I am thinking of one of these for my wife - as I find them eroitc for me, but would like to know what most women would prefer or not.
1. You and your husband checks into a Hotel for a single night. He orders a 1.5 hr relaxation massage just for you by a male massuer. A professionall massuer arrives. It turns out that that the relaxation massage is slightly extended to arouse you ( without him touching unwanted parts - as secretly arranged by your husband ). You are given the option by the massuer of going nude or just underwear for the session.
2. Your Husband takes you to an erotic movie and slips a vibrator into you during the movie.
3. You and your husband check into a Hotel and have sex the whole time.
Number 3 is because I cannot think of any other.
Do you have any ideas too?
I agree with Sania all the idea you listed are kinda blahish. And the massage idea could create guilt. If she does not know the massage is meant to turn her on butt it does turn her on. It could lead to guilt you make this special surprise and she is getting hot by anouther guy. That could kill the romance.
I would prefer him giving me a surprise. unexpected
Unexpected. Unsaid. He must know what i like by the time. Even though I dont say it , he should give that to me. That would make me mad for him.
Me means any lady. He/him means his friend.
Any lady would like this. It can be 3some also in some case. Depends on that lady. It can be her man doing sex with other lady or man.
He should bring out her fantacies ( what ever they are ) come true.
This is my point.
[color=green]although i'm not a woman, i would say that keeping it simple is usually best......so i propose that you combine all 3
1) replace the masseur with you....even if you don't know how to properly give massages.....google some tips
2) if this is suppose to be erotic/romantic......i would say leave the movie out.......maybe go out to dinner, get tipsy, and have her wear some vibrating panties and you have the remote?? something along those lines
can't really tell you because only you know what your lady likes/turns her on
3) well the above will most likely lead to sex......but who says you have to have sex in a hotel room.....sure you can end the night there, but being spontaneous is better[/color]
all three combined are useless. I say , it depends what she has in her hidden desire. Every one has different.
This 3 must be of his girlfriend...perhaps
[QUOTE=sania;264873]Unexpected. Unsaid. He must know what i like by the time. Even though I dont say it , he should give that to me. That would make me mad for him.
Me means any lady. He/him means his friend.
Any lady would like this. It can be 3some also in some case. Depends on that lady. It can be her man doing sex with other lady or man.
He should bring out her fantacies ( what ever they are ) come true.
This is my point.[/QUOTE]
[color=green]i don't know about this idea of a 3some.........they can easily make or break a relationship......once you cross that barrier, the relationship is an open one and alot of times, jealous will arise
but i do agree with bringing out the fantasies.....but be cautious with them too.....not all women are open like that and believe that a fantasy should be what it is.....a fantasy, nothing more, nothing less[/color]
[QUOTE=sania;264876]all three combined are useless. I say , it depends what she has in her hidden desire. Every one has different.
This 3 must be of his girlfriend...perhaps[/QUOTE]
[color=green]it's the thought and planning that counts[/color]
First of all iidd7, you're trying to plan your wife and you a special weekend and that in itself is great! Keep up the good work! :)
Second; unfortunately we can not speak for your wife. You're gonna have to either ask her or surprise her. The more intimate, the more need for verification, I'd say. Or you'll get her into uncomfortable situations, like Jessica mentions.
Our opinions could give you ideas though :)
Personally I don't like any of the ideas stated much... But that's probably because I like to be put in the mood by a little romance. Massage? Great; I love being spoiled with a nice spa treatment and get all relaxed! But no erotic massages by some stranger for me...
Movies? Great; I love the cuddling up in the dark watching a nice movie! And I'd even like a bit more than snuggles. But the vib; no...
Hotel? Great; I love to get away from it all to set the mood! But just having sex, that wouldn't cut the deal for me...
Maybe you should bring a bit more romance into the ideas? There was a thread a year ago and I absolutely loved what Brian posted there. Not "kinky", just simple romanticily erotic: http://www.sexinfo101.com/forum/general-discussion/29221-anniversaries-w...
[QUOTE=brian11zy;259238]My wife and I when we want to have a special night like an anniversary but not limited to that, we get the parents to watch the kids and have the house to ourselves. I build a fire in the fireplace,(yes even in the summer because it sets the mood) We get some good wine and put some slow sexy music on and we dance naked in front of the fire place. This dosen't have to lead to sexy it can just be romantic. We usualy have some chocolates or strawberries to snack on and tease each other till it becomes to much to take and then we lay down in front of the fireplace and slowly, very slowly we make love.
Some times we just hold each other close and whisper sexy stories to each other.[/QUOTE]
About surprises: I agree with Sania that the element of surprise is special. But "He must know what i like by the time." Eeee, that gives me unpleasant shivers! I personally hate it when people expect me to mindread and then get disappointed when I didn't guess it right. And even consider the relationship less valuable because of it. So when you're taking your chances on mindreading, be happy with the thought of that he's trying to surprise you and has put effort in doing so (like Q says).
jessica roy , RedRoses , Qplezsthawife
Thanks specially for your input.
I have in Idea,
Why don't you give her a special massage by you yourself add then maybe a nice romantic dinner just the two of you. Come back home and watch a movie or something?