I'm just curious if anyone else likes their wife/gf to show off in public? I guess its a turn on of mine to see people look at her. I'm always wanting her to wear short skirts and tight low cut shirts. I bought her a wicked weasel bikini to wear at the beach. A thong isn't common around our beaches, but I might have her talked into trying it. I really think her body is beautiful and would love for her to show it more. Sometimes she goes for it, sometimes she don't. I guess its a mood thing. Girls, what do you think? Do you like being looked at? At times she can be kinda revealing, but she gets nervous and doesn't want someone to think bad about her. This is of course without the kids. Only when its just us. How can I get her to be more comfortable and dress a little more revealing than she is?
Sun, 02/06/2005 - 12:14
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Wife dressing sexy, showing off.....
Glad I could be some help and hope it all works out for you and your wife.
Compliments with just do wonders sometimes. It's best to say them often and not just when you want her to wear that outfit for you. And when you ask her to wear it again make sure you add a little compliment in there with it. Tell her why you like for her to wear it and how sexy she looks in it and how good it makes that part of her body that is is accenuating. Even when my boyfriend and I are apart he still compliments my looks. He'll say how much he misses seeing certain parts of me and it just makes me feel better about myself. I can't speak for all women but I think most of us just love compliments.
Thanks for the quick reply. She has said the same thing to me as you have. "If you would compliment me more, then I would feel better about myself." But it never fails, I screw up some how, or don't say it often enough, then she holds back. We are kinda in a situation, where I want and she wants, but neither will move until the other does whatever it may be. I'll ask "Hey, why don't yo wear this?" YOu always want me to wear that." Or "I don't feel comfortable wearing that." SO that turns me off, and I don't compliment her. And then the circle begins. I guess I need to buckle down and really compliement her more than I do. Thanks again.
To make her feel proud of herself and have more self confidence compliment her alot. Tell her she's sexy when she wears one of those outfits. When she wears one of her outfits you like so much remind her of how much you liked it when she wore it. Bring it up later. Be like, "How about you put on that cute little skirt that showed off your gorgeous legs? That was so sexy. I loved it." Just something along those lines. My boyfriend compliments me all the time and makes little comments about the clothes I wear and it gives me a lot more confidence and makes me want to show off more.
Ok, I feel a little better. But the question is how to get her to be more on the "showoff" side. Honestly, I don't want her to come off as a slut. But, I guess me being a guy doesn't think this way, but she does. Like all said above, about leaving things to the imagination, a tight shirt with no bra is just wonderful. Especially with some erect nipples. And to me I see that as natural and a huge turn on. Shorts skirts are the same way for me. I understand she doesn't want her ass hanging out, but if it was right there almost showing, only rising up as she sat down or bent over, to me that would be alright. Another turn on. We are from a smaller town, about 8,000. I can see why she doesn't want to do it around here. And thats fine. But when we go out to a mall to see a movie or shop, or clubbing, where we are plenty far away, I would like her to do this more. And of course no kids.
We've been married over 5yrs now, so we, or I'm very secure in our relationship, and I think she is to. No reason not to be. I think its the basic seeing her in tshirt and shorts around the house all the time. I'm always asking her to put something else on.
I didn't mean for this to be so long, but for those who stuck around thanks! I guess bottom line is, how do I make her feel proud of herself. How do I get her to show herself more? How do I get her in a thong at the beach when theirs a few to any people around? She's always teasing me with the thong at the beach. She says she will then backs out, then its only if we go on vacation to Cancun or someplace like that. What a turn on it would be if we just went to the beach, and out she came in a thong, or layed down and took her top off and started sunning. Thats what I'm talking about!!! I need some help guys, and girls who can relate.
That was good Just.
I'm bisexual. I have a newfound love for girls but I still need some meat.
Cant beat the meat, can't dismiss the pink... lol hey that was catchy... thats my new signature...
Maybe if there were more girls out there like me I might actually be able to find one that I'd date.
So what you're bysexual then? or just playing around?
Well a tease just gets you all excited and then does nothing about it. I'm not like that.
Well thats good there should be more sexy vixens like you in the world, or at least dating me... hehe
Hey awesome do you show off in public? Are you one of those girls that i see with breasts nearly popping from your blouse, a skirt so short i can see you ass cheeks, when i'm at the mall with my parents, and when you pass by my dad would say, "i know what you're thinking..." just curious is all
Yes. I must admit I do like to show up my natural assets. And I'm not one of those girls that gets all offended when I see a guy looking at me. That's exactly what I expected and wanted to happen.
hehe, yur such a tease... well i'm that guyyou pass by. casting a quick glance at your "assets" lol
Oh believe me. I'm anything but a tease. lol.
Umm crap i forgot what i was gonna edit on this...Ummm.... OH yeah
So what are you then instead of a tease?
