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[QUOTE=mindfuc;256112][COLOR="blue">My experience so far includes getting a handjob and 2 blowjobs from 3 different partners. I haven't been able to cum with any of them. I was only really attracted to one though.
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I recommend that you read each of the articles and more than once. Knowledge is empowering and you will have much more to add to what you already know.

[COLOR="blue">I think it's a mix of reasons:
1. performance anxiety[/COLOR]

Please read this article:
ERECTION problems

[COLOR="blue">2. being used to porn
3. being used to masturbation and "knowing" when to cum[/COLOR]

...and this article:
How Do I Get Him/Her to Orgasm From a Hand/Blow Job?
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4. not having enough experience[/COLOR]

Making love is not about what we do to each other; rather, it is what we do with and for each other in partnership. Explore and learn together. Communication and feedback {verbal and non-verbal) are key ingredients in order for both people to let the other know how we are responding to the other's kisses and caresses and for what we need now/next.

HELP! S/He is more EXPERIENCED! To which I say:

[COLOR="blue">5. being bisexual - but hey I'm trying to experiment and make up my mind cause in porn both men and women turn me on[/COLOR]

Experimentation is generally a good thing. Please understand that guys can enjoy orgasms just from sex for sex sake; we can also enjoy them as a result of having a deep emotional attachment with another person and expressing these feelings or love thru sex.

What are you trying to make up your mind about? Do you mean your sexual orientation? That, is a result of who you are physically and emotionally attracted to. It is not so much males and females in general; it is more specific--that this particular man and/or this particular woman arouse and excite me. If your attraction is only toward men then, yes, you can say that you are Gay; if your attraction is only toward women, then, yes, you can say that you are heterosexual. Being bisexual is like sitting on a teeter-totter, there can be balance between the genders, or, you can be somewhat more attracted to one over the other. It is still only about the individual and his/her affect upon you.

Male / Female Sexual Behavior--If I like certain things does this mean I'm Gay?

Porn is porn; arousal and stimulation come via the action, not so much the individual models and who they are. Viewing an X-rated video in and of itself is not going to make you or anyone else less responsive when it comes to making out with a real live person who is sexually attractive to you.
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How do I stop it? How can I make sure next time will actually be good?[/COLOR]

Your question is a very good one.

[COLOR="blue">I think I'll stop watching porn and masturbating for 2 weeks + do some kegel exercises, any more suggestions please?[/COLOR][/QUOTE]

Practicing the exercises is very worthwhile. As for not masturbating for "2 weeks +", as the saying goes: "I double dare you" to do it! Regardless of how frequently you masturbate, most guys find that if they try not doing it they only last two or three days. I'm not saying you won't be able to, just that it is unrealistic based upon history to expect that you can. Sooner or later, you will find that your subconscious mind takes over and you'll be doing it and by the time you wake up to the fact, the thought is "oh well" and you are powerless to stop

Now, having said that, this is not a challenge for you to see just how long you can go without masturbating, it is to tell you that this is not where your problem is. What I do recommend is in the beginning that you do not masturbate for a day or two at most prior to making out. This is sufficient time to restore your sensitivity and responsiveness.
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Boys and Masturbation / Got questions?[/COLOR]

Here's a plan for you to try--

* Hold off on having a climax for a day
* Understand that when we masturbate we benefit from an internal feedback that lets us modulate our movements and make tiny mid course corrections along the way. This is missing when we turn the reins over to our partner, so, this is when giving feedback {verbal and/or non-verbal) is needed. Let each other know how we are responding to kisses and caresses and for what we need now/next. (We are not mind readers!)
* Show each other how you masturbate and then take each other's hand and guide his/her movements in order to learn how to mimic our partner's method. This will take practice so expect that it will also take some time.
* As for oral stimulation, please read the discussion article on the subject.

I hope this is of help. Got questions?