hey gang... im just gonna copy and paste what happened to me
i had taken her out to lunch, dropped her off at home and talked to her on skype. She said she wanted a friend with benefits, and I asked if she would be willing to have that kind of arrangement with me. she said yes, we agreed on me picking her up at 11... i got there and she acted like nothing had hapened and that I had gotten confused... got home, talked to her on skype again, and she said she thought i wasnt ready... just because i havent even had my first kiss yet. i told her I am ready, she said she would sleep on it.
I just talked to her a little bit ago and she said she handnt even though about it yet.
This is affecting me alot, guys, i was going to have my first kiss, along with a few other firsts in one night. I got home and nearly cried, nearly cut myself (didn't) and just fell asleep. today has been a roller coaster of emotions, ending with numbness right now... Why am i feeling so bad?
Oh, my...what a tease! Talk about you not being "ready", it sounds like either she is not ready or that you are not the person she is looking for. If the latter then she is silently telling you that you are fw/ob--if that.
Time to move on. If you have not already done so, please read the articles listed in the Index on dating--including what the purpose for dating is.
thanks, doc... im gonna give it another day, she hasnt given me a for sure answer yet, and I really do like her. Just hurt inside...
she said yes! SHE SAID YES!
She is NOT playing fair. Of course, you're upset. You may give her this one chance but NO MORE. The excuse she gave you, the way she behaved - all point to her not being serious and not being ready. You're good to go but she..she wasn't. If she doesn't come through with this arrangement, put her into your 'friend zone'.
In the future, greet all such invitations with scepticism - a kind of relaxed "yeah. right. prove it." said with a smile.
alright EEK, ill try to take your advice as best I can. And though she isnt a virgin, she kinda seems like one in her thoughts on sex.
Some thing just take time.
Men can help women and women can help men by NOT playing 'games as usual' and by NOT letting their emotions unduly rule them.
Congrats upon not cutting yourself, btw. I do understand that one can hardly expect "meteorlogical observations on the storm overwhelming him from a man swimming for his life" but there are better ways of dealing with psychological torment than bleeding all over the floor.
..sounds like someone found himself a femme fatale :S
With the exeption of losing your true love this kind of girl can hurt you the most i'm afraid, sounds like she's a natural tease and she will wrap you around her little finger with ease.
If this is the case any advise like don't do it is useless because your going to anyway xD
so best advise is DONT FALL IN LOVE OR SAY YOU LOVE HER AT LEAST UNTIL SHE SAYS SHE LOVES YOU
Realise that women have no more power over you than you have over them if you rule your emotions instead of permitting your emotions to rule you.
She is not your problem - your emotions are your enemy.
Because when you let your emotions run rampant, you stop thinking things through.
[QUOTE=EvilEvilKitten;278753]Realise that women have no more power over you than you have over them if you rule your emotions instead of permitting your emotions to rule you.
She is not your problem - your emotions are your enemy.
Because when you let your emotions run rampant, you stop thinking things through.[/QUOTE]
your spot on :) but still i have a feeling he's gonna land on his face xD
oh well, he will at least learn a lesson along the way