Well thats good because teasing isn't polite.... lmao, so dont be a tease hehe
I'm with you there yeta. As long as none of it gets in the way of what I want.
On or off, little or alot, doesn't matter as long as you get some in the end!
If Jacky is reading this... this is why men end up geting all aroused when your not about!!!
lol...Hopefully she's reading!
I agree. Even if the cause is jst the cold, or a sudden downpour. It all works for me. A month back i saw a girl in a white blouse... cought in the rain. Well, i had to look!!! Very nice.
Oh I agree. A woman in a wet white shirt making it see through is a very hot image.
nipples poking through shirts, hmmm
Oh I know what you mean Aspals. As much as I love bare hands on my tits I love having them played with through a shirt and then my nipples getting hard enough to see and feel through the shirt.
Maybe I need to cool it. I'm getting myself all hot over here thinking about that...
Well its one of my favourates so i may have to switch the fan an!
Well, i like removing/ripping clothes off... but also leaving them on and pulling things to one side or working around and under stuf. Hmmmm...
A man once told me clothes get in the way, so naked is the best. I believe you can cover some and make them think, and then let them rip it off!
I love wearing clothes that get my boyfriend all hot and he just ends up ripping them off of me. Or if i'm wearing a skirt, not even wanting to wait until they're off and moving my panties over (if i'm wearing any) and having sex with me that way.
Aluring works for me.... the mind can be more sensual than the eyes.
[quote=KrazY,Feb. 06 2005,04:14][/quote]
[QUOTE=Quote ]Girls, what do you think? Do you like being looked at? At times she can be kinda revealing, but she gets nervous and doesn't want someone to think bad about her. [/QUOTE]
I think its a great boost to the feminine ego to have guys turn their heads and take a look. I think when you are confident enough in yourself to modestly show off the curves in a provocative way there is an unspoken sense of sexiness that a good looking body augments without overtly inviting any man to take some action.
My question is what is the motivation for wanting to show off her body? There in lies what the outcome of that showing off could be and her willingness to show off.
Me personally? I am probably the more understated provocative to leave a bit of mystery and intrigue.... you can see great bodies all the time with porn... I would want to add another dimension of alluring to just the body.
but then... my name is finewine after all. LOL!!!
i was being sarcastic to get my point across, sorry if you got a visual or something... lol
[QUOTE=Quote (JustTrying2BeAGOODBoyfriend @ Feb. 16 2005,17:24)]be open about who looks, touches, and even fucks your girl... [/QUOTE]
i disagree...you shouldn't have to be open about who fucks your girl. if you're letting someone else f*** her she's not "your girl", she's dating you as one person among possibly several others, she's not in a relationship with you. sex in a relationship is an extension of the intimacy the two of you share, and letting sex happen outside the relationship corrupts that intimacy.
and i'd personally even be wary of what kind of touching is going on.
Awww I'm sorry to do all the talking Aslpals. lol. I do tend to do that. What can I say I have a lot to say.
You did good. Nothing for me to say now though, lol.
Thanks Alspals. I was hoping that I made some sense.
Well said, Iam
Hmm...I think the point you were trying to get across was that as long as you know she really loves you and cares about you, you have nothing to worry about.
And Just...you're situation is different in the sharing thing. I'm not saying that every guy should let their girlfriend/wife/etc... just have free reign of who she has sex. It all depends on the couple. Some like the idea of sharing their significant other but others are only comfortable with it being exclusive. Everyone's different. I just wanted to make sure that that wasn't the way what I said came across.
[QUOTE=Quote ]But when they show it off it attracts attention...and attracts jack@$$es that might try to steal her. [/QUOTE]
Hey Daubs i was once like you, thinking that every god damn male with a dick between his legs, was going to try to steal my girl, (whichever girl(s) it was at the time) quite honestly i've grown past that petty "she's all mine, and i dont want anyone to look at her, or touch her" insecurity phase. I mean if a girl is into you/ and or she loves you and you into/love her, then you shouldn't have much to worry about, but maybe shes only a girlfriend, (you're not married). When your married, its a commitment "until death do us part", i kinda forgot where i was going with this.... oh yeah, be open about who looks, touches, and even fucks your girl... talk to Awesome, she's got the whole "whys its ok to share" thing down.... oh yeah, and thanks again Awesome...
somehow i think i didnt get my point across... help me out Awesome i forgot what my point was....
Well I'll admit I love the attention I get when I wear revealing clothes. And yes I get some unwanted attention from some very persistant guys but all in all I enjoy it.
Yea, I can understand wanting the wife/gf to show it off. But when they show it off it attracts attention...and attracts jack@$$es that might try to steal her.
Careful...
I love that look..nipples poking through shirts...i think it's so sexy to see a girl in a tight shirt with her nipples hard. especially if i'm the reason they're hard