I just wanted to tell all you newcomers that although a quickie is great, or just going and making out with a bit of touching can work, but foreplay is important because it makes sex ****ING AWESOME!!!!
I had quite possibly the greatest sex ever because rather than make out for 15 minutes, I sat there and teased her for almost 45 minutes and then proceeded to have the most mind blowing animalistic sex I have ever had. Yes Im only 18 so I know the best is yet to come, but if with what came today, I am definitely content with life:D
So to any person out there who doesnt want to do foreplay, to every teen who thinks that they are having great sex and are fabulous lovers since they never have to do foreplay...you have no idea what you are missing!
That is all!
<3 foreplay.
Sex is always so much better when I'm dripping and aching for him to go inside. :)
I love foreplay. As I get older, I appreciate it more and more.
Nothin better then making her so wet shes practically begging for it. :)
Nice, Ducy.
I would just like to add, as noted in my Sticky post on making out, that Foreplay is only part of the game play. I wish to clarify and make sure that when the term "Foreplay" is used that it is used correctly. This activity is only part of the process of making out. Making out also includes:
A. Beginning with--Necking
All kissing and caressing above the shoulders
B. Progressing to--Petting
Generally all kissing, caressing, and, fondling with cloths on and excluding the genitals
C. Heavy Petting
As above with progressively more intimacy as clothes are un-buttoned, -fastened, -hooked, dangled and then possibly removed.
D. Foreplay
As above and including trousers, shorts, skirts, etc.
Foreplay activities are concentrated on the primary and secondary erogenous zones, specifically the breasts and genitals.
A great make out session is and should be all inclusive, meaning that as we progress from A to B to C, to D, we include all that has come before in order to build passion, excitement, tension, and, anticipation.
The term "Foreplay" should not be used as a substitute for the entire process of making out; it is only a part of the whole.
My definition of foreplay is any action that comes before penetration (and even penetration if its a quick in-then-out tease).
I am concerned that your definition has become the new norm. Subscribing to the old school, I believe it is better to use all the terms, particularly for the younger generation coming up through the ranks. It helps when attempting to "diagnose" the problems we frequently get. If we can isolate a problem to A, B, C, or, D, then we have a better chance of helping a couple. If someone writes in with a question on arousal, it helps to know at what stage the problem occurs.
Also, all too many fellas nowadays begin and end with foreplay and this is just wrong unless we're talking "Quickie". Where's all the hugging, snuggling, kissing, caressing, and progressive actions that get our hearts pounding and our skin perspiring, and our breathing panting, and our bodies squirming? There is a time and a place for "jumping bones", but mostly we make out and in stages--or should.
All I know is the foreplay that we had time to do was making out, and some nipple play (just liking, biting, sucking and gentle nibbles). I tried to push for some oral and manual play, but I got overpowered.
And I somehow got a ton of hickeys all over my neck and chest. A few of them nibbles, but a bunch caused by actual licking?!?! lol very surprising but thats probably why I was seeing stars!
'Foreplay', 'making out', that's just playing with words. You may have different definitions of what those terms mean in the US to other countries. Its all good, no matter what you call it.
[FONT=Times New Roman][SIZE=3]I concur, long foreplay is a must. Try this next time you have a lot of time to kill with your girl. Spread out your foreplay for the majority of the day. Just keep rubbing against each other and kissing all day. Touch and kiss every where on each other except where you really want. Just stay turned on all day and at the end of the day shag like rabbits. It is a lot of fun if you have good control over your orgasm.[/SIZE][/FONT]
[QUOTE=Mr. Saint;216948][FONT=Times New Roman][SIZE=3]I concur, long foreplay is a must. [/SIZE][/FONT]
[COLOR="Blue">[SIZE="5">MY POINT EXACTLY![/SIZE] Do you mean a long duration of genital and breast stimulation is a must, or, fooling around snuggling, kissing, caressing, in general for a long time? It is precisely this misuse of terms that confuses the issue.
Devoting a long time to Foreplay is nice but certainly not necessary. By the time most people reach this stage they are too keyed up and excited to keep prolonging the anticipation.
When someone writes in asking for help or advice with Foreplay, do they really mean this or with some activity or lack of during all the stuff that leads up to it? The time line is also important. When someone gives a time of let's say 15 minutes for example, just where in the overall scheme of things is this? Is it 15 minutes from the very beginning, the end; or, at the top of the hour, the bottom of the hour, three quarters of the way in?[/COLOR]
[FONT=Times New Roman][SIZE=3]Try this next time you have a lot of time to kill with your girl. Spread out your foreplay for the majority of the day. Just keep rubbing against each other and kissing all day. Touch and kiss every where on each other except where you really want. Just stay turned on all day and at the end of the day shag like rabbits. It is a lot of fun if you have good control over your orgasm.[/SIZE][/FONT]
[COLOR="Blue">A great example and an activity more fellas should know about and employ; however, this is "making out" not "Foreplay". [/COLOR] [/QUOTE]
Let's begin "calling a 'spade' a spade" or more precisely referring to each stage using the correct name.
[quote=dancingdoc2;216966]Let's begin "calling a 'spade' a spade" or more precisely referring to each stage using the correct name.[/quote]
Doc: Shag? Heard the term once in London not in the US; is that the same as intercourse? Or is referring to a style of carpet? :confused:
I agree with Doc. I know guys who think foreplay involves kissing a few times then going down on their girl. That doesn't fly with me, it just irritates me. If you don't do A, B and C, then the D is not that exciting and the sex is lackluster.
[FONT=Times New Roman][SIZE=3]I also agree with Doc. I was not being clear I mean make out all day. A,B,C and D. [/SIZE][/FONT]
[QUOTE=Mr. Saint;216993][FONT=Times New Roman][SIZE=3]I also agree with Doc. I was not being clear I mean make out all day. A,B,C and D. [/SIZE][/FONT][/QUOTE]
I hope I didn't confuse or offend you! I also agree with what YOU said earlier, I was just saying that in general, a lot of guys do forget about the importance of kissing and petting. :) That's all.
[QUOTE=sera300;216987]Doc: Shag? Heard the term once in London not in the US; is that the same as intercourse? Or is referring to a style of carpet? :confused:[/QUOTE]
Here is what the Urban Dictionary has to say:
http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=shag
I particularly like the description of a softer meaning....
[quote=dancingdoc2;217016]Here is what the Urban Dictionary has to say:
http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=shag
I particularly like the description of a softer meaning....[/quote] Thanks! I guess the term Making love or sex w/you s/o was lost around there! Sex on the beach? LOL! Now, that is a drink!
> Sex on the beach? LOL!
Well...let me tellya: Twenty some years ago my s/o and I drove up to Lake Tahoe and found ourselves on a beach at North Shore. We had two blankets so after spreading out one for our picnic lunch and enjoying the meal, sun, and sights, we cleaned up, put things away, and snuggled on the blanket pulling the second one over us. There weren't that many people around so we were not all that conspicuous, yet we did have a great make out session. The bathing suits stayed on just in case, and to end this tale let me just say that I'll leave the rest to your collective imaginations!
[quote=dancingdoc2;217023]> Sex on the beach? LOL!
Well...let me tellya: Twenty some years ago my s/o and I drove up to Lake Tahoe and found ourselves on a beach at North Shore. We had two blankets so after spreading out one for our picnic lunch and enjoying the meal, sun, and sights, we cleaned up, put things away, and snuggled on the blanket pulling the second one over us. There weren't that many people around so we were not all that conspicuous, yet we did have a great make out session. The bathing suits stayed on just in case, and to end this tale let me just say that I'll leave the rest to your collective imaginations![/quote] All sorts of fun to "be had" on the beach! Find a nice secluded area & it can turn into instant "romance" for a couple as a pleasant change of pace! :)
[QUOTE=sera300;216987]Doc: Shag? Heard the term once in London not in the US; is that the same as intercourse? Or is referring to a style of carpet? :confused:[/QUOTE]
Don't you use that term in the US? A shag is the same as a root. Jeez, I thought everyone knew that!
[quote=cyclefreak;217089]Don't you use that term in the US? A shag is the same as a root. Jeez, I thought everyone knew that![/quote] No, news to me! A root for grass or root for culture? As stated earlier, heard the term used as "shag" rugs...back form around 1970--with lava lights, etc !
A shag is an English slang term for having sex. Also known here in Australia, although not used as much. We also have shag pile carpets, dating from the '70s. Double meanings are amusing.
A root is also a slang term for having sex. I think that it might be an Australian term, so I'm not sure if its known over there. Given that meaning, I always have a chuckle when I hear Americans talk about rooting for their team!