Should the woman choose the man or the man choose the woman? EEK seems to think that the woman chooses HIM. Is that the best way to do things? If so why? Is there an argument that HE should choose HER?
I would appreciate the assistance of all in puzzling out the truth (if there is any to be found) in this subject.
Thanks.
P.S. I for my part, try as much as possible to choose her. That explains my everlasting singledom.
Cheers!
When it comes to social courting, traditionally one person presents an offer and the other person gets to accepted it or not. The act of accepting is what would be considered “choosing”. in our current social system, the men in the society are most often the ones to make the offer, this can be in as direct a form as asking some one out to as abstract as hitting on someone. This leaves the option of accepting or not up to the women in most cases, giving the women the power to choose the man. Right now we are seeing a little bit of a shift but still the power to choose is predominantly the women’s. any value judgments I personally opt out off.
WSO
choosing for what? for going out, for having sex, for getting married?
In my opinion, in our mexican culture, is the woman who chooses the man.
They are in general more mature and "emotionally smarter" than men.
They even make us think we chose them if that make us feel better.
Who should chose whom? Don't know, perhaps whoever is more mature.
A relationship is not just one person, so BOTH have to choose to be with one eachother.
You're single because despite how much "choosing" you do, you're .5 short of a relationship until she puts her half in..
When all the dancing, courting, the whatever is all said and done - in the end, SHE says yes or she says no and he must accept her decision.
[QUOTE=Mr. Saint;237055]When it comes to social courting, traditionally one person presents and offer and the other person gets to accepted it or not. The act of accepting is what would be considered “choosing”. in our current social system, the men in the society are most often the ones to make the offer, this can be in as direct a form as asking some one out to as abstract as hitting on someone. This leaves the option of accepting or not up to the women in most cases, giving the women the power to choose the man. Right now we are seeing a little bit of a shift but still the power to choose is predominantly the women’s. any value judgments I personally opt out off.[/QUOTE]
I agree with you. He asks and she makes the choose so say yes or no, their for yes the choice is up to the women.
You might choose witch female to ask but the choice is still left to her. She can say no and well that means you really did not chose.
Unless the female asks you out then you have the choice to say yes or no. It takes two so I guess some how you both chose. In the end the one that got asks makes the choice, does not matter women or male.
Biologically the man has an imperative to spread his seed. The woman chooses. This has recently been demonstrated at the level of the egg choosing the sperm it admits. The guy raises the population but quality control is up to the woman.
i think that they should both choose to be with each other, if one doesn't choose to be with the other then it's going to be a doomed relationship from the start
Interesting discussion....