everytime my boyfriend and i have sex, we use a condom and it always ends up that we have to take it off like 5 minutes after we start.../??? it never stays on! we use it right.. i know.. so i don't see the problem.. and it takes him forever to cum, i don't get it.. in the time that he cums once.. i will have about 4 times or so.. is this normal?? why? what can we do to make it take less time?? and is it true that if you have sex more often it will take you longer to cum?? i accept any replies!! *plznthx*:D
Sat, 06/23/2007 - 06:34
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why???
Not "normal" but it is not an illness. He just lasts much longer than most men. What do you do after it comes Off? Go bare? If so, you are running a risk and not "using it right." Try a dab of vaginal jelly in the condom when it is put on. That allow some movement inside the condom and some men find that "more realistic."
And, yes, the more a man has sex, genrally the slower the response time. It takes a while for the level of semen to return after an ejaculation.
The skin of the condom acts like an insulator to friction. Some guys simply cannot achieve an orgasm or at the very least find it considerably more challenging to achieve an orgasm with one.
Similar to Brandye's suggestion, I recommend applying some lube just to the head of the penis before rolling the condom on. This permits some wiggle room.
You might also try condoms of different construction. In addition to Latex, there are plastic and natural. Natural condoms have a good side and a bad side. They are good at letting the most friction get through; they are not appropriate for use with a casual partner and one for whom you do not have a complete and accurate sexual history on. They do not prevent the transmission of STDs.
Regardless of the type selected, wait to put it on until the very last minute. In other words, get him all worked up, first, almost to the point of loosing control yet where he still can maintain control and then applying the condom.
Intercourse with or without a condom should only begin when the guy is near the brink of an orgasm. If you begin the process too soon, then it might take a very long time to generate sufficient sexual tension and arousal.
Are you properly lubed?
I mean why would it keep coming off?
Is it too loose or too tight?
Make sure he's using the right sized condoms. I had that problem a few months ago and it just ended up being that the condoms were too small. So just double check and that might solve the problem, besides you really don't want to risk getting pregnant
ya my condom fell off once when my gf was giving me a lap dance but we didnt notice until after i came. i wasnt in her but my semen got all over her down there so i went to the store right then and got her the MAP (at her request actually). i had got some of those trojan her pleasure condoms but they are a little loose so i use basic now