ive had sex a few times now, but i dont get what all the fuss is about.. i mean its felt nice but its been nothing amazing like i hear ppl talkin about.
ive enjoyed it more just because i have really liked the person but ive had more pleasure from just kissing and groping. im getting really frustrated now because i want it to be more pleasurable like my frinds say it is. why is it not amzing for me?????
Sun, 11/12/2006 - 00:18
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Why is sex not amazing? Help me
hey,im 18 and ive been having sex for like 3 months now,and it still isnt anything,its comfortable,but i really dont get any pleasure from it at all,apart from knowing that my bf is enjoying it.however when we first began having sex it took us like a million attempts for it to work,he kept going softdue to nerves,nevertheless once he became more confident it still wouldnt work,it was really really painful for me.i never masturbated and rarely used tampons,in the end,as horrible as it seems,i just acceted the pain,i dealt with it in order to get it out the way,it for like the first 5 times but after that it slowly got better,and now we have sex in loads of different positions,at different speeds and different forcefulness,sorry if im sharing to much.so i really wouldnt worry with ur gf,like 80% of people go through this,is perfectly normal,andone day eventually it will just be ok.im not to worried about ym sex not being great yet,apparently it takes around 6 months to get "good",im prefectly relaxed and confident with my boyfriend,but i guess it just takes time,right?please reassure me. x
Maybe it's because you either don't feel completley at ease with whoever you're sleeping with or maybe that it's more of a sexual lust rather than emotional attachment. I dunno or maybe it hurts? so that would make it not pleasurable. I wouldn't worry tho you'll probly just have a random orgasm one day when you're relaxed. :D
no i doesnt hurt! i dont feel much at all, i think maybe its because they rush strate into it and i like to be teased, ive had more pleasure from having a teasing phone call then actually jumping strate in and having sex.
Well that's probably why then! you should have abit of foreplay and build up to it so it's nice and romantic-ish rather than just gettin down and dirty! try that next time and just mention it to your partner that you want foreplay or something first
> Well that's probably why then! you should have abit of foreplay and build up to it so it's nice and romantic-ish rather than just gettin down and dirty!
Before foreplay comes kissing and caressing in the form of necking, petting, and heavy petting--in other words, fooling around. A couple should devote no less than half an hour (more within reason if time permits) just to all this before ever getting to foreplay. The intent is to build a persons' ardor and arousal and sexual tension and anticipitation and excitement all before peaking all this with foreplay. So, yes, do not overlook, ignore, or bypass the "romantic-ishness" of all this.
The only sensual nerve endings associated with the vagina are around the opening and just inside. The vaginal vault does not have any, although what most women say they enjoy is the sense of fullness that having a penis inside them provides. Of course, there is the "coupling", also, and this brings up the rest of the story.
You are right, you can get much more intense pleasure from all the fooling around the preceeds intercourse. What intercourse should provide is a so called meeting place for the two psyches. Consider that the vagina is the gateway to a woman's soul; the penis the essense of a man. When the two come together, we become one with the other for a moment in time--if there is a proper emotional and physical connection as well. This is what you should be striving to experience.
Very few positions provide the necessary continuous contact for the clitoris to be stimulated. A knowledgeable, skilled, caring, lover will reach around a finger the clitoris and environs by hand while stroking. If it is your desire, you can also have an orgasm before and/or after intercourse.
well i guess it isnt all the stuff people make it out to be, but it gets better.
the more comfertable you are with yourself and with your partner youare, the better it will be able to be. you said youve had sex a few times, but it takes like A LOT of 'practice' before youknow exactly what you like.
i dont think its honestly all its cracked up to be, either.
I don't know how old you are but I can honestly tell you from my own experience that it gets so much better the older I am. Not that I am that old or anything. It is just something I noticed. The sex I have now blows all my teen sex out of the water.
Women typically report that they enjoy sex the most and have orgasms most easily in their early- to mid-30s.
You probly just aren't aroused enough when you start intercourse. Most women can't orgasm or get as much stimulation from intercourse compared to clitoral stimulation. Have you tried oral?
LOL Okay here's the scoop - you haven't had an orgasm yet - shame on your boyfriend! While women vary in their sexual response - few are completely 'dead wood'. So, get familar with your G-Spot. He should be lightly caressing your G-Spot with the head of his well-lubricated penis - slowly, gently, repeatedly. Now you should just relax and 'let it go'. You may ejaculate or you may not but you should orgasm.
Cunnilingus is very nice but it is just the appetizer even when he uses his fingertips for G-Spot stimulation. You can orgasm with and without ejaculation during cunnilingus and/or fingering.
This is why it is foolish for young women to mess with inexperienced young men. Seek out a willing experienced male who knows his way around a woman's body and is willing to further your education.
Once you've had one multi-orgasmic ejaculatory experience - you will know exactly what all the fuss is about!