If you do a search, you will find many reasons have been given. It has not been discussed for a while. Likely the two leading reasons are:

1. Do not hurt his ego.
2. Get it over with.

There are some women who have posted who began faking orgasm early in a relationship and do not want to tell him that they simply do not enjoy sex. This can become a pattern that is difficult to break for a woman so that she can learn how to enjoy sex. At the other end of this continuum are those who occasionally fake it simply to end the evening and get on with their lives. Some men seem to last forever and the easiest way to get them to let go and get a break is to fake it, and likely not have another date with him.

I am good for about twenty minutes, tops, after which he gets dumped on the floor or gets a fake orgasm, whichever I think is appropriate. Most of us need some stimulation in addition to penetration and thrusting and the sooner both partners realize this, the less the likelihood of faking. None of us "want" to fake, except maybe prostitutes who are getting paid to boost egos, bu my guess is most of us have on certain occasions.

> > There are some women who have posted who began faking orgasm early in a relationship and do not want to tell him that they..........

3. have yet to learn how to masturbate and to achieve orgasms on their own.

What has been discussed recently is the fact that a lot of inexperienced boys/men who have not done much reading on the matter only have one reference for how things ought to be, that being themselves and how they respond to various stimulation thus believing that what is good for the gander must be good for the goose so to speak. Not so.

Boys pretty much learn to masturbate and enjoy orgasms right out of puberty. Women learn much later if at all. When they do, they find it requires a concerted effort to connect the "dots" {nerves in the genitals with the pleasure center in the brain).

> Maybe its just me but I would rather have you not get off and know that I need to try something else to please you rather then falsely thinking I have figured out how to please you and trying the same thing over and over.

This is where communication and providing feedback on how we are responding to our partner's caresses and for what we need now/next. Making love is not what we do to each other; rather, what we do with and for each other in partnership.

Brandye has often stated that the need for orgasms is not the biological imperative for women that they are for men. Translated, this means that women can enjoy making love and having sex without need or benefit of an orgasm. How is this possible you ask? Because of the importance of having an emotional connection between the two of you.

If you want to "try something else to please" then work together doing a little "show and tell" so you do not necessarily have to figure out what to do when all on your own. No one is a mind reader, neither should you expect to just stumble on the right move(s) at the right time. (The same holds true for you with her.)

1-3 are all possibilities.
If you want to know how to help your partner achieve orgasms--ask.
If you want to know how to help your partner achieve orgasms--first find out if she has learned how on her own.

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Women fake orgasms because they haven't the courage to be honest with their partners and/or with themselves.

BTW if a guy lasts 'too long', just tell him "Time out!' and get up - have a cookie - move around a bit. So it didn't work out this time. It will later.

People tend to get too wrapped up when it comes to sex. RELAX. No one's a machine. It is just part of being human.

This isn't the Olympics. No one's keep score.

Yes! what she said!

Guys often go about trying to give their partner an orgasm when they should understand that each of us, male and female, are responsible for our own. All any of us can do is to help him/her achieve them.

So fellas, rather than trying and trying and trying to "make her cum" that can make matters worse, just recognize that cumming does not always come each and every time. Stop and try another time.

RedRoses you are well described

I have never faked it. I didn't see the point of giving positive reinforcment for bad sex. If I had, maybe I wouldn't have learned to have real orgasms as I did because our routine would never have adapted.

I think the biggest reason women fake it is worring about hurting his feelings. Which personally I think is stupid and self-defeating. He'd rather please her for real, and lying will hurt him more.

I've read an interesting article once on the psychology and interpretation of faking. Men & women having sex, produced sounds measured during, questionnaires after to both man and woman: did you orgasm? did you at any point fake orgasm? did your partner orgasm? when? etc. Turned out many women didn't orgasm at the moment the men reported their partners to orgasm, which from the man's point of view would have often been simultaneous or right before his. Few men and women reported faking. And most women were objectively making most sound at the time the man was having his orgasm, even though the majority didn't report it as the moment they were creating most noises.

The explanation: women are actually cheering men on upon the man's orgasm and therefor make most sound at that particular moment. Women seem to do so subconsciously or at least can't estimate the true magnitude of it after. The men interpret their partners orgasms based on sounds, when the sounds women were actually making variated from quite silent at her moment supreme, less noisy than when her partner was having his, his orgasm brought her to make the same sounds as while having hers, etc. Probably this cheering is an instinct rooted deep inside our most primal brain. "Faking it" therefor becomes not only a tool consciously used, but also a simple matter of misinterpretation between sexes.