally when I'm having sex, I like to gently kiss my partner's face and shoulders and put one hand over one ear while gently kissing/licking the other one ... but with this b/f, I have very little opportunity to do this.
One time I asked him if next time he'd let me kiss him a little and he told me "No ... I don't like it when woman make a move like that and if I don't have control, I won't come". I know he may sound kind of chauvinistic, but he's not really. He has a kind of subtle masculine dominance that I find totally attractive.
I'm not getting bored with his technique yet since he gets so wildly passionate and I'm totally into it. I just wish he would let me show him my own passion just once. I think he would love it. I've never had a lover complain.
Last thing I want to do is piss him off, but I'm considering escaping from his tongue next time and trying it anyway. Think it would "rock the boat?"
I'd appreciate any input.
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in regaurds to the kissing bit, just smile and say "thanks really nice, but let me show you what REALLY turns me on!" he should pick up on those kind of hints
and as for being dominant, suprise him! just pounce on him and rip his clothes off, i doubt he would complain
Well...it's a 50/50 thing i think.......if u push back and try to assert yourself he may see that as a sign of sexual play and be even MORE forceful and well....god onlyknows what will happen then....
OR
He'd see it as a rejection of somesort and it may f*** up his technique. Now thats not a bad thing, it jsut means he's comfortable with how HE likes it because it works for him......just be ready to deal with some drama if u push back when he initiates sex!
Now, if you're smart, YOU WILL take the initiative sometime. Be subtle, be seductive and just ease up to him when he's laying on the couch, and start gentlykissing him..then straddle his torso and put your hands behind your back and unfasten his pants and release his cock....if he tries to throw u off and jam his tougue down your throat..just smile and say, "Baby, just relax, i want to do something special for you."....don't CONFRONT his style, rather, you inititate YOUR style! I think u might be surprised!
I think you should be free to try whatever feels good to you as well. It's not ALL about him.
Maybe he just thinks he doesn't like a woman to take a little control.
My b/f is just the opposite... he wishes I would be more aggressive and make the moves on him a little more... eh.
I guess everyone is different.
I THINK HE BECAME VERY HOT WHEN HE SEE YOU NUDE SO, TRY TO CALUM HIM DOWN AND ASK HIM TO GIVE HIM A STRAPTIS SHOW ALSO TELL HIM THAT FORPLAY IS TURN U ON AND YOU CAN GIVE HIM THE BEST SEX THAT HE EVER HAVE IN HIS LIFE , TRY TO RID HIM AND BE WILD I THINK HE WILL LIKE THAT .