Well I took your advice, he came back yesterday to my house, we sat and talk. He apologized for what happen, and then I asked him why do you want to have sex with me soo badly. He said, "Because weve been together for 2 years, and no sex, thats kinda weird. And also all of my friends have had sex with their girlfriends and whenever they bring that up and ask me if ive done something, I have nothing to talk about". So basically he is just wanting sex to show off, thats nice to know, been with him for 2 years and now I hardly even know him. Then after he said that, I said "So your like using me to show off?!" He said honestly, kinda. He said he really does love me and care about me, but not making love to the girl he does love is kinda hard not to do.
Mon, 08/14/2006 - 14:24
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Why He Wants Sex!
Now you know the rest of the story. What are you going to do about it? Be a trophy? Listen to your own feelings?
The thing thats bothering me is, I dont want to break up with him, he dosent want to break up with me. I do love him alot, I really do its just ever since he moved weve been having problems. Far distance is not easy. Im soo clueless!
Dear Clueless,
Your mindset and reactions are typical for the female of the species in that you believe you can "fix" him or change him. "...but I love him" are words uttered all too often yet they hinder or prevent change.
I have no doubt that you love the lad; although at your tender age, you have yet to experience mature love. This comes after further development, maturity, and life experiences. What you should be doing at this stage of life is dating lots of people in order to sample more of what humanity has to offer. Learn about personalities, likes, dislikes, priorities, goals, interests, quirks, religious values, morals, and the like, so that when the time comes to finally choose Mr. Right, you will have a better measuring stick upon which to make a selection.
Develop a good circle of friends. Date and do not enter into an exclusive relationship for a few more years. Doing this will prevent a bunch of things from plaguing you such as the trauma of breaking up and the angst that comes from having to deal with sex and the drama associated with more personal interactions for which you are not yet equipped to handle.
Your relationship problems are not based so much upon the physical distance that separates you; rather, the emotional and developmental differences that are part of each gender's maturing process. You do not have to break up with him; although, I do suggest that you make your relationship less intense and more general so that you can maintain a friendship yet be free to date and enjoy the company of others. In so doing, your character will be broadened and your horizons will be broadened, and you will derive more joy out of life through your many associations and experiences with others.
i feel he is treating you like dirt but his honesty is there..
Would u prefer to be the 'i scored with' girl or the girl that lives happily ever after.
it is not about him showing off. sex should not be about showing off but about getting close and intimate with the person you love.. personal life should be personal life. Why does anyone else need to know what you and your partner have done. It is quite disrespectful to say that you scored and how you scored to your partner.
my two cents,
If some guy wants to screw me simly to be able to tell his firends that he did, why should I be interested? That is where you are.
He's using you. Leave him.
He wouldnt be pressuring you to have sex with him if he really loved you. And him telling his friends about it is very immature. That's your private life he'd be sharing with his friends. Think about this, please.