One major reason is to begin thinking about making love as the outward expression of the emotion of love that two people share with each other. With penetration comes a melding of the psyches where two people become one with the other for a moment in time. There is more to "making love" than jumpin' someone's bones. Fellas, when each of you understand the emotional and psychological aspects, also, you may have a chance of becoming a world class lover.

I enjoy foreplay. In fact if I could choose cunninglus or sex I would choose cunninglus. BUT there is a certain amount of pleasure derived from penetration. My partner will orgasm via oral several times but she is never truly satisfied till she is penetraed. I also never am that satisfied from foreplay (when it comes to my orgasm.) I enjoy receiving oral, and if a woman can actually "get me off" it is wonderful. But the feeling of penetration, the thrusting, the closeness of bodies, the intimacy and passion(even in random sex) is something that cannot be replicated.

What you are suggesting is what is suggested to many younger posters. Much can be learned through non-penetrative sex. Eventually, the intimacy and satisfaction of joining has got to be considered. Though I prefer women for a steady diet, the physical experience of a penis sliding into me is a very satisfying experience in and of itself. The deposit left where nature intended is a great psychological experience. Nether of these are great enough for a young woman to take unnecessary risks but are a part of a mature relationship.

Surely good sex is based on 'the building blocks' of foreplay? Though much of such enjoyment is sadly becoming something of the past, (still trying hard though, and the gardening clubs beckon!) I do feel that moving through the ladder of excitement is crowned with penetration and outpouring just as nature surely intended.

Your suggestion, dear calliton, is one that emphasizes some wonderful aspects of sexual intimacy! :) I think it should not only be regarded as an advice for youngsters, but is surely a welcome adition to the repetoire of many adult lovers. Yes, there is an ecstatic element about penetration; the melting together as the DD2 describes is absolutely amazing! But the intimacy that lies in what is refered to as foreplay, can at times yield more and longer intimate passion. I do very much cherish the days where my lover and I lie in bed all day and cuddle, caress and achieve lots of orgasms (esp me since I need less stimulation and can achieve more in a row than he can :o) without going exhausted. It feels like infinite and unlimited intimate attention to eachother fueled by ongoing passion.

It should in fact receive another word. The term "foreplay" sort of diminshes it to an apatizer. I think that initmacy should be enjoyed every step of the way, regardless of a goal to work towards to (the famous saying: Tao is the path).

Why? Well, why not? There's no rule either way.

[QUOTE=Thecalliton;266117]RR, i did not mean it as advice
i was really wondering as to why.
with all the foreplay focus here, it seemed like penetration wasnt even needed. I got a bit confused. I wasn't taught much about sex except from the internet (secretly) and coming here is like a culture shock.[/QUOTE]
In that case; reason why foreplay is emphasized is because without a good warmup penetration may not be comfortable nor pleasurable for women and men may take a long time thrusting to cum. Because it enriches your sexual experience together. And because there are many ways to intimacy, passion and pleasure that shouldn't be neglected. It isn't really needed or obligated to penetrate. The answer to "why" is just same as with any other (sexual) activity: because you both want to. If you don't long for it, you don't have to. And it isn't olbigated every time you have sex; the phocus should be on pleasure and fun for both, regardless of the means to achieve it.

I hope you'll enjoy learning on this forum! :)

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