For me i think the first time with a guy and his first time was ruff since he didnt really know my spots and how to turn me on. Shesh i dont think i knew what turned me on either. That took me a few years to figure out what i like and dont like. I think some guys dont do foreplay at first. But thats just my 1st time and his 1st time, Im guessing everyone is different though.

If you haven't explored each others bodies over and over again and can bring your partner to orgasm consistantly with oral and/or fingers then step back and relax. You're not ready to go f***ing around (pun intended). It was my and my fiance's first time and it wasn't awkward or horrible. It was actually pretty damn good. That was because we really knew each other's bodies. Search EvilEvilKittens posts and read what she has to say about Body Worship.

Look, you were not successful the very first time on a bicycle. Sex is much more complicated and most of us have been holding off for quite a while allowing the tension to rise. We are clumsy at most physical activities the first time. We do not even know where the legs go until we try.

If you read any of my Sticky posts, you will find where more than once I inform people that with each new partnership there is a new "Square One" from which to begin. Even if one or both of you have previous experience, this equates to knowledge not skill. Now, if one or both of you are new to the experience having some level of knowledge will prove helpful; although, until you get down to it, you just have to work things out together because each person we are with sets up a new dynamic.

Thank you for the kind reply.

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There is some interesting reading for you and a partner, individually and together.

Investigate subjects like-
* Premature Ejaculation
* Performance Anxiety
* Making out and lovemaking techniques in all of its various forms