I know there are hundreds, but I noticed the ones that me and my woman use (she and I got this close very recently) are not listed on this site, thus how do I know if someone else has used them before, or if they are totally original?
In the beginning I had met someone in high school, we dated for 7 straight years but her parents wanted to use her and took away the capacity to marry, thus I lost her that way, then I met another woman, she was a friend of my sister, we went out for a week, but were not compatible. Neither of the two had I slept with. Until my next, which I did not know was coming, I was a virgin.
A few years pass. I was just about to lose hope of ever finding love ever again and was trying to cope with the single life I had, while watching the lovers walk on by, not having a clue what keeps the flame in their hearts going and keeping them together. One Christmas morning, my mother told me about how sick she was feeling and her wish for me to move closer to where she lived (I lived in Auburn, WA 98002 at the time [Jeffery, if you are looking here, yes I still remember you, and this girl did not walk out on me, thus you can by your standards call us married, besides Montana recogises common law marriage]) so I moved to Missoula, MT so that I still had access to the bus due to the fact that I couldn't drive. I was to move in first with my mother and her 3rd husband (she does not like to talk about the first two, one was a jerk that beat her up, the other, a lazy bum and a sex offender, if anything they failed her, not her failing them) which I would prefer to call either Steve or Dad. we went apartment hunting in Missoula. Eventually, we found the Park Place Apartments over by W. Alder ST & N. Higgins ST. Sure it was very old fashion, but it looked very cool at the time inside, have my own elevator, a security door, and a garbage shoot even. under my apartment, is a bridal shop, and next to it is the Chicken Double Front. Closest store is the Wardon's Market and the only bad thing I can think of, is having bars all over the place.
The state decided that I did not qualify for their services because I had autism and the IQ of a 12-year-old, and referred me to Winds of Change Mental Health Center, and my dad set me up with Mountain Line and I ended up getting Voc-Rehab services that got me an assessment through Opportunity Resources over at Good Will over at Sussex ST & Brooks ST, very near the South Gate Mall. Here is where things get weird. I was to be hanging cloths, oddly enough most of what I had to hang, were Women's shirts, blouses, skirts, dresses, women's underpants, and various types of bras. Next to that a lot of baby cloths (I thought this may be a hint from above that I was to get my soulmate very soon, I could not have been more right) racks of a hundred of more of that stuff.
One day, Justin, the one that was at that time assigned to me, and the one I was soon to fall in love with as a Rehab & Support (R&S) decided to tell me that he needed someone that was very good at riding buses to teach someone to ride. I at the time was not expecting a woman, especially not my soulmate. Meanwhile I was attempting to set up the ultimate Linux based Media Center PC I can. I decided to halt the project for until I got back. I ended up stopping at a group home, and a woman got in, a very pretty one, just with a strange walk. I turned out that she was the one that needed lessons on riding a bus.
She and I walked to the bus stop. While we waited, she decided to hug me. I was wondering why she did that at the time. I did not even know her at that point, nor did I know she too was a virgin, and a little shy. We got on route # 2 (now the 8 stops there instead) at 8th ST and Catlin ST and headed to the main bus terminal at Ryman ST & Pine ST where Justin was waiting to pick her up. The next day I had the urge to help her out with her next lesson. We decided that we were going to transfer buses for this one. She wanted to go to Johann Fabrics (not far from the Good Will mentioned earlier) so I decided to help out. We started with the 2 and transferred to a 1 and got off by Good Will and walked there, but she was throwing a fit on the way there because she thought everyone was trying to control her. She apologised when we got to the destination. Time went by very fast, and we afterwards discovered that the last 2 was already missed and had to work out another plan. She missed her last meal, so I got her dinner with a huge chunk of my remaining food stamps over at Albertson's in the deli. on the way to the bus stop, we ended up deciding the next closest bus to where she lived, was the 9, and that I would have to walk back because her bus was the last one. She decided to give up and ask me to just go home, that she would be fine where she was. But I stayed with her and told her that I promised to get her home safely.
The last running 1 arrived at Good Will (South ST & Brooks ST) we got on and she told me that she saw wedding bells in our future. I felt both turned on and awkward. The 1 turned into a 9 and headed to our target stop: 3rd ST & Garfield ST and I walked with her home. It was when we finally got to her bedroom that I fell in love with her and when we kissed.
The next day I could not get ahold of her. J's House told me she was out with friends. I left her a needle and thread and went home. I was not expecting what came next. Late that day at about 7 PM, she decided to show up at my door. I found out a lot about her that night and the next morning because she decided not to tell J's house where she was going. She spent the night with me. I did not know what prescriptions she took and the next morning I found out about her Asperger's Syndrome, Cerebral Palsey, and seizures because she had a seizure that morning and it was the first one I have ever seen in my life. I decided to study the things I learned about her, because even after that, I still loved her.
