I've always wondered how often other people dream about sex, when the dream doesn't include their (main) partner.
I've had a whole slew of people who society wouldn't consider "acceptable" show up as partners in my dreams before, and often not even people that I'm attracted to. My teachers have showed up before, my roommate... Last night in particular, I had a dream involving my cousin! Definitely woke up to a feeling of "What the h*ll?"
I feel rather guilty for not dreaming about my boyfriend. I know it's a perfectly normal thing to have happen, but it still feels a little bit like a betrayal at times.
So, share your experiences! Who's the strangest person to show up in your sex dreams? For those with steady partners, how often do you dream about someone who isn't your partner (compared to dreams about your partner)?


Well about the falling dreams
I've never hit the ground, and it's always off a cliff. I HATE THEM! Sometimes they wake me up from that really good deep sleep feeling.
When I wake up.. I'm never on the verge of falling either.
Adrain Brody... I think he is very attractive! His character in The Pianist.. the piano sounded so wonderful.. beautiful... intriguing... it made me think the same way about him. In order for me to find a man attractive, I have to find their inner beauty first.
i'm not one for celebrity crushes. i find them a bit creepy and invasive of other people's lives. but i do have two that i keep locked up in the ole noggin.
1. adrian brody: i have this weird thing about noses on men.. he just has a classic look about him that i adore.http://raincoaster.files.wordpress.com/2007/02/brody.jpg
http://i30.photobucket.com/albums/c329/Nerdywheezer/adrienbrody0057.jpg
2. jessica alba in her dark angel days. mmmmmmm... :p
http://www.skinz.org/celebrity/jessica-alba/jessica-alba-wallpapers-6.jpg
A man that doesn't think Milla Jovovich is attractive? I'd be inclined to question whether you're legally blind, but then I've honestly never understood what people see in Angelina Jolie, so to each their own I guess. For my money, Milla Jovovich is the best actress EVER. Her mere presence can make even the worst movie totally awesome...
I think we should have a dedicated thread about who the hottest celebrities are...
Interesting question that I have discussed with other women. My partners rarely appear either in dreams or fantasy during sex. And, even though I am bi- and primarily same sex, dreams and fantasies are almost always men.
Those who show up most commonly are those with whom I have come close, or wanted to, but never quite got it done. The "what might have been" relationships. One, in particular, keeps coming back from many years ago. We were classmates in med school; he married and I living with another man. We flirted constantly, chose each other for partners in practicum but never quite got it on.
Strangely, after my fiance's death he has never appeared erotically.
There are occasional weird ones such as you describe and, even, unidentifiables. Other women have told me they feel guilty because family members are sometimes involved. I am not certain that there is any answer to your question because dreams are just that and that random firing of neurons is uncontrollable.
I have had totally random people. Show up....I have had a pornstar show up, and even a guy....which was really weird. Usually, I dream about girls who dont really have faces, just bodies lol.
Like brandye said, here is no way to really control your dreams. (Except I have read some really interesting articles on controlling once your already dreaming) I think the best way to say it is, would you rather dream it or live it? I dont tell my girlfriend about the "others" in dreams, I only tell her of ones involving her. (She has told me it was ok as long as it was a dream)
When I can remember a dream it's never sexual. Don't go into my mind, I don't even want to be there, lol. Bodies, fires, weird things...
Always a person who is a face I do not know; no resemblances. Each I can recall are gorgeous though--nice hunky men with hair. Odd thing is; when I do dream like that--I always "love" the person in my dream, are not a stranger to me, then I wake up and I am a bit confused where he went. Pretty bed when that's the best action your getting! LOL!
Does he have blue eyes, auburn hair and a goatee?.....;)
Guys that have been in my life. Boyfriend at the time, or maybe an ex if they popped into my mind that day. They never really have a face, and the body the guys in my dreams have aren't the ones of which I'm dreaming of... doesn't make sense.. I know it's weird. It's like I know it's "Bob" and I'll call him "Bob".. but it doesn't look like "Bob."
I rarely have a sex dream though, maybe once every 4 months. I usually have odd.. creepy.. scary dreams, mostly about zombies. I know it's childish and they're fake, but they scare the crap out of me!! Definitely my worst fear. Actually had one lastnight.. and yesterday I had one about a re-born Hitler.. but taking over the U.S.
