I tried getting some info on the first time bleeding and pain but i really would like to find out asap.
My boyfriend and I had sex on Monday, my first time. Didn't last very long because it hurt way to much. At first it wouldn't go in but then BAM it went in really hard. About 2min later blood was just everywhere, on his floor, all down my legs, my new thong:( etc.. Thankfully he loves me enough to help me and cleaned me up. I am still bleeding just a little bit(and it is Thursday). I am hopeing next time i go over there to try it again, i am just scared i will bleed again. What do you guys think?
Thu, 05/05/2005 - 23:21
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Will it happen again?
It also expands inside of you when the blood soaks into it so it "stretches" you little by little over time.
But as demon said, it's not the same size as a penis, but it's a start.
just by the fact you get used to having something inserted in your vagina.
A tampon is by no means the same size as a penis, but it helps to start somewhere.
Usually helps more tho before you even have sex by wearing away the hymen.
I never tried again, Im still scared. But i will be seeing my boyfriend in about 2-3weeks max and my period should be here any day now. I have just started wearing Tampons and i have heard that it helps a little..how so?
Thats what i thought but i just wanted to make sure. But once the hymen breaks, it doesn't come back right?
No, the hymen doesn't grow back. Once it's gone, it's gone.
And I personally don't feel the difference, but sex is not frequent for me. I only have it once usually every like 3 to 6 months, so that's probably why I don't notice a difference.
The vagina is very elastic. I dont think you'll really notice that much of a difference...especially if you wait awhile between times. If however you did it everyday, then you might notice it not being SO tight.
I've mentioned before that like if my b/f do it regulary like a few times a week or whatever then I usually go visit my family for 2 weeks. When I return home I can tell that I am tighter having not had sex for 2 weeks. So it can loosen and tighten back up.
If noticed that i am still as tight as i use to be after that happend. I can only fit my finger in there, but maybe its because my nails are really sharp so everytime i try to use 2 it hurts cuz of my nails. Aren't you suppose to feel the diffrence, or what?
I wasn't scared or nervous or anything like that. I lost it to the person I wanted to lose it to and I trusted him and I still trust him. I just happened to be one of those that had pain for a while... which is completely normal for some. And now that the pain is gone, I look even more forward to what little times we have together.
I really don't see it as being a bad experince, because you have to start somewhere. I look at it is as a learning experince, everytime is diffrent. I was scared, and completly against sex until i found this place and now i am totally relaxed when it comes to sexual things and look forward to it. I can not wait until i can get thru the pain and enjoy myself
I know people that didn't have any problems their first time. They didn't have pain and they didn't bleed. Not everyone has a "bad" experience their first time.
But, it's always best to do lots of foreplay before hand. Stretch yourself with his fingers or yours. Have lube. Lube is a plus. I don't however recommend a jelly lube. Get somtehing like Astroglide. It's worked miracles for me.
And if you really want to get used to it, you can always buy a toy or two. Start out with something slim and plastic and then work your way up.
I eventually wound up with a jelly toy that was about the size of my guy and at first, I had pain with it and I was annoyed at the fact that I did cause I had pain with everything. So well, I gave up. But then a couple weeks later I picked it up again, pratically drowned the thing in lube, I used some of the silken secrets stuff as well (which is lube you squirt inside of you) and it went in with barely any pain at all.
Since then, I sometimes have a tiny bit of pain on the first entry, but nothing like it was and it goes away pretty much instantly.
[QUOTE=Quote (thetease13 @ May 08 2005,09:18)]Some people do. Some people will bleed a little until they get used to how it feels and being stretched down there by something bigger than a finger or a tampon.
is there nethin u cud do before u hav sex to make it less of a painful experience? like first try putting 2 fingers in urself or 3...or 4?!?!?!?!! loll probs 3!
So I didn't bleed... just had pain till I got used to the size of the penis.[/QUOTE]
im rlly scared about sex for the first time...i havnt yet done it but i've been put off by the fact so many girls seem to hav horrible experiences for the first time!!...
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Some people do. Some people will bleed a little until they get used to how it feels and being stretched down there by something bigger than a finger or a tampon.
So I didn't bleed... just had pain till I got used to the size of the penis.
Bleeding stopped, yay! I am hopeing to try again this Monday. I hope it is like you, tease.. i do not want to bleed again. Has anyone ever bled the 2nd time?
I wasn't gushing blood my first time like you are but I did bleed off and on for a few days aftewards. I just wore a light day pad. It was enough to cover it.
I didn't however bleed the second time.... nor the third time it hurt either. 4th time it finally went in with no problem. But again, only blood the first time.
Just take your time with it. Sex isn't magical the first few times for a lot of people.
Like demon said, get some lube and start out with your fingers to loosen you up, do some foreplay to get yourself worked up a little better, and then try to go for the plunge.
Approach it as you would any other wound.
Your hymen was probably still intact and all of a sudden broke, thats maybe what the "bam" was.
It will take time to heal, just like anything else.
Just dont rush it, and do lots of foreplay.
Let his fingers loosen you up as well.