we spent a lot of time together, even nights here and there, but one day she decided she wanted to move in with me. We went through all the tough times together and only got closer until she announced that she wished to take her shirt off around me as well as my own and wanted to use that strange pimple-like thing on my back as an excuse to carass me. I had a feeling she wanted sex, so I decided I would not take any chances and picked up some condoms. I was right at the time. I decided to let her know that she should only do it with me if she wanted us to remain together for life because of how bonding I heard it was. I did not at the time wish to leave but had to choose between dumping her on the street or sleeping with her, and because I loved her too much at the time to wish harm upon her, decided I would give her a try. the first time we tried, I found out how hard it really was to penetrate her, even when aroused and especially since I at the time, knew nothing about sex except what is learned in a health class. even the stuff of my imagination was failing, so she had to help me penetrate her, but at the time, I had no idea I had to thrust myself, so it was a big nothing (I had on protection at the time)
the next day, I finally discovered the thrusting movement from remembering TV, oddly enough, but still she had to help with penetration. Eventually, that position we did then was to become the one we would perfect later and continue to today after visiting this site. back then, she did not have any legs spread out. we thought we got things working, but found out we were doing a dud. I looked for sex help and learned her body, but she knew not mine and eveantually learned mine and we tried a bunch of them. Even the Missionary Position, though it functioned, hurt her legs, so we decided to tweak the old dud of a position a little. I noticed that when she opened her left leg (right stayed straight) by more than 45 degrees, I could see the folds between her legs just as good as the Missionary Position had shown them before mounting. I thought "WAIT A MINUTE HERE!!!!".
I though knowing myself 0% aroused at that point checked to see if I could shift my pelvis into that gap, and yes I could, so the next day, we did the foreplay as usual and asked her to move the leg exactly as she did the previous night, I then came in at an ~30 degree angle slant off of her laying down position and shifted my pelvis in while sitting on her leg like a horse and let the straight leg guide the penetration. The penis went in all the way except ~1.5 inches. I knew exactly what to do at that moment. That is when I experienced her orgasming 15 minutes later, but it was the next session when I did instead.
Later we had come up with a couple of spin-offs from this position. One with her legs forming the number 4 to make a gap that can be shifted into and one with the left leg sround me that she likes to call the love knot. We use our classic more often because it was the first working one that she was comfortable with.


> why can't I find the ones I do with my woman?
> I know there are hundreds, but I noticed the ones that me and my woman use (she and I got this close very recently) are not listed on this site, thus how do I know if someone else has used them before, or if they are totally original?
I read your rambling story and am unsure what the point of it is. What does your question, above, pertain to? I'm guessing sexual positions; correct?
If so, please click on the Home Page button at the top of the page. There you will find links to many many illustrated animated positions. There are no doubt others not illustrated that are simply made up by imaginative couples. If you do not find any that you used, just consider yourselves to be creative.
What does it matter whether or not other couples have used a position or not. Consider the billions of people on this planet and you can pretty much be assured that all positions have been tried by at least two people. Why the concern?
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You answered the question.
The part you saw as rambling was the story of how I met Claire and how we ended up how we are now.
We will never be the same again.
Most people when they're just starting out equate positions with skill level. The more sexual positions you know, the better the chance she'll have an orgasm because you'll find one that works for her and/or it will keep sex from becoming boring.
This is FALSE.
1st sex is never boring - not if you're paying attention. Each time, even with the same partner, sex is different. Each and every time as facets of desire evolve and reveal themselves as each person evolves and reveals themselves. Wake up and see what you've been missing.
2nd sex is not just about positions - it is about expression. We're not talking an 'exchange of genetic material' here; we're talking lusts, nuances, passions, and subtleties - sex as a glorious reaffirmation of life - sex as a sweet sweaty supernova - sex as cascading firestorms.
And you don't get that if you're thinking of 'doggy style' versus 'missionary', et al. At this level of sex, positions become irrelevant.
Many have the idea that doing this in a casual relationship or on a sex date would be cruel since the men fear revealing themselves to and entrapment by the women and women fear not being able to get this kind of sex again. Such ideas are nonsense. Everyone is capable and every one could be willing, if they knew the rewards they would reap. Think of this as "sexual self-actualization", in the parlance.
The key to achieving this level of sex is body worship.
Are you sitting comfortably? I hope so for here is an example of body worship and I'm planning on taking my sweet time over this - as so should you.
With him lying on his stomach with me straddling him, I first massage his shoulders, neck, and upper arms, then move down his back until he's totally relaxed and the cares of the day are gone. I begin the massage with light hands and finish up using strong pressure since masculine muscles require heavier hands. then I move my hands to his sides and begin lightly and slowly caressing his skin with te tips of my nails in small circles and arabesques while sliding down to straddle his thighs and kissing lightly with a bit of tongue-tip at the small of his back. Slowly, agonizingly slowly lightly flicker-lick up his spine while sliding my left arm under his chest to lift his spine to my mouth and to drop his head forward. Sliding my body lightly over his with a bit of walking as I bring first the left knee and then the right knee up, I work my way up his spine until my lips are at the nape of his neck. I intertwine the fingers of my right hand into his hair pressing firmly so his head stays down, then in a surprise heavily and wetly kiss just at the nape of his neck where all the nerves join into a node.
Ahem. Yes. Well. You get the idea, I'm sure. *Fanning self* Unfortunately, there doesn't happen to be a teddybear immediately to hand so I'd better stop there. If you want to know what happens next - just find my post entitled The Program.
But that's the sort of thing you do during body worship. You do 2 to 3 things at once; combine opposites: wet/dry, light/heavy, etc.; include surprises; most importantly - you take your time. You want your partner to be SCREAMING for you if not 'attacking' you outright. Explore your partner to the nth degree - you want to know everything.
And when its all over - take a rest. Then do it again, varying one aspect only. Another rest and do it again with a different variance this time.
3 times per evening and 3 times per week - at least.
Positions? HAH!