Kind of odd huh?
Sounds normal for me, lol. In fact, my dreams are the reason I don't "sleep" with anyone. I'm not a violent person, but I've been known to wrap my arms around someone a little too tight. She's ok and wasn't actually hurt, but it was a scare. She knew I was asleep by the way I was talking....that not quite speaking, more like mumbling kind of talk.
I think it's just me holding in my anger too much and taking it out in my dreams. Normally I'm more of a pushover type of person, even for my size. A "goes with the flow" type.
[quote=Thresher_V;212244]Does he have blue eyes, auburn hair and a goatee?.....;)[/quote]Cannot recall, LOL! Lack of sleep, sleep deprivation, or if something is disturbing can cause people to "talk" in their sleep. Known to sleep walk as well. Try to explain to your then husband where all the pictures on the wall went through the night! Suddenly, when asked you have a vague thought they might be in a particular closet. It only happened including talking in my sleep, and yes I would answer you carrying on a full dialogue was always linked to extreme exhaustion--working doubles and then going to school & coming in nearly 2-3 days later, so tired you really don't recall. Now if I do the same...I find remainders of ice cream in either the garbage (empty) or put the remainder in the fridge.
I have sex dreams frequently but always did...not daily but mostly about once a month. The odd part; don't know him but I know it was someone I was in love with in my dream. It's never random sex pick ups in dreams. No clue!
Usually, my sex dreams are about people I've slept with, am about to sleep with, or want to sleep with but haven't yet. I don't care much for waking up from those...
And then there are the dreams about hot celebrities that I want to sleep with (Milla Jovovich, Kylie Minogue, and Naomi Watts). They would fall under the "I want to sleep with them but haven't yet" category in case anyone was wondering. But you never know - someday that might change. Hopefully. A boy can dream...
I fell asleep in class and had a sex dream when I was a freshman in high school... that sucked.
Psssh...weird dreams dont compare to some I have. I had a dream I was walking through a restaurent when an alien showed up looking for an electric razor to shave his space ship. Then some guy gave it to him and it was actually a hand (yet it vibrated like a razor) and the alien threw it at a monkey that caused it to blow up...
Strangely enough I never take LSD in my dreams, so I dont know where they come from.
The best part of my sex dreams though....I actaully feel it. Like I can feel the warmth of whichever body part, or the grip of their hands, etc etc. Its pretty amazing. (Of course it sucks when I have a dream when I "dream" I break my finger)
[quote=oedipussy;212248]Usually, my sex dreams are about people I've slept with, am about to sleep with, or want to sleep with but haven't yet. I don't care much for waking up from those...
And then there are the dreams about hot celebrities that I want to sleep with (Milla Jovovich, Kylie Minogue, and Naomi Watts). They would fall under the "I want to sleep with them but haven't yet" category in case anyone was wondering. But you never know - someday that might change. Hopefully. A boy can dream...[/quote]Oedi---not a "boy" you are a man.:)
I always dream Im with Courtney Cox Arquette AKA Monica from friends I have no idea why but my sex dreams she is the partner almost everytime.
[QUOTE=Thresher_V;212246]I'm not a violent person, but I've been known to wrap my arms around someone a little too tight. She's ok and wasn't actually hurt, but it was a scare. She knew I was asleep by the way I was talking....that not quite speaking, more like mumbling kind of talk.
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Sounds kind of fun!! Scary but fun!! I would prob laugh really hard the next morning.
Yes, I am A MAN! Thanks, sera.
I always found Monica to be completely irritating. I'm more of a Rachel kind of guy myself...
I usually have erotic dreams with ex's, women I've had sex with, or dream women. In the case of ex's I've slept with, I always get seduced against my will. It's kind of traumatic, but it's a bit of a guilty pleasure too. Rawr! Also, when I was a much younger I had a lot of dreams about Milla Jovovich's character in "The Fifth Element". I've always been completely infatuated with that character, even though I don't find Milla attractive.
Ducy, I have very trippy, vivid dreams as well. We need to share them sometime. Full blown sensations in dreams are a wonderful thing I agree, especially with sex dreams. However, the deep, primal sensation of fear I had when I was transformed into a hermit crab and an eagle swooped down and stole my shell, was not cool at all. I woke up shaking and was a little twitchy the rest of the day.
