I recently started sleeping with a guy...and its great...
BUT
he has never.. ever .... orgasmed and i feel like i'm doing something wrong??? He keeps asking me to come over and we're great friends and have been for a couple years.... but I don't know how to ask him ....
I love pleasing and really want him to enjoy himself...is this "retarded orgasm"?? I've done some research on that but I was just wondering if anyone out there has had a similar experience...I definately want him to enjoy himself... but we just have sex.. and then he stops....
and.. he's done??? but still hard... i dunno - i've never heard/seen anything like this....
i just want to satisfy him and i find it really hard to ask what i can do.... especially without making him feel uncomfortable...it doesn't seem like a big deal to HIM.. but it is to ME.
He does smoke weed often so I'm wondering if this has anythign to do with it??? or is it me!? (i'm pretty experienced and think i'm pretty good at sex activities though haha.. so that would be brutal!!!) :P
Thu, 12/13/2007 - 16:42
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Why doesn't he orgasm????
Does he get off other ways?
honestly i have no idea
i'm assuming so!!
what i've read about retarded ejaculation is that that's the only way they CAN get off is 'other ways'.. but i haven't asked him because i dont' know how to and i find it difficult to talk about that stuff...
how can i approach him???? so that he knows i just want to please him...?
or what else could this be?
Sometimes guys just can't get it done. It happens to all of us - especially when with a new partner. Just keep trying and give it time...
Happened to me the first like 8 times I had sex lol.
well i will keep trying haha...
harder every time :P
but do you think i should bring it up with him???? or not say anything and just try to relax him as much as possible...
would u think of it as a performance anxiety thing then?
relax him....do body worship
body worship ?? :P
sounds fun hah
search on this sight...its a sticky in one of the forums.
[quote=Ducy;202332]search on this sight...its a sticky in one of the forums.[/quote]http://www.sexinfo101.com/forum/married_and_long-term_relationships/2272...
How Do I Get Him/Her to Orgasm From a Hand/Blow Job?
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Just because he's still hard, does NOT mean he has not had an orgasm. It means he has not ejaculated and the two do NOT necessarily have to come together. Next, you do not have to have an orgasm to enjoy sex - pleasing your partner can be enough sometimes.
By all means ask him! Tell him that you haven't come across this before and could he explain this to you. Does HE know how he works? Does HE know what HE needs? If so, ask him to tell you. This is not the time to be shy. Body worship will help him get over any 'nervousness' he may be experiencing but if the cause is something more than that, you'll have to ask him.
Does he have any major distractions going on in his life?
What is his sex drive like, are you the one who always has to initiate?
I'm also curious to know how he handle shimself when the two of you are going at it. Are your sessions quick?
All the advice told here is good and mine is just extend foreplay and experiment to see if he orgasms/cums during oral and/or manual and if so there shouldn't be a problem. Spend a lot of time making sure he doesn't feel awkward about his own body, men are selfconscious too you know!