Been married 2 years now. Have a decent sex life. Had a threesome once with her when dating, and it did nothing negative to our relationship. Often times she would tell me about things that she did sexually with others before me. She's young (only 24) so the background isnt too extensive, but still, it adds a rush. Then this past year at a New Years party, an ex boyfriend from high school comes on hard to her. 2 weeks later we were supposed to go snowboarding but I get invited to spend the night at a casino with some close friends. She tells me I can go, but she is a free woman for the night, unattached, etc etc, and shes going out partying with her cousin. I tell her go ahead, thinking shes messing around
Long story short, she sees the exboyfriend out.
I get home the next day and him his buddy and the cousin are passed out in my house, and my wife is passed out naked in our bed. She wakes up as I walk in, throws a t-shirt on to run to the bathroom, and waits outside it while one of the guys is peeing. From the kitchen, I hear her say good bye, and the guy says the same, after small talking he walks out his friend and him tell me how they got wasted and my wife let them crash on the couch so they wouldnt have to drive home etc etc. So they leave and she walks out of the bathroom and i notice that in her t-shirt, you can still clearly see her naked bottom, though that didnt seem to affect her during conversation with the ex boyfriend.
Anyway, she hints that something happened with her and him, but wont say definatively, and it actually has led to a week straight of amazing sex of me thinking this guy slept with my wife. I know something had to happen, as she was so casually comfortable while standing with her crotch exposed to him.
She finally admitted he tried to have sex with her, so she just blew him. Im not only fine with this, it excites me
I might be crazy, but whats the harm?
only harm I can see is you did not discuss it ahead of time. You both clearly have zero communication or real trust. I dont see anything wrong with an open marriage if your both ok with that.
It is a rush for you today; as this becomes "normal?"
Personally I don't think you're quite as fine with it as you profess to be, even if the issue you have with it seems minor. You wouldn't be seeking approval here if some part of you didn't have some problem with it.
I would echo the communication concerns. First, to not discuss it before hand so that everyone knows what page everyone is on is a recipe for disaster. Second, that she was so evasive about it when you discussed it after the fact shows that some part of her did what she did, either despite concerns as to whether it was right to do so, or with no such concerns at all even though you didn't know.
i would be pissed off, how would she feel if you ate out your ex..........
Some people are into open relationships and I've heard swingers say that since they made that decision their sex lives improved drastically. However, I HAVE heard that communication is important in those situations so I'd discuss with her if you want to pursue such a relationship.
true, to each their own......:D
What's the harm?
Well, none, really, if protection is properly used. But this drunken wildness isn't the best way to go about it in my experience.
The usual turn of events is that you two will calm down once the novelty has worn off and you will end up with a few good friends with whom you 'play' from time to time.
If you two are okay with it - cool.