Oh! Also have those stupid "falling" dreams! They make me mad.
Yeah, I only have those when I really am falling though, so generally I "snap-to" and realize I'm going to hit the floor/ground in my dream before I wake up with a thud.
Haha I remember I feel asleep on the floor next to my bed. I dreamt I was a navy SEAL and I jumped onto a counter and rolled over it (middle of a fire fight in a cuban drug house lol) and when I hit the ground and in my dream I broke a rib. Then I woke up on the other side of the bed with my chest really tight (couldnt breathe for the first few hours cuz it hurt) lol
Adrian Brody?! I can't stand that guy! His acting just totally annoys me for some reason, and he looks like a space alien wearing human make-up...
As far as Brodies go, I'd take Adam Brody over him any day of the week...
I'm not against the guy, but they could have found someone better for King Kong.
I got suckered into watching that flop in the theatre - it was the most excruciating 3 hours of my life. There was nothing good in that movie at all. Even if it had been a reasonable length it still would have sucked...
Hard to believe it was directed by the same guy that did Dead Alive...
I've had sexual dreams about numerous people...ex's, random strangers (male and female), friends (again male and female), animals (yeah its ****ed up I know :rolleyes:), and a LOT, I'd even say 80% of them now are about my fiancee. I've also had weird dreams when I'm touching myself in them, where some one is indirectly stimulating me to orgasm. :p Oh and do any women besides me wake up feeling wet? Anytime I have an intense or sexual dream I wake up soaking...increased blood flow I guess. I swear I've had female "wet dreams"...
Milla whats her name is the girl from resident evil right (at least those are the pics I found when searching)
I think she is unnatractive oed, and I have almost perfect vision lol. IDK. And angelina Jolie was only hot in the lara croft movies. In everything else she just seems awkward (like everything is disproportionate on her body. Lips are too big for face, head to big for body etc)
Curious I would think that if a guy can get aroused and have an erection from a dream, it would make sense that woman could get wet. Just means that morning sex takes less foreplay lol
Yeah, she was the star of the Resident Evil series. I love those movies - That last one was pretty much the best movie ever made in the history of mankind...
Are you people insane or something? I am totally OFFENDED by the fact that someone would say Milla Jovovich is unattractive. She's the very definition of beautiful. I suppose you guys don't like pizza or money, either...
But you're right on about Angelina being disproprtionate. She's not ugly, just kind of odd looking...
i'm gonna have to go with ducy, oed. she's not that pretty. :confused:
Huh? OK, this isn't funny anymore... What kind of bizarre alternate dimension have I accidentally stepped into? This is just a cruel practical joke, isn't it...? Right? RIGHT?!
Everyone is entitled to their opinion, as crazy as it may be. But here's a picture that I feel proves that I'm the only person who knows what they're talking about:
OK, I feel better now...
meh. she's kind of cute, but if i'm going to have a celebrity crush, they gotta be WAY hotter than that. i mean c'mon, it's a fantasy!
Sigh... I feel like Charleton Heston in The Omega Man - all alone in a world gone crazy...
Yeesh - If Milla is just "kind of cute", what kind of hideous monsters have I been dating? I always considered myself to have exceptionally high standards - I haven't dated any supermodels yet, but a lot of the women I've been involved with have had the same "look". Milla is the perfect example of what I consider attractive...
I'd like to hear who all you Milla haters find WAY hotter than her. Who are your celebrity fantasies?
Haha wow oed. Getting a bit paranoid there. I like the res evil series. But I dont think they are even close to the greatest movies ever. I mean the last one was pretty ok....except for the fact that the ending fight was a piece o' crap. I mean it was done faster than a guy losing his virginity to a pornstar
Oh and for the record, I find girls who are a little thicker to be hot. Or somebody like Whitney Bensfield
but i guess we all have our things. i've got an odd affection for zhang ziyi...
and jake gyllenhaal and mil ventomiglia
To each his own!!! if we were all the same the world would be a very boring place indeed.
sorry here's a pic of zhang ziyi...
Damn chiba, she's now going to be in some of my dreams...
As far as Milla, I'm not a huge fan, but I did love her in The Fifth Element, something about redheads....
Now heres the thing...is that zhang girl born and raised in her home country, or was she raised in america? Cuz lets face it. Nothings worse than an extremely attractive girl who is so sexually repressed that you get more participation from a blow up doll.
Milla is hot. So is Angelina. And Jake and Zhang as well. :p
I think people are beautiful, not just celebrities, and quite often my fiancee and I play the "do you think x is hot?" game when we're out, its great fun.
ducy: i have no idea. wikipedia her or something lol. pretty sure she was in memoirs of a geisha, you might recognize her from that. okay movie, great book!
OK Ducy, I was exaggerating a little bit - I tend to refer to every movie that I really liked as the best movie ever made. The real best movie ever made is actually Zoolander...
I didn't have any problem with the ending of RE: Extinction at all. I thought it made sense, and the whole movie was fast-paced anyway so I didn't really notice. Actually, the ending was the best part - total Milla Jovovich overload! If that's what the next movie is going to be about, then it will definitely be the best movie ever made. Period.
Of course there are beautiful non-celebrity people as well, curious, but if I said I thought the girl at the coffeeshop was the hottest woman ever, no one would know what I was talking about. Everyone knows celebrities though. Oh, and I love playing the "do you think that person is hot?" game...
Oh, and Kylie Minogue is up there as well. She just keeps looking better and better with age:
I like Kylie Minogue as well, she looks like Nicole Kidman (who is hot). She looked so hot in Moulin Rouge.
HANDS DOWN THE HOTTEST GIRL EVER IS
Lela Starr
The adult film star? She looked better before her boob job. I don't know what possessed her to alter them. They were perfect.
IDK if what I have seen is before or after. I cant really post a picture of her cuz well...its obvious lol.
Its kinda sad though cuz most woman seen in tv or movies are unnattractive when they dont have a half gallon of make up on.
I love Resident Evil movies!!! They're freakin awesome!! That's how I developed my fear of zombies. Milla is freakin beautiful!!! She is so hot and her "kick-butt" character in Resident Evil just adds to her beauty! That picture does not justify her, though
Her legs are so perfect!
http://farm2.static.flickr.com/1224/1458764490_286ede387e.jpg?v=0
Kylie... the whole bones popping out of her chest... a little gross.
I agree, Zoolander is the best movie ever made.
If you look through a magazine of celebrities w/out make up, it's pretty traumatizing. Have any of you seen Eva Longoria without make up? I did, I'm scarred for life.
[QUOTE=gorgeous_mistake;212798] Have any of you seen Eva Longoria without make up? I did, I'm scarred for life.[/QUOTE]
I haven't, but she sure is hot with it :D.
Wow - There's another person in this world that actually liked Zoolander? I thought I was the only one... Everyone I know thinks I'm an idiot for finding that movie totally hilarious.
Milla is probably the coolest chick alive. She's got beauty AND brains, and she could probably kick my ass, too. And she's actually a talented musician as well - Seriously. She writes her own music, sings, and plays the guitar. I wonder if there's anything she CAN'T do?
Her "hit" single - beautiful song
Milla playing the guitar and singing on Carson Daly - weird in a totally awesome way. Takes some serious balls to howl like that in front of people...
I love how she does her own thing and doesn't seem to give a **** if people think she's insane. She really doesn't get the credit she deserves... You can keep your porno stars, Ducy - I prefer strong, smart, talented women with awesome personalities!
Yeah, wasn't Kylie the green fairy thing in that movie? I personally thought it was terrible. Must be a girl thing... She was in the equally awful Bio-Dome, too. As far as the "bones popping out of her chest", she's a really tiny woman. I saw her once in person a long time ago and she's like 5 foot nothing at best. She's not morbidly skinny, just small. I couldn't imagine her being any "meatier" than she is - it just wouldn't look right.
It's funny, usually I dream about girls and being very dominant with them. They are usually faceless and subject to whatever the hell I want sexually.
However, I had a sex dream about a guy once, and I was the submissive one.
Weird, huh?
I think I have ya beat (not that this is a competition, sorry heh). I had a dream that while on my quest to track down my old high school buddy and stop his binge drinking/alcoholism, I mysteriously turned into a girl and one of my college buddies fingered me in one of the hallways in my 6th grade school. The strangest part was, I felt it. Thinking about it creeps me out because I feel like I don't know myself or something. I'm a firm believer that dreams are symbolic, and I don't know what that dream means.
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