She's working on some regular stretching. But it's difficult for her to keep her legs apart when I start to go down on her. Once I touch anything on the inside of her legs with my mouth, finger, or whatever her legs come together pretty much involuntarily.
Is there any techniques or otherwise that can be used to make it easier for me to go down on her if her legs are together?
I'm giving a vibrator that is supposedly weaker than most for xmas so that she can get more used to touching her legs and genital region. That should help her orgasm I hope.
So she cant keep her legs spread very far for oral or when you start to go down on her, her legs close?
Because as far as flexibility, you wont need to put your legs behind your head or anything. just enough to get your head down their.
If she is closing your legs out of sensitivity, you can either hold her legs for her, let her wrap them around your head (which IMO is quite arousing for the male....or me at least lol)
One position you can try, put her legs together, and push her feet towards her head. you can proceed to perform oral in this position although the clit is harder to reach.
Well, Bob, this sounds to me like a combination of an involuntary reaction as well as modesty. In addition to the positions Ducy suggested, why not go to the site's home page and look at the illustrated animated positions.
My guess is that her legs do not close when she touches herself. If this is indeed an involuntary reaction, is it because of modesty or that you are tickling her? When a person becomes really turned on, our nerves often react as if being tickled. If this is what is happening, I recommend slightly increasing the pressure of your lips and/or tongue; just be careful of her clitoris.
As suggested by doc, look around the site. Some women cannot stand direct contact with the clitoris until they are very very arouse and others not even when highly aroused. That sort of sensitivity often provokes the thighs slamming shut. You will just have to learn to use a different technique from what you might have become accustomed to. Or you could tie her legs open, hahaha.
Just ignore that last line;)
Relaxation can be a learned response; with her cooperation you might find the sticky post entitled The Program useful at achieving the relaxed yet aroused state that will make cunnilingus pleasurable for you both.
If she is able to spread her legs, and they come together when you touch her, that is NOT an issue of flexibility. That is an issue of relaxation. It's an impulse to draw your legs together when something is invading there. You need to move slowly and make her feel comfortable. Let her legs come together if that's what she wants, where do you think the whole 'earmuffs' slang came from anyway?
Over time, you can encourage her to relax, and open them on her own. This shouldn't be a chore. People and many women especially have a lot of issues about opening their legs. Think about how men and women sit, men sit with knees apart, women tend to keep their knees together. It is more conservative. Conservative people keep their legs together and tend to be less flexible.
Send her for some Yoga classes.
My wife only wants to close her legs when she comes-I don't know why my head not flat!
don't worry n juss try relaxin her ,it'll b fine :)