i've been married for 13 years and i have a great marriage. we are the best of friends. our twosome sex life is crazy good. in addition to that my wife and i have been having a 2.1some FMF (they play with each other and i play with my wife) for the past 10 years. we agreed she can do everything with the girl. 2 years ago i told my wife i wanted to participate more in the threesome. i said i wanted to do everything that she gets to do and more. but my wife said no, she is not comfortable seeing me have sex with another women i am her man. but we talked a whole lot about it and she changed her mind and said i can use my hands all over the third girls body but not my mouth and no fu**ing and no vaginal finger penetration. anal finger pentration was ok and dont get to intimate. and the rules between the girl and myself are the same but she can give me head. my wife gets to do whatever she want to both of us. my wife has said that maybe in the future she will let me do more but no promises and she may not ever let me fully play.
i am not opposed to having a MFM threesome if she ever has that fantasy. i told her she can do everything except mouth kiss with the other guy.
should i shut up and enjoy what i can do or keep talking to her til we agree on a full threesome?
so i feel like the original 3some rules no longer works for me. she says her comfort level wont allow her to let me do more right now. both are valid points but which persons feeling should be the deciding factor?
we both really want to do it we just need to agree on something.
Thu, 09/30/2010 - 08:29
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wife wont let hubby join the threesome
If you do not agree completely, you have the seeds of a very messy split. Each couple that dabbles in threesomes reaches agreement in their own way. If you are feeling left out, you need to negotiate; if she wants more variety, she needs to negotiate. I cannot imagine watching a mate with another woman.
As one who participates in 3-somes, 4-somes, more-somes- if SHE is not comfortable then you DON'T do it.
The rules are simple: whatever the lady says, goes.
This is because women are the physically weaker party and are therefore more at risk.
IF you are not happy with this, then you have to re-negotiate but you have to proceed at HER pace.
Or you can get divorced.