Hello. New to community.
I have a question. I have not been sexually active in about 6 months. I am dating a man of a little beyond average size (about 10 inches and wide girth) and i am really scared to have sex with him. Is it possible that i am going to be in pain in the beginning, and if so, what can i or he do to make it less painful? I know that the vagina is very elastic, but i am not sure how long it takes of beiing without sex, or at least with someone that size, before it would be painful. Someone with any knowledge on this would certainly be appreciated. :)
Wed, 03/28/2007 - 01:26
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will it hurt
The only difference with not having sex for a while is your tightened up, this usually happens after about a week, so 6 months, don't worry. Just make certain you are sufficiently aroused and have plenty of lube. Just have him start slow and easy, then work it on in. It will not hurt unless he pushes too much and too fast. My ex was the same, the only problem we had was certain positions such as legs over his shoulders & doggie did not work. No matter what we did or tried; it was too much, I swore it would come out of my mouth! I know on here they say 95% of all vagina's can accommodate 95% of all penis's but in 2 1/2 years it was a no go. He said it was not just me, it was all women he had been with. So if you try, and have a similar problem you'll probably find if you talk to him, it's not just you! Just take it slow, relax, not a thing to be scared of!
thanks so much for that info! I guess my problem is that i have a very low threshold for pain, but I guess i will be fine. Thanks again. Anymore infor surely welcomed!
My wife has one of the lowest pain thresholds I know
But it was not as painful as she imagined it would be the first time
I suggest little steps at a time,
Take a little of him at a time and make sure you are nice and moist
Talk to your partner and tell him your concerns
Sex is meant to be nice and not painful:D