Everybody says "no bag, no sex". All this time, I thought it is the guy's job to get prepared. Lately, I was asked if I have one. I certainly did not because I thought it's a guy thing. And what does it implies if I have condoms with me anytime, anywhere?
And, what about when you go out, not expecting to have sex with someone that night, so you make out and when you really want to do it ... you get the guy to purchase one and come back?
Question to the guys: what would you think if the girl (someone you just went out for the 3rd time) has a condom so readily available?
PS: I am not that "new" to sex, I had long-term and stable relationships before, in those long term relationship, I did not use condom at all. Now I am starting to try short-term relationship, hence the question.
I would believe it may be proper for you to have maybe one, in the event of an emergency only. Would I offer it up if he showed up unprepared? No. I supply my methods of birth control (in the past) such as pills, cervical cap, or VCF; he is to provide his method. In the event you suddenly ran out (used up all the ones he had with him (for whatever reason--you blew them up with water for balloons) yes having one in your night stand is perfectly acceptable. I see no difference in being on your own birth control and admitting to it and still having a condom. If I go and dig through my draws in the house I still have VCF's which are ancient...not that I need birth control anymore but they are there...found them when looking for my passport. It makes no inference on your behalf, but to supply them? Nope! Emergency use only! Do you ask him to buy your pills?
Also, if a man opened my kitchen cabinet looking for crackers he would be hit in the head with boxes of BCP's! There must be at least 12 all different types due to samples from the office, filled RX's & I was switched, or left overs from when I was off them, LOL! Does that mean I am a easy or non-compliant? Or just have too many? PS..it looks like I have a "love fest" here looking at all the birthcontrol which has accumulated over the years! LOL!
the easyest Birth control you have on hand, and probably the most affective is this
1. take your index finger, and point it twards the guy
2. open your mouth, and laugh
3. smile happly knowing you just used an all natural birth control
ok, i just could not help it lol
I alwase felt that I had to provide the condoms. But it might be good for you to keep a few on hand just in case. things do happen from time to time, and unplaned
i keep one with me at all times (don't really know why though...i'm in a monogamous relationship and dont use them) i think both parties should be responsible for bringing contraception for the first time...but after reading sera's post i guess after that it really should be the guy's responsibility haha
He should supply the condom and you, the vaginal spermicide. Always my rule. When I finally established my own place, I always had a variety of contraception on hand. HE did not need to know that.
Ahem, do you know what size he takes? Do you know if you're allergic to latex or not? One size does NOT fit all and some men and women are allergic to latex or to the coatings, spermacide, etc., on the latex. Experiment if you do not yet know. Online sellers of custom condoms have a measuring guide that you can print, cut out, and use to find the correct size.
Men bring the condoms, women bring the lubricant and take their BCPs.
As said in my other thread .. thanks a million! You guys are so very helpful. Please let me ask another question ... he asked if I "wear any belt"? What's that? I assume it is some kind of birth control thing for the girl to put in her virgina. After knowing that I didn't have that, he said "if you want to have some fun, you've got to be prepared" ..... so he was expecting me (only) to get prepared? And he was assuming that only birth control is needed?
If the answers are yes, so do you think he is a jerk?
I have no idea what he was referring to?!?
And yes he is a jerk if he's saying YOU have to be prepared but basically he just has to show up. As above..both parties should participate.
I don't know if he was meaning the pill...and yeah it's jerky to assume the girl take the pill so that HE gets out of wearing a condom.
I tried looking that up on some slang sites...but didn't find anything.. i never know now adays... I am getting old LOL :)
I have no clue what a "belt" is. Most discuss BC a bit more seriously then he does. If you are just looking for fun with an inexperienced, immature, "want-to-be" player; this is all you have. This is nothing serious and not a relationship. I'd throw back, I am prepared--if you want fun you better be too.
A jerk? Yeap. If you are just looking for a good time, there are a lot better out there. Many can be in for "just the ride" yet very tactful and graceful...trust me. Kick him to the curb, he's not respectful enough of you. If you are just looking for fun; find a good man who wants a good time and has a decent bone in his body. There are plenty & look for someone who is older.
I went back and re-read your posts. You said you were in LTR before. Now, it looks like you had some "fun" and are seeking new avenues to pursuit. I think you have to get over the big question is it okay to do this? Yes. Just be safe. You know the BC drill...you protect yourself & he brings the condoms. Search out the "right guys" for your new short term relationships and relax! If you both are in it for he same reason, fun, both will know what to do as far as preparation, look for a more experienced man who attracts you and has some brain cells! You might end up with a good friend when all is said and done.
Belt??? No idea!
Yes, he's a jerk.