I've been with my man for over a year and he always takes ages to cum, if he does at all, no matter what i do to him. We usually give up when it doesn't happen and try again later. This is really frustrating for me because i want to please him. He told me he masturbates either every day or every second day, and I was wondering if that was affecting his ability to orgasm during sex. Could it be an issue, and should I bring it up with him?? Someone help!!
Tue, 09/05/2006 - 10:56
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Why can't he cum?
Research "retarded ejaculation"
its been discussed on this board.
This question in one form or another gets asked several times a week. Ya just gotta know there is much discussion on this already. I suggest doing an advanced search using my name and the key word: guide
You will find several threads in which I detail the answer, mostly for women with men, although there is at least one in which I say the same thing written for a men with a women. Please read more than one post just because there are some variations to what I say.
Also, you may want to check out this site on male masturbation:
www.jackinworld.com
Go to the site map page and click on advanced methods.
Now, all of the above deals with hand jobs. If your man is having difficulty reaching a climax during intercourse then more often than not the problem is priorities. If he has the mistaken belief that lots and lots of stroking is the way to Nirvana then he is going about things backwards. This is the reason for all the messing around and foreplay! By the time intercourse begins, he should already be at or near the point of no return. Stroking maintains a pre-existing high level of arousal and thrusting peaks it. Most women report that they become tired, bored, and, sore if intercourse lasts longer than about ten minutes. If you want your lovemaking to last a long time, then devote that time to primarily making out. If you opt to enjoy multiple orgasms then disburse